my girlfriend and mother to my son was being snoopy and looked thru my phone and saw all the overly friendly messages i send to a few girls here and there. me being the lazy dumbass didnt put a password on teh phone nor did i erase the messages after i was finished. now these females i am in contact with have been former partners and we are still friends. but she doesnt think it that way. thats fine cuz yes i have cheated on her. but in no way was i ever looking for any kind of new emotional attatchment with those females. its pure desire, and not to say that i dont desire my current girlfriend, its just like being stuck eating the same hot pockets for lunch for the rest of your life. and occasionally you will want something different and new. not that you dont want to not ever have that original flavor its just i want to have fun with other people. but again like i said i dont put out any emotional part to it with them. i dont do it often but the text messages are just kinda like to keep me occupied while i am at work and such. she said she wanted to leave and take the kid. i didnt really say anything to anything she said. we talked about it before and everytime it comes up thats what i tell her. its nothing personal to her and its nothing im mad at, its just i would like to be more free to do what i want. i mean i support the shit out of her. i pay for her car and insurance and there have been months that we were only on my income and so im paying all the bills and so i feel like i have the right to make myself happy no matter with who and no matter how. i never plan on leaving her. i know that there are some women out there that are better matched for me and there are some that have said they would take me in a heart beat and i get super tempted but i dont because i love her and i want to be with her, its just i dont get why women dont have that same mentality. i have told her that i dont care if she takes an interest in some guy like at her work and such but she doesnt do anything. not completely true. she and our roommate did bump around together a few months back. but i didnt say anything about it and i told her thats fine, i wasnt there and so she went for him. big deal. i trust him as a friend and confidant and commrade and a geschtaffen. all that great shit. so i wasnt pissed. nor was i when i found out she and our neighbor who worked with her were messing around a few times. i dont want her to leave and i think she wont but if there is anyone else here who has similar dealings, let me know how you resolved this. i know its pretty dick of me, but i dont feel bad for doing it to her, but i feel bad for letting her find out.