I'm finding people's (generally my friends and myself) inability to remain genuine to each other through the use of drugs. As in, a healthy relationship that creates a strong communicative connection between the two individuals has nothing to do with drugs, because drugs act as a poison being injected into the blood stream which only causes it to be circulated round and round). I say this purely from experience, and although my experiences are not the same as anyone else's, I have found that to be pertaining to all my other friend's experiences as well. The reason I find this the case is simple, when you are friends with someone because of a drug, which many stoners seem to find themselves in the case of, the relationship with the others is almost to an extent impure and hurtful. That when a relationship is based off a drug and getting high, the relationship is automatically, to me at least, considered a unhealthy one. Having a relationship be substance oriented, the two, although communicating while high, never seem to build a framework of their relationship, never seem to progress past the point of getting high. I cannot see the positives outweighing the negatives in terms of social use when it comes to marijuana. All the relationships I have built off of the drug I now no longer choose to hangout with simply because the connection was never pure, we reached a dead end through our drug use together. To me at least, taking drugs in a social context is not only intruding on the capability to get to know someone, but it has you get to know someone who isn't who that someone is. In this case, alcohol sort of masks who people are and creates a fake environment for people to roam about and pretend to give a shit who all the strangers they find themselves surrounded by are. A fallacy, a fluke, an ignorant masquerade, to me anyways. Now, I also feel like taking a lot of drugs not only diminshes your personality to an extent, but it twists you into someone you'd hate yourself become. Whether there are gains or losses when taking drugs is irrelevant, I'm talking purely on a relationship level, whether they are something that can get in between people and create that sense of seperation which causes the closeness to seem distance, or if it in fact moves the couple or group closer together. Now think about it, think about all the relationships you have built over the years and see which ones became the strongest and which ones became the weakest. Try to pinpoint the factors involved in the strongest and the factors in the weakest and see if it matches up with my thesis. See if drugs truly ruin relationships, or if they only make them stronger. I'm curious to know myself, but I feel like the answer is that it is entirely situational.