Basically, to cut a long story short, i would like some advice on how i'm feeling - and how to get over and move on - about my ex girlfriend. I've been going out with a girl for 2 years now, and it's been amazing (or so it seems in hindsight now) and everything seemed to be going strong until about 3 weeks ago. We had plans to go travelling around Asia during this summer, and basically took a year out before university for the sole purpose of going. I've been working straight for 8 months trying to save up enough money to go and had finally saved up enough to be go and then my girlfriend drops the bombshell on me - she didn't want to go anymore. There were a lot of complications surrounding the trip - one being that Thailand is having problems at the moment and that was where she really wanted to go. Also i think the pressure of being away from home and trying to explore Asia over 7 countries in 10 weeks just became too much for her. We had also been having a lot of arguments leading up to it and she said she didn't want to go away together with the possible conclusion of one of us having to come home early and the trip being a waste of money. Anyway, in the end she told me all this, we talked for ages and ended up breaking up in tears. The next day we had crisis talks and got back together briefly before splitting again without really giving the relationship any chance to progress or try and fix it - this could of been because at this point we were still going to go travelling. Now we are both staying home for the summer together and have been texting - i was hoping that maybe this would lead to more - but she has made it pretty clear she wants it to be over and she wants to get over me in time to go to uni....which we are going to the same one together. So at the moment, we work at the same supermarket, we have the same group of friends (which has obviously split in half) and we will end up going to the same uni in a couple of months time. She wants us to move on and i'm finding this very hard to get my head round losing someone so special to me, especially as it all seems so sudden. I can't escape her either, there are just constant reminders of her everywhere and this increases the difficulty. What i find the hardest at the moment is how at first we were both really obviously upset and down, but now she seems to be fine about the whole thing while i feel really depressed by it. She has told me she didn't think the relationship was right for a while and that's one of the worst things for anyone to hear, especially when you were so close to the person. Also, today i've discovered she's being texting someone (a good mate) at work chatting and getting advice etc who i've always had a suspicion she liked - he assures me that he is just keeping her company and giving her advice (and i trust him because he has a girl on the go at the moment and have seen how close they're getting, but at the end of the day he is known as a playa and while he might not like her i think she likes him). So basically i still want to be with her, she seems to of moved on almost instantly and i'm left feeling like shit. I know there are more fish in the sea, that i will meet loads of people at uni and that your first love is always the hardest to get over, but i just never imagined it would be this sucky. What do you guys think i should do? how do i get over her? start dating again? chill and toke with pals until i go uni? and how do i escape her and keep her out of my mind until then? Thanks for all advice! please don't just post the obvious or anything negative and non-constructive. I know this is a weed forum, but you guys are obviously the best people to ask because being high expands your horizons and hoping to get the most down to earth and honest advice Also, this thread could probably be used for others if they want.