first of all, let me say that i'm a mom of two small kids, on a tight budget, so i'm using what i have and what i can afford, which is next to nothing. i don't want fancy gardening tips, a big yield, etc. just a nice, little, healthy plant that mama can manage. okay, here's my story. i've never grown anything before, not a fern or a tomato or a bean or anything. husband bought me a clone, which i planted in a 6"pot, it flowered, got massive spider mites, i sprayed chemicals, everything died, end of story. this was earlier this year. at some point during the death of my first plant, my husband planted a random unknown seed in the same pot, unknown to me. it sprouted, and started growing very well. i have no idea when it sprouted, because i didn't even know the sucker was in there. therefore, i have no clue how old it is. at the very least, 12 weeks old. 17" high. anyway, i moved it to a bigger pot, which it's in now. 12" round, maybe 3 gallons? it got spider mites again when it was young, and i managed to get rid of them by clipping off some infested leaves (the plant didn't like that very much), washing the plant with a microscopic amount of dish soap every couple days. i have continued this regimen, and it's working. i wash down the leaves, careful to keep most of the soap out of the soil. i let it sit for the day, and then rinse it. i also started feeding it miracle grow 20-20-20 a few weeks ago. it's all i have. i've never grown anything, so i was feeding it weekly, and watering it weekly. misting it every couple days. for the past two weeks, it's been over 90 degrees here (over 100 this week), and i've left the poor girl outside all day long, forgetting to water her a couple times. (I'm in southern california by the way, inland empire, desert climate). those are all the issues so far. now her leaves are yellowing, starting at the bottom of the plant. new leaves come in healthy, then yellow as they grow. based on reading, it appears to be an N deficiency. so, my questions are: 1--it's so hot and dry, should i be misting her constantly? i don't know if i'm over/under watering. 2--how often should i add nutrients? if i'm always washing and misting, don't they wash off? should i just add a teeny bit of nutes to every misting bottle? 3--i have a 1/4 gallon misting sprayer, and adding 1 tsp of miracle grow. too much? too little? i have started bringing her inside the house at 9am and putting her beside a window that gets constant sunshine. that way she is getting sunlight, but not so harshly. she is also in front of a swamp cooler, so that will help her get moisture and a breeze. i will put her back out around 5pm to get evening sun. also, the other plants in the picture are some random beans that my kid decided to plant. i'm going to remove them, but they are looking pretty good! p.s. remember i am a patient who is a mother growing in a small container, one plant, in the back yard. i don't need maximum yield or anything like that. just want a little smoke and make some tonics.