I've never had an orgasm either and I was worried something was wrong with my pussy so I went to the doctor and she said I was perfectly fine it's just harder for a woman to climax because our "spots" are much harder to stimulate than a mans'. Try using a G spot vibrator. My friends say they work amazingly but I personally think the shape of those things are weird. But on average, most women would be lying if they said they've had orgasms often. Also try the new gels and lubricants they have out b/c even though the commercials seem corny, they may work. And try new stuff in bed from time to time. Don't be afraid to get down and dirty under the sheets.
It takes practice really does , oral stimulation helps , and that feeling you get during sex that youvprobly hold back it feels lime your gonna pee ... Well don't hold it back let it out that's usually your climax
Ok this guy knows what he's talking about!!!!!! Foreplay is huge! Most men want to jump straight into it and women need to get wet before we can bear having a hard on shoved in. Maybe you should try doing foreplay for longer than usual if you already do it. (This isn't for the guy who wrote this post i'm just new to the site and fuck up a lot)
I gave sound advice already, this post is for me. Wtf is wrong with ur man? Low sex drive? I should find him and kick his ass. The posts by the girls are awesome, sounds like so much fun... back when I was actually alive, I would have sex up to ten times a day. Im gonna kick that guys ass for not knowing what he is losing out on
It honestly sounds like you have a disorder called inorgasmia, the inability to have an orgasm, usually it's a temporary thing, resulting from anxiety, previous experience, personal preferences, etc. with the non dominating boyfriend with low sex drive, honestly you may want to consider spiking his diet. High protein foods, high amino acids (sushi is an excellent choice) all stimulate the excretion of testosterone. When guys have lots of hormone what do we do? Lol You mentioned you prefer anal? First off bravo! Youre probably the first female to say that I've ever encountered. Second, try some anal toys. Benoit balls inserted before having sex can create a combination of sensations that should push you over that cliff from pleasure of "oh this feels great" to "OH GOD!!!!!! *angels chorus in the background*"
You may need to see a doctor about that, some of it may be all in your head. It sounds like your not relaxed enough. I've gotten better, but my clitoris is sensitive and even when i'm warmed up it still hurts to touch it directly. I can only have a orgasm if my G-spot is stimulated or if I'm touching myself. I've never came from oral either.
Lol, this was my boyfriends favorite response xD And thanks to everyone who has responded, I'll try some of that 'intense' gel or some K/Y stuff, and if that doesn't help I'm just gunna ask my doctor about it (again). Thank you all, really, for posting
Guy with a low sexdrive. Niqqa wut? if i had a lady righy now who was down whenever, wed be doing it at least 3times a day everyday.
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yea, itsounds like he's spending too much time at your clitoris. You need to work other areas like the breasts and the actuall vagina, (mostly at the same time. the two are actually somehow physically linked) maybe have him come up and flick your clit with his tongue everyonce in a while and do a few long strokes acrossed it, but then go back to working your breasts and vagina. Also, like a few other people said, being relaxed is important.You've gotta focus less on whats going on and just "let it happen". I garauntee he loves doing it (otherwise he wouldn't have don it a second time or he would try to skip through it." so don't worry about what he's thinking, and especially don't think about getting off and how he might be dissapointed if you don't soon, that will push you away from comeing. Also, I'm sure you both know where your G-spot is, lol, so have him focus on that, it is fine if you have him stop or slow down a little when it gets to be "too much", but take a breather and let him continue.
Orgasm is 20% physical, and 80% mental. If your mind is ready, even a single thrust will give you orgasm. But if your mind is not ready, a thousand thrust will be wasted. Prepare your mind... to fuck, and to be fucked. Fuck with your mind first, then your body will follow. If you don't fuck with your mind, then you're nothing but a blow up doll. But you're not just a doll... you have hot blood running inside your body. You got a mind of your own. So use it. Use your mind... And turning on your favorite porn while fucking really helps.
This is it. Oh yeah, and masturbate more. I didn't have a real orgasm until like 8 months ago... that was fucking nuts. You gotta let go, feel everything and appreciate just how fucking erotic it is.