For a chick I dont see why anyone would care/be surprised. If its a guy comin out, thats huge. In context to cheatin, both would piss me off equally, its the fact u did anything with someone else.
I think it's worse to say you gave a bj. Idk, maybe I'm weird, but I think oral is way more personal than sex and is more special (maybe it's the germophobe in me), so I think it's sluttier if you go around giving head to just anyone. Does that make any sense?
Fuck that, I talk openly about sex with my friends I don't feel ashamed. [ame=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NVDQfyNlsDs]Garbage - Sex Is Not The Enemy (Official Music Video) - YouTube[/ame]
hmmm i think it really depends on the person who your telling this to personal opinion. because i think it really varies. some people think a bj is much more of a big deal because it can seem much more personal and more of a special thing whereas other people think sex is much more of a big deal. it really depends just be honest, if you tell the person that you gave head to someone they will most likely ask you if it went any further, so just be honest! thats the best thing you can do