I'm with my current Gf of 5 years now (I know I know lol) she's recently really let her self go weight wise she gained a few which I mean I mind but not a big deal I'm more into personalities but now it's been like 3 months since I've had sex and I have a sex stamina as a workaholic porn star lol but because she's insecure with her body I don't get shit anymore not even hj or bj like WTF I'm not a pig or pervert but shot there needs to be a balance what should I do?
I would say the best thing to do in this situation is to seduce her. Make her feel good about herself and that way she wont be insecure. Show her that it doesn't bother you.
[quote name='"ptownroll"']I would say the best thing to do in this situation is to seduce her. Make her feel good about herself and that way she wont be insecure. Show her that it doesn't bother you.[/quote] Been there, done that.... We live together too so it's like we have nothing to hide she's just so insecure I try things all the time it's like ok I know your not satisfied with her body but shit neither am I but I still want her the way she is I try to seduce her all the time and she just pushes me away she's more into just cuddling then any kind of love making... But with me i do more of the cuddling and holding hands thing if weve at least had contact like shit at least once a week lol but when I don't get anything the cuddling and holding hands is just a tease to me
***didn't want that to sound like I'm not satisfied with her body I meant I am also not satisfied with my body.... I'm way more in shape than her with a 4 pack but shit I want a six pack!!!! Lol
Communication, for starters. Explain to her how you feel about the lack of sex, and that you still find her attractive and still want to put your hotdog in her bun. Maybe phrase it better, though. Then I think you two should figure out some kinda "get healthy" plan, like a daily workout and trying to eat healthier. When you bring this up, I recommend suggesting it on the grounds that you want to help her (or even better, both of you) feel better about herself (yourselves) and regain her (your) confidence. Obviously don't be like "'cause you're getting fat".
compliment her ALOT! Or you can use the ol' Have I ever told you (insert compliment here) for example how big your boobs look. How i can look into your eyes forever.
skip the bullshit. don't lie to her. if you even bring up working out, then she'll probably get the hint. it would be offensive. she knows she's a fatty (just kidding lmao) but for real, don't bring that up. start your own workout plan. maybe she'll be inspired to do it as well, encourage her, but do it first is what i think would work best
That's why I say that if he brings it up to her, he should focus on how she's feeling and try to help her feel better about herself. They already haven't had sex in months because of her issues with her appearance, so I think he should let her know that he's feeling frustrated with the lack of sex, that he's still attracted to her, but that he realizes the lack of sex is probably due to her lack of confidence lately and maybe they should both work out and get healthy together so that she can get her confidence back and be secure enough to engage in a healthy sex life again.
[quote name='"JudyCarmona"']Try to help her to overcome such insecurities that covers her.[/quote] I've tried all these keep in mind were like 5 and half years together we've come across this before shell do one thing and then think were good for another 2 months but to me it really isn't the sex aspect as it's the I just want to feel connected and wanted .... Anything happens it's me that started it or started touching her first she never makes the first move which then makes me feel like a dog trying to get a treat and shell just give it to the dog so he shuts up for a while.... Is there just such thing as a human who doesn't like sex? Theee fuuuuuuuugh? Lol
There is such a thing as a human who doesn't like sex. Asexual people tend to not be interested in sex at all. But it sounds like your woman is not uninterested in sex, just that she's not comfortable with herself right now which is making her uncomfortable with sex. Which is why my advice to you in this thread has been mostly about communication.
[quote name='"Crispy21"']Good luck OP[/quote] Thank you all for some good advise I'm just going to have a lil chit chat with this girl and take all your advises and just go from there... Living together is also new to us still, moved in 2 months ago maybe that has something to do with it? Idk well see thanks all!!