Where are all the worthwhile girls?

They're there, but it's just like trying to find a needle in a haystack.

 

Sounds like you need to hang out with different people.

 

Well, depends on where you are from and who you know really. I lived in a small town and recently moved to one of the bigger cities in my state and it was crazy how I went from being a big fish in a small pond to being a tiny insignificant plankton.

There are kids in my hometown I got along with, we all listened to obscure music, the same type of film and literature buffs. Same humor. We were always talking about the insignificance of money in our lives over all because we were all art majors. There are people like that in a small place, but...It's who you know if you will get around to actually knowing someone.

Moving to Morgantown...I feel just like another girl. Back home, I was really cute and interesting...the girl who could always tell a story and had a very eclectic music taste, a decent conversationalist...Now, there's a ton of them around me. Interesting worthwhile girls with some depth. GORGEOUS girls too...sooo pretty! They're mixed in with a lot of hoes and baby hookers who are easily identified and easily avoided.

There are definitely places with more opportunity but honestly, it's all about what happens naturally anyway and I made some big connections with some pretty special people in a relatively small place. It's just differences in experience I suppose

 

Haha, I know how you feel. Theres a lot of douche bags in the world.

 

Ahh this sums up my huge rambling section

I'm sooo high

hehe

 

Honestly, they usually move to the city. Not always the case, but lets face it, population density and beautiful women, damn dude, go to Chicago

 

be careful what exactly you wish for.

rant about psychotic ex:
I thought I found a girl like this, she was/is extremely intelligent and interesting to talk to. she despised lady gaga, and the shitty genaric pop music as much as I do. she had the same attitude towards psychedelics that I do. on the surface, we were perfect for eachother.
as our relationship progressed, and we got to know eachother more, critical differences emerged, on more than a weekly basis, we would have horrible fights. many of our core values didn't match up, our attitudes towards suexuality, a lot of our political and spiritual beliefs, just weren't compatable.
now looking back, these issues were painfully obvious, but she was also extermely manipulative and controlling, she was absolutely obsessed with me, and she could put together logically flawless arguements. she won every fight that wasn't about our relationship. regardless, she was in complete control in the relationship, and she pretty much turned me into her puppet, in 3 months. she was so good at the manipulation and control, that I don't even think she knew she was doing it.
She was also bipolar, so basically I let a crazy person completely take control of my life.
she pretty much had me convinced that I couldn't live without her.
at that stage (only 3 months in) she did me a MASSIVE favor; she left me for another man.
immediately after that was the worst few days of my life. than when I had time to reflect on what happened, and a talk with a friend who dated her in the past, I truely realized how horrible that relationship really was.
She left me 2 weeks ago, and because of this time I had to get back to my own reality, I realized that she really wasn't what I wanted, ever.
now, I'm pretty much back to where I was before I met her. /end rant
I guess everyone needs to experience something like this first hand, because I really did learn a lot about who I was.


now my example is far from ideal but on the surface, everything looked perfect.

/the point
I completely understand where you're coming from, it seems like every girl is trying to fit this fucked up stupid, anorexic whore model that pop culture throws out. I've met some girls that are "just trying to fit in" who really aren't that kind of person at all, but to really see that, you basically need to put yourself well in the friend zone, so there is no hope of ever dating someone who is pretending to fit into pop cultures' mold, but honestly, no matter how interesting or smart they are, I don't want to date a sheep.

I honestly wish I knew where I could go to meet awesome intelligent not insane women who are willing to show who they are. what guys like us need to do is to try to find a woman through the things that interest us. If you go to the club, you're going to find extremely genaric superficial club sluts, If you go to an art show, you're going to find slightly more intelligent artist types, If you go to a car show, you're going to meet women with somewhat masculine personalities, ect
just do the things you like, be social, and eventually you will find someone who fits with you. I'm falling back on this method now that I'm single again.

 

Word, word, word, word, word, and....WORD.

 

You need to find yourself a nice intellectual hippie chick my friend.

My girlfriend before last was a really intelligent, intellectual, sophisticated, kind and generous stoner hippie chick who had awesome musical taste and I'm pretty sure she might have been my one love.

 

Look harder, you'll know when you find one.
Hoes are like munchies to snack on when you get hungry, Women are like 3 course meals.

 

I was in the same position as you untill i moved to Philly for college.. Now the numbers keep adding up life is good man, its gooood..

 

haha couldnt have said it better.

 

I doubt any more of the female population of the generation you're referring to has been "lost to MTV" than the male percentage. If you don't like who you hang out with, and you feel you're stuck with them, then it's your own damn fault you don't connect with any of the girls in the group. Stop blaming circumstance and women for your problems and change your situation.

The girl you're describing is sitting in a local fair-trade coffee shop right now, with a notebook, a novel and tea, wearing something slightly unflattering to her figure. Go there now; you'll see five of them.

No, it's not. There are hordes of these girls. You just need to look in the right places. University is a good place to start.

 

I have them all in the back, if you want to browse it's fiddy bills, if you want one we can discuss that lata

 

I would suggest sitting down and make a list of your most dear and important things you are passionate about. Pick the top 3 and then go do something related. Star-gazing: go to a stargazing gathering, they happen all the time, music: maybe a concert or musical festival that features your favorite music or band, down to earth financially: discount store or yard sales, philosophical: some type of think tank gathering, etc and then just be yourself. Enjoy yourself and your passions and you will meet a woman who appreciates it. My passion was my son and kids in general, and I met my wife as a direct result of her watching me with kids. I wish you luck and happiness.

 

Kentucky definitely isn't a state I've considered moving to and now I know why! He could've gotten arrested for drunk riding here. I've seen it done once.

Ok, let's see. Star gazing is still a possibility,yard sales or discount store, and just be yourself. You might consider moving to an area that is more.....socially comfortable for you. I'm in central Cali and you can find every type from a-z within 1 hour of home.