So I've found myself between a rock and a hard place lately, because my girlfriend hates her job, doesn't make good money, and has recently gotten an offer from one of her friends to work in an 'upscale' strip club as a server. Keyword is server, not stripper, they wear short black shorts, which I'm sure some cheek hangs out, and black corsets that show a little bit of stomach and the top part of the tata's/shoulders exposed. This supposedly is one of the nicer strip clubs here in my town, and the girls are said to make good money. My real problem with it is that I hate the mentality of the people that are constantly flocking to these places. I already know as a bartender that drunks are drooling over her as she bends down to get them another beer, but at a place like this sex is thrown in their face, and god knows how far they might try to push it. My other main problem is the influx of drugs through a place like this, I don't want her to be around the constant circulation of cocaine. So, am I being a jealous prick, or would you not want your girlfriend work as a server in a strip club either?
Fuck that. Strip clubs are dens of inequity. Guys are going to be trying to pick her up ALL the time. Strippers make mad cash, $100-1000 a night. And i have known several girls who stripped who ALWAYS did extra favors for more cash. It is pretty hard for some women to turn down $500 bucks for sex, let alone $1000-2000 that some guys (especially in L.A.) will shed out in a heart beat. Because they make that much money in a matter of hours in a day. Guys at strip clubs ALWAYS ask girls for more. ALWAYS. And many girls give it up. How can you not be excited taking your clothes off and shaking your stuff inches away from guys faces hypnotized. Fools and their money are easily parted.
i dont think so, tim. if shes already bartending, then how much more money could she possibly make as a server? this would probably eventually lead to her wanting to become a stripper.
Right, and I'm completely aware of the guys that whisper to her that they'd give her more money to go do the nasty. I'll give my girl more credit than anyone else though, I know she wouldn't. Sounds slightly like denial, but my girlfriend just isn't that type of person. She's money driven, but works for her money, doesn't sleep for it, wouldn't sleep for drugs, just not that kind of person. Although strippers work that category incredibly well, I said she'd be serving, not stripping. She's not confident enough in her body to strip, and that's why she'd simply be doing what she knows. Alot more money. The place she is currently employed at splits tips evenly, even the bartender has to share with the servers. As I just told Chick, she'd never become a stripper because of her lack of self confidence in aspects of her body.
Careful. Never put anything past a person doing, and you won't be let down. Money corrupts like you would not believe. People take lives over it, let alone have sex for it. Good luck!
No man. Sounds nothing like denial. Sounds like love and trust. The 2 things that are most important in a relationship, IMO. I think it's awesome you trust your girlfriend. I feel the same about mine. It's other people i don't trust. And whether it be an upmarket strip club or a shit whole strip club i wouldn't be comfortable with my Girlfriend being in that environment.
That's exactly how I feel. It's just like when some parents worry about their kids driving, it's not their kids they don't have faith in, it's the other drivers that might hit their kids. One thing that does make me feel good is what a bad ass my girlfriend is capable of being, if some guy were to smack her ass she'd leave a bruise from hell for a week before getting him thrown out of the club. I worry more about some pervert that might try and grab her at the end of the night on the way to the car. People get drunk and do stupid stuff all the time, just yesterday on the news was some guy who fired off ten shots because he was in traffic on the freeway drunk.
Is the extra cash worth the extra stress you'll be going through? Money is nice but it's not everything. And is she going to like this job any better or is it just the money? If you're still undecided, why not go check the joint out with your girl. Go as customers. It might give you a feel for the place and make your decision a little easier.
Hm, if I really cared about my boyfriend I wouldnt even want to put myself in a little ho outfit to serve perverts, drunks, or whatever kind of weird crowd that attend strip clubs. Even if my boyfriend did not care that I got a job like that, I still would not want to do it even if it was good cash. I'd rather be the girl that just grows and sells bud as a job. But if you trust her, then maybe she should take the job if she REALLY needs the money.
In total and complete honesty, if my girl was just a waitress at a strip club, I would be OK with it. I may not be 'HAPPY' about it, but you know what, if you can totally and completely trust her, it's just another job where's she's going to bank! And I dunno where you guys are, but there are bouncers at the strip joints around my parts, and if ANY dude try's to touch one of the ladies without their permission..... Something bad is going to happen to them! All it takes is a look from her to the bouncer and that problem should be taken care of.....
I agree with this 100% especially the bold part. You've already said you love and trust her so that shouldn't be the issue. But I do think that love and trust will be tested if she get's the job, which imo is a good thing because at the end of the day you both should realize how much more important you are to each other. The part about being worried about people in the parking lot....well tbh that could happen to her now when she's working at a bar. It could happen anywhere she works, it's just life. I would think if it was a nice up-scale strip club the chances are very slim, seeing how they are very well lit and around here there is always a bouncer outside and security cameras all around the building. You sound like you really trust this girl so ultimately it's going to have to be a decision split down the middle. Sit down and have a serious talk about all of your concerns with her, and let her explain herself as well. A job is a job and as long as at the end of the night you both can come home and truly be happy with each other that's all the matters.
let her do it if you completely trust her, and if she is the girl you describe, she will quit if she does not like it and really thinks she is jeopardizing herself or your relationship. ...plus she will be wearing that sexy little outfit every night when she comes home
Here's an IF. Tyke you suggested that I go check out the club with her and see if I can get a feel for the place. We've actually already had this discussion, and decided that before she got the job it would be cool for us to go together and hang out for an afternoon. Not only so I could get a feel for it, but so she could see what she'd be dealing with on a regular basis. What if she were to go and work a night to see how she liked it before we were able to go together, and didn't mention to me that she went to do it? What tables would this turn for you?
if she went and didn't tell you, then that's mistrust right there and I'd say no about the whole deal.
I have a friend/acquaintance that works in a strip club as a waitress.. guys offer her tips/money for little lap dances nightly and the owner encourages it. Then again, at one strip club I visited they made sure all other cars/customer cars were cleared out of the lot (kicked us out) before the security guys escorted the girls to their cars. Make sure it's a decent place.
I assume that the vast majority of the guys at strip clubs would be focused on the naked girls shoving their asses in their face, rather than a (somewhat) clothed server, so I don't think you'd have to worry too much about guys trying to hit on her. Like the previous poster said, as far as I know, bouncers at strip clubs are hardcore dudes and very protective of the ladies. If there's a guy being inappropriate, they'll kick the guy out without question.
That may be true, but behind every girl that is that type of person is a boyfriend that was 100% sure she wasn't. A money-driven person that wants to work for her money should have no problem finding work outside of a strip club. A bad place for a money-driven girlfriend to be working is in a building full of strippers making a shitload more money than her. That can change. A combination of seeing the money and occasionally noticing things like "hey, I look better than her" has turned plenty of I'd-never-be-a-strippers into strippers. A girl that truly hates the idea of being a stripper wouldn't want to work at a strip club. And a girl that doesn't think she could be a stripper wouldn't wear what you said she'd be wearing in a room full of horny drunks. She will also get more comfortable with the idea after working there awhile. Getting to know other girls, fitting in, feeling safe around bouncers, etc... It's your call, though. Maybe this will be the first story that starts with "So, my girlfriend is working at a strip club..." and ends with "... and we all lived happily ever after."