Long distance relationship

id say go single for a year. dude shes around italian guys for a year

 

a person can change a lot in a year, especially around new and different surroundings. she might not be the same person that left, but best of luck. honesty is key!

 

take the year off dude.
 
if shes in italy, theres going to be alot of pressure on both of you about what the other is doing, or if theyre keeping things from you.
 
take the year off, and pick back up where you left off when she gets back. save yourself the stress

 

Well
Last year my gf was in high school and I was starting my freshman year in uni. We long distanced the whole year, didnt see her for 4 months after I left at first. That was really hard. Before I left, we agreed to have a long-distance open relationship (we had only been dating for 4 months before I left). Well, right after I left she told me she was in love with me but I had all sorts of issues with allowing myself to be in love with her (although I knew it at the time). I hooked up with a few girls until October, she didnt hook up with anyone. Come October, we decided to no longer make it open. I knew that I was in love with her and that she was irreplaceable. We saw each other for winter break, that was fantastic. We facetimed almost everyday during the first 4 months of LDR and sent a few letters. After winter break, however, things changed a lot. All of a sudden we were really serious about each other. We started discussing our goals and dreams as we always had, but we were talking about OUR goals and dreams, together. We facetimed everyday after winter break and after a couple weeks I realized that she was the one for me.

We continued talking on FaceTime and sending letters all of winter until I saw her for spring break, it was even better than the previous summer and winter break. Until summer came we kept doing the same thing we had been doing, it was working for us. She got into a university in the Midwest, and I was planning to come back to my canadian university because I didn't know what else to do. We basically lived together all summer, it was amazing, how perfectly compatible we are is a gift, even when we rarely fight, in its own way, its perfect. when it was time to part ways again and go LDR after 4.5 months, it was horribly difficult. Horribly difficult. I felt dead inside for weeks afterwards. I visited her overnight on my way up to Canada, and we have been facetiming everyday and I sent her a care package of really personal items she has attachments to, that we have attachments to. She came for 8 days in mid October and we never left each other's side practically.

A little before she came up and during her time here we really planned out where we are gonna go together, because long distance sucks, frankly. She doesn't like her university and is transferring to one back home, and although I like my university, it doesn't offer the program I want to go into, so I need to transfer to the same one back home as well. Originally we were both going to do it at the end of this year, but her school is so intolerable (not getting into why) she is doing it at the end of this semester. We are going to be done with ldr come may, and actually able to live together and have lives together. We still have a number of visits this year, winter break, v-day, my spring break, and her spring break, and every step is that much closer to that last first hello (which btw the first kisses are the most amazing thing).

What we do to get through it is be honest with each other, discuss our days, aggravations, happiness, us, the future, sometimes past memories, text all day about current things, watch movies and TV over FaceTime, and check in with each other and us as a whole occasionally. Oh, and facetime sex. Mostly, we try and make the distance an illusion, keep our relationship healthy and functioning. It wouldn't be possible without FaceTime, just something about seeing your SO...

So buddy, it takes a lot of effort, and you have to be serious about this girl. Where are you two going, together, in life?

 

Those italian dudes can seduce anyone! Sorry man.

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