[quote name='"harley19"']Quick update for you guys; I couldn't go & see her, she says she's busy tonight. I really wanted to just get it off my chest, and I seemed really collected at the time, so I ended up calling her to discuss it. Me: Honestly, I'm just kind of rattled how you say you love me, and you're faithful, yet you still talk to guys on the side who ask to see you naked. I'm pretty sure if it was flipped and I sent a picture of myself to some girl, kept taking to her.. and she keeps asking me for more pictures while I'm dating you, you'd be pissed off. I mean, even me talking to ****, my FRIEND, pisses you off. It's such a double standard. Her: Wow, okay. I don't need this right now. Bye. *click* I kind of worded that harshly, and I came off as a dick. It's whatever though, if that's how she plans on fixing problems, it's for the best.[/quote] I don't think you were harsh at all. You worded it like a mature adult. I wouldn't stick around for this girl. She didn't even wanna talk about it and just hung up? This chick is like 14. Don't get involved with that shit OP. She sounds like trouble.
You did not tell us that before... So you can't talk to your friend (who I am assuming is a girl) yet she can talk to this guy who she sent naked pictures to and who is still asking for them? I see a terrible heartbreak in the future if you stay with this girl man.
Stick with her. You need to feel the burn, so that you avoid it in the future. But if you want to hear from people with experience, get OUT. She showed you red flags from week 2, week 2! Be glad, some girls lie and you won't know about her behaviors until year later when emotional connection is already established. A man would leave instantly. A man.
I didn't think it was important at the time. Let me re-phrase; I can't talk about her, or hang out with her without my girlfriend getting jealous & upset. Another quick update: Since she hung up, she decided to text me. I'm just not going to reply, but here's how it went.. Her: Also, just saying, I DON'T TALK TO ANY OTHER GUYS BUT YOU & ****. (Somebody different, actually one of my good buddy's.) like I've said 2 times now@ So whatever, peace. Her: Thanks for making me cry Yeah. This is ridiculous.. I don't even think she grasps the concept of why I'm angry at all..
This is very confusingly helpful advice. I care for her, but I certainly don't love her. Nowhere close.
[quote name='"SoloG35"']Sounds like fucking hell. Dropping the big L not even a month in? Get out Talking to an ex that is still trying to be physical? Get out A naked picture of your girl floating around? Your call I was the 'ex' you speak of when I was in middle school. I had a girl who was GORGEOUS. Now I know that is a hard stretch imagining a 16 year old SUPER bad chick but, trust me, she was THAT bad. Anywho, I would have her send me pics all the time, even after we split; and pics weren't the only thing I was getting. If he is STILL asking for pics, it is because she is giving him a reason to. Stand up, man. Don't take shit lying down. I too understand the past is the past but, it doesn't sound like she is leaving the past in the past; if you know what I mean.[/quote] This guy nailed it in he dick hole
Sorry for the confusion, I'm strange at explaining things. If you want to risk it, stay with her. But a real man knows that's bullshit, and it's sad that weak men give these women ANY attention. No wonder men get no respect.
Dump the bitch, I'd bet my next months worth of pay that she's physically fucking around still with this dude, the pics are a No-No enough. Dump her, save yourself the frustration and heartache that others in this thread have experienced. If you don't I will reach through the internet and slap the fucking shit out of you
Well, it seems like you've gotten your answer from her, not from us. She's being extremely immature, and if she does actually understand what she's doing wrong, then she just doesn't care. I wouldn't waste any more time on her if I were you.
OP, it all depends on what kind of picture we're talking about. Are we talking about artistic photograph with nudity, or are we talking about hardcore porn material?
From how she handled your phone call, in addition to the other things you've mentioned.. like every other serious poster in this thread, I encourage you to gtfo.
The underlined part, was completely unnecessary... especially the bolded part. She really didn't need that. Not then, not now, or later, not ever.
OP, this is true. You'll learn as you go along, but the best way to handle your issues is to lay out what's bothering you without directly accusing the other person of anything. Don't give them any reason to get defensive. It's not constructive, and you won't solve anything because you'll be too busy fighting.
Tell her to quit being a bitch and suck on your shlong. Nah but for real man, the only problem I see here is that there aren't any blowjobs.
Real talk But seriously, this girl sounds awefull man. Move on to someone that you connect with on a personal level.
Agreed. It was an in the heat of, regret afterwards type of thing. I realize it was equally immature, and pretty much added nothing constructive but an "I told you so". Anyways, she ended up asking me to come over. We talked it out, she explained how she was sorry, understood where I'm coming from, and explained how she told the guy she can't be friends with him anymore. Problem solved I suppose?