I consider myself a pretty 'nice' person, and by nice I mean a pushover. But of course, every pushover has a point were they simply will not be pushed over anymore. Personally, I suck at saying no, but once I do I say more than no. So let me tell you a couple stories about this roommate mooch of a human being: Asked to borrow my phone charger. Broke it somehow within a 24 hour window. I had it for 2 years. Constantly asked for rides to class without paying for gas. As in, I took him to and from class twice a day (just him, it's not like we were going to the same place) for almost a whole semester. At least he payed me $10. One time. Asks to borrow the most completely random shit. For example, my tv remote. English book. PlayStation controller. Food. Laundry basket. Flash drive. Laptop. Phone(not to call somebody). Pretty much any toiletry that's not deodorant. I made the mistake of smoking black and milds with him. You see, 95% of the time I would buy the cigar. I don't care if somebody wants to hit it when I step outside, less tar in my lungs. But then he would start asking if he could straight up have one, or when I was going to smoke again. that's annoying as fuck, as I said, i'll let anybody hit it but I smoke on my own time. Yeah, they are only like $1.00-$1.20 here, but bumming a black and mild off somebody is like walking up to a cigarette smoker and being like "hey yo can I get 5 cigarettes". I am not paying for your nicotine habit buddy Another time he asks me if I want to 'split a 12 pack'. Both of us being under 21 at the time, get to the store with his cousin (who by the way is cool as fuck and not a mooch)and he asks me if I have money. Because he doesn't. He asked me if I wanted to split a 12 pack and we get to the store and then tells me he doesn't have money. So being the pushover I was, payed for it because it was only $12 and he agreed to pay me back later. He then proceeded to drink 10 of the 12 beers. I thought that was disrespectful as fuck. The last straw was when he had the balls to ask me to borrow my car "to pick up some girls at their place". I don't know about any of you guys, but I don't let non immediate family members drive my car (MUCH LESS BORROW IT) unless it's an emergency, because you can only lose in a scenario like that. I said no and offered him a ride over there anyway, he said naa because apparently it was all or nothing. I don't see the point in risking damages to my car to get somebody I don't care about laid. Told him to get the fuck outtah my room and don't ask me for shit, I don't care if you need to borrow $0.75 for a condom your not getting it. Next week he had finales and asked for a ride, I said sure. So we get in the car and it went like this: me: You got gas money? him: yeah I got you me: So you have gas money right now to give me? him: yeah i'll get you gas later me: So you don't have the money right now? Because I'm not moving this car until you give me gas money. him: No me:Well I guess your not getting a ride then. He failed that class. I don't care if I'm an asshole. Sure I could have just said no. You take advantage of my kindness over and over and over, and I will fuck you hard the first opportunity I get. Shouldn't have asked to borrow my car buddy, that's one of the few things I don't loan people you probably could have gotten much more out of me. So rate my asshole behavior in relation to this story 1-10, I say I got a solid 4
You're being a 10/10 ass hole to yourself by leading him on. Fuck that piece of trash. Get new friends
I'd rate you a 0 on the asshole scale. Completely justified. Wouldn't feel bad and woulda done it sooner.
Sounds like you're doing the right thing, cutting this guy out of your life. All of that just sounds sketchy. I'd would have been upset just over the phone charger. I couldn't look my dog in the eye for a week when he chewed mine. But yeah, asking for your vehicle then denying the ride because of an "all or nothing situation" You dodged a bullet. That could only of gone sour. Is it possible he was going to just fail that class anyways? Wouldn't worry too much over it. and who borrows a tv remote? That kid isn't going places. But yeah, on a scale of 1-10, I'd have to say 1.
Asshole or not, hopefully that taught him a lesson not to be a grown man and still be depending on others. Fuck him. Don't sweat it. I did something similar. I purposely fucked over a mooch and he never spoke to me again and now we're both better off.
Lol I like how the one time you didn't drive him caused him to fail.... maybe idk. But Nah I woulda stopped a while ago if I wasn't getting gas $
I would have at least taken him to finals. Failing the class is a big deal. A plus tho on denying him the car for those chicks. And telling him off after. On scale.of 1-10 you are only like 6ish asshole, and only because yje failed the class -Yuri
I will reserve judgement until i hear his side of it.. lol Sent from my SM-T210 using Grasscity Forum mobile app
Nah, not an asshole at all, imo. I've done way worse to people for like not even a quarter of the shit that you put up with.
The failing the class bit could be viewed as harsh but overall i would still give you a 2/3. You need to find a mirror and have a serious chat with yourself though. If you are going to get anywhere in this life you are going to have to get to at least a 6. The saying nice guys come last is very true. I'm probably twice your age and have encountered dozens of these parasites over the years. Guy's like him are leeches who will suck away happily on your tit until you withdraw the nipple from their grasp. Typed in the cockpit of a runaway Boeing
this is true. He was a freeloader and didn't have aa realistic plan to get to his finals. But op could have helped him with little sacrifice on his own part. Op let himself get used voluntarily for the entire time. It was the ops choice to let himself get abused. But op decided the appropriate punishment for the freeloaders was to then, at that specific moment, pull the chair and watch him fall. Is that really justified? The op could have been the bigger mman. He could have taken him to the finals. He could have said look, you passed because of me. Everything is because of me. Now its time to grow up. There is a way of doing things where everyone could benefit. Op could have helped his friend grow up, but instead put him down. He simply created resentment. Right or wrong is irrelevent. The result is just more hate. -Yuri
Yes, I think it's completely justified actually. Why the fuck should he have to sacrifice anything to help a mooch? So he doesn't feel bad afterwards cuz the guy fucked up on his own?
Adverse possession. If your neighbor builds a fence 2 ft onto your property and you don't make him remove it, it can become his property. You allowed yourself to be his bitch for a year so now you're legally his bitch so no, you're not an asshole, you're his bitch but hopefully he won't sue you over failing.
Sorry, never mind. I think you were a nice guy for a long time and don't blame you a bit for putting your foot down. My neighbor would come over and ask for a ride to work several times a week until I put my foot down one day and told him to walk. He was so late to work he was almost fired. I still feel guilty about that and understand how you feel. I guess you and I should have gave one last warning before cutting them off. That's my plan for the next time that happens.
It's really his own fault if he didn't figure out a backup plan at least. It's not OP's job to make sure this guy passes his class. OP I've known people like that before, the only way to deal with it is to say no. They'll try to make you feel like the bad guy, like an asshole, but it's all just a manipulation tactic.
Your in the right. Your supposed friend sounds like a fucking dildo. Sent from my SM-G900R4 using Tapatalk