SEx before Marriage

makes sense to me.....

 

I agree. You gotta take the car out for a test drive before you buy it.

 

this post made me laff!! but yes, i too agree.....has ne one been propsed to durring sex before? and who thinks that its TOTALLY the wrong time??

 

preach!

 

heres one that might blow your mind some.

you can't have sex before marriage until you are married. and after your married you can never have sex before marriage again. unless you get a divorce of course.

 

What is and is not morally responsible is defined by a person, not by culture. If you adhered to what culture defined as morally responsible would you smoke pot? Individuals decide what is or is not morally responsible.

 

I agree... Gotta have a little bump and grind before you get hitched incase its shit! Bad sex partner is the worst......

 

its probably better if u wait...but who knows nowadays.


and no good sex doesnt have to be key to a good relationships, i know many girls i could have great sex with but the annoy the fuck out of me when they speak.



but since the 60s or so no one haas a clue what its like to wait, this is a relitivly new thing man

 

People have sex after they get married ???

 

In my personal opinion, it's all related to you and your partner's beliefs, in that you shouldn't set guidelines for something in a church context one way or the other without letting yourself decide. If you and your wife or husband decide you want to abstain until you're married, have at at, but there is absolutely nothing wrong with sex before marriage if your beliefs don't condemn it.

That out of the way, I could be considered a heathen to most western religions at this point, so I'm not really concerned.

 

In my opinion...
Not having sex before marriage (if you ever plan to get married - some people genuinly don't because bad family experiences), is quite a bad thing. Imagine that you meet your perfect girl, and you never had sex before.
You're getting married to her somehow, because she's not so lucky as you. Let's say that she didn't have sex before as well (but it doesn't really matter in this case).
You have sex.
If it's good, it's good. If it's not, it's not. You can't really say. Even if it's good, and you are completely satisfied and happy with it (let's say that it even blows your mind) you're starting to wonder how it would be with someone else... Pure curiosity.
If it's bad, you think the same.
Because you finally had sex, you don't glorify it so much, as before, because you see, that it's not exacty like in the books or the movies (unless you're a natural talent, then porn movies you'll match, maybe ;]).
But you don't have any previous experience to relate to, and you're wondering if other girls are the same, or have something else to offer.
This will ruin the relationship, because it'll become you're obsession. The same with the girl.
How many of you after having first sex/first girlfriend started to think about a different one, even though, that you still had strong feelings to the first one?
This way not having sex before, or not having any sexual experience before marriage, can ruin something that could end as a perfect marriage for years.
Of course there may be exeptions.
But it's hard to not think about sex in todays world, where everything and everyone is bombed with it.
In the old days, it was possible - look at our grandparents - I'm sure that they had friends that spent all their lives with each other only.

Conclusion: no sex before marriage at all - no chance for succesfull marriage. No sex with that person - a lottery.

 

Two things I have come to realise:
1) Almost all of the people who are overtly religious with this leading to no sex before marriage get married young- unless they're ugly as sin- in which case they end up lonely spinsters.

2) If there is a god (I believe there is but I don't "belong" to any specific religion) then why, in a world where there has always been and is so much HATE and DEATH and SUFFERING, why would that god give a flying FUCK what two people do with no harm to ANYONE.

But then what do I know- I'm just another dude.

 

ok here is the dealio, it is critical for you to have sex BEFORE marriage.

think of it like this: you know when you were a virgin, i know so long ago for many of you but please try and remember. so think about when you were a virgin, now for some of you who have a little class, you would be like well i want to have sex but i want it to be great and not just some fuck and then see you later. i want it to atleast mean something.

well thats how a lot of chicks are. they want it to be special cuz its their precious gully holes they are giving away right. so say they end up going to school, join the drama club or the AV clubs or whatever, and they never get laid cuz they arent looking and they arent trying to find that right person, they are just focused on doing what mommy and daddy want, which is finish school and get on with your life.

so they go on to college and they are already a sophomore and still no layaway on that nice serta matress in the back.

well then they end up getting married to some deusche bag that treats her like a queen but when she makes the mistake of giving up her virginity to this fuckhead he starts treating her like shit. and now she is stuck in a hell hole of a marriage where she ends up shooting herself in the head cuz she has no way out.


this all could have been avoided by losing your virginity in highschool. basically get your heart broken early and learn your lessons as to who to look out for and how to treat others so they treat you the same back and thus you have good connections with people and you end up getting married to someone worth a damn.


it all comes down to sex everyone. as soon as the sex is on the table shit starts getting complicated and you want to see if the relationship will withstand through that torment.

 

QFT right there