I'm thinking that you'd better start saying it to THEM... It could just be me and the fact that I don't know how to make a first move The only way this is ever going to change then is if you figure out this "first move" deal... "My league of good looks" "Model quality people" Perhaps this better than thou attitude isn't helping either? No offense - just sayin... J
Because you're black?? LOL. I lost my virginity last year at 22 still with him. It's whatever. Too much emphasis or false importance on the shit. I didn't get rejected. I was just a complete hermit with a list of wonderful insecuritiesssss And just an FYI maybe it's where you are from. I'm from the south and people just don't say that kind of shit to other people, so hearing that it's because you're black will definitely be surprising to some.
It might be surprising to some but racism is the backbone of some peoples lives. Yeah I guess growing up a black male in an all white neighborhood is just too wealthy for my tastes. No matter what the skin tone money makes us all look like dollar signs. Absence of $$ and I'm just another nigger over here. My holier than thou attitude is warranted, because I earned my position in society and 5-0 won't seem to let me forget. Not trying to be a victim...it just feels as though I'm being scapegoated into sexual crucifixion because I'm a leper or some god damn shit. As far as my anxiety I actually DO pass up model babes on the beach and I just have ZERO confidence in my extremely empty wallet and 0/20 or so girls I have asked out in a direct way. Maybe nobody else experiences rejection but I'm sick and tired of the materialistic nature of people these days. I would rather at this point conserve my virginity and watch humanity crumble as I escape the next black death transmitted through the next Zika virus outbteak. You can say I'm a pessimist but if girls keep friendzoning me I'm volunteering to take Tesla's voyage to Mars...ALONE Oh yeah so I live in L.A. so if I wear the wrong color on any day I could end up dead just because of racist politics called banging, which is another absurd outdated concept that happens to no black male, ever.
Oh ok. My sister is out in California for school and she HATES IT. We are upper class and in Houston, everyone lives in the rich neighborhoods, Mexicans, old white people, and black people. Maybe you should change your scene. I also think when you said some people are afraid of model type men and their sexual requirements. I'd agree lol. It may seem scary to some, Or they think they just aren't good enough, when in reality you aren't experienced either. An empty wallet doesn't always matter, it depends on the type of woman you're going for. And in L.A I would assume the worst. At your age any monetary excuse will kind of be looked upon as laziness. Which isn't fair. My boyfriend is 32 and is still figuring out. I'm 22 and make twice as much as him. You just have to find you're person. Who knows what age you'll be. If you're only looking for some sexing to boost your confidence and throw the virginity out the window, make a bit of money and higher a nice classy escort and let her take ur troubles away lol. Good luck.
You've gotta understand that I'm not trying to be an asshole. A bit blunt maybe but not trying to be a dick. If I was 28, hadn't had a job in a few years and an empty wallet chances are 99.99% that I'd be feeling pretty negatively about picking up girls, asking girls out etc - all the while knowing I couldn't afford to even take them out somewhere nice. I'll about guarantee that this is half or more of the problem in your head - always feeling bad about the situation. I don't know you or your own situation but I do know that no matter who you are feeling good about yourself is most of the battle. It may not even come down to having the cash to take girls out but again, just knowing that you can - or not - in your own head is a big deal. I think if you do something to change your situation so that you're feeling better about yourself directly relates to your wallet and inevitably talking to girls. I'm not saying you've gotta be rich but man you've gotta have a few bucks in your pocket even if you get a part time gig somewhere. My own daughter waits tables while going to nursing school and does great at it - and my older brother worked two full time jobs to come out with a masters in computer science and IT tech - so yeah it sucks working AND going to school but you've gotta do what you've gotta do. Zero income plain ol sucks. Hope u figure it out. J
Please Grow Up and behave like a mature dude and everything will be fine with you. It is not your fault, it is the fault of those girls who don't understand your love and one think more do not believe in one night stand. They are only done in films or in case if you are so desperate then go hire a slut and lose your virginity with her.
I believe you hit the nail right on the head with that one Jerry! Sage wisdom I can take to heart and apply when appropriate. Thank you.
Feeling good about yourself naturally equals confidence - so do whatever it takes to reach that goal. No - money isn't everything by any means whatsoever but the other end of the scale sucks and will do nothing but snowball and drag you down mentally. Figure out whatever you need to figure out and get your shit together. In my opinion women are naturally drawn to men who have their shit together and shy away from those who don't. I personally feel that you get your college squared away, get a job and some money in your pocket & women will be a natural byproduct. It's how I feel about it anyhow. J
@mistahsparklez what’s your progress. I peeped your Facebook page and you are definitely attractive enough to get girls. I’m surprised you haven’t been propositioned. Sure nobody wants to be seen as a ‘threat’ (i don’t understand those that see it that way). But honestly better than being seen as a “nice guy” Sent from my iPhone using Grasscity Forum
I concur. I don't succumb to societal pressures that make one a conformist one way or the other. From a psychological standpoint virginity scared me up until I took it for what it is and now I own it like a mother fucker.