Okay, so I wanted to make this post just to share our methods of attracting the opposite sex. I'm shy and use that to my advantage. With a terribly awkward energy, I go up to the girl I'm enamored with and say "I don't usually do this because I'm painfully shy, but you're (insert compliment here.) Maybe we could go out for some coffee and get to know each other a little better?" (Smile) This method doesn't always work, but it's been fruitful to me. Share your experience!
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We live in a crazy world today. Most men i meet that are my age are pretty like.. Socially disconnected, if that makes any sense. They cannot "Stay in the pocket" of the conversation so to speak. They are constantly glancing at their phones, constantly allowing themselves to be disengaged from the conversation. Most women i meet are like the exact opposite of socially disconnected.. I know very few women who are not surrounded by some sort of physical social network. To be honest, for a young man today, the pickings are easy. Its all about competition with your fellow man and when your fellow man can barely maintain a conversation, pttttff, this shits in the bag. (Obviously this is revolving around hooking up or dating casually.) As a man, i have noticed that men who display feminine qualities often get the most women. These men who are feminine in nature are easily for women to relate with, to the point where they will have their guard down. Most of these men show a blatant disregard for all other men and even some women, which allows them to be absolutely ruthless; these are the guys that are going to hang around with your girlfriend when your not around and try to get her drunk or some shit, then smile, give you a beer, smoke a joint with you after trying to bang your girlfriend. <-- That is a ladies man. I would prefer to be away from all that. Hooking up is one thing, but approaching a girl you deem gf material is another matter. First off, do not hesitate to create attraction; let her know that you are gonna go after what you want and shes what you want, secondly, while doing this, recognize that some women thrive on dudes that are attracted to them and will use you until your all used up, then discard you. Learn to identify your prey or the qualities that you want in a mate so your not wasting your time, money, energy on a situation like this. Thirdly, as i said, don't be afraid to display feminine qualities as a man. Fourth, be honest, be you and be funny as hell. Humor is rooted in intelligence. Be intelligent. This is what i would do if i met a women i had the hots for and wanted more than a relationship, maybe even a kid, from.
Watch Simple Pick Up on Youtube. Their methods have you able to say ANYTHING and be able to get a girl's number. Basically it all comes down to confidence ( this is just from what I've seen and learned from them, I've never even had a GF ). I've been wanting to try their methods for a while but I don't have a car to get places right now, so I can't even take girls out on dates right now.
dont really try to be honest, if it works then you will notice, no point in trying hard because you wont be yourself.
I like masculine, country men personally. Never a fan of the feminine man. I don't do a thing to attract the opposite sex. I work 7 days a week and try not to think about how lonely I am. I try not to think about how much older I am getting and the part of me that used to be attractive is not so attractive anymore. I just smoke copious amounts of weed and listen to lots and lots of hard rock. Oh I do fantasize though ... lots of fantasies.
Attraction comes in many shapes and sizes. Just having a conversation is attractive to some people, so you never know what the cards have in store for you.
Be yourself, be confident, wear tight pants. I'm married now but before that I was always the one getting hit on, and the girls were always really casual about it, it would start as a compliment about my clothes or some small talk and joking around. I also would usually become friends with someone before I "date" them, and eventually we get comfortable enough that we fool around when we watch movies or what ever we're doing. My current wife and I were actually roommates before we starting dating, and got to be really good friends and one day just started sleeping in the same room.
When I like a guy, I'm pretty genuine about it. I don't like that whole act dumb, be cute BS If I like you, I want to get to know you and you'll have my undivided attention. I'll probably be a little nervous so if you compliment me I'll try to hide blushing. I'd probably smile a lot, and flirt with you.
P.S. That's fucking adorable. Wish more guys would approach girls like that. Also wish less girls would act like every single dude on earth is a "creep"
[SUB][/SUB]<sup></sup><del></del> Honestly my technique for getting rid of nerves when talking to girls is to pay close attention to how THEY react to being hit on. And when I started doing this I realized that most of the time they seem flattered. As a guy it's important to walk that line between too passive and too forward. When I think about it, I see no reason why most women shouldn't react well to being complemented/hit on. I know I love it when a girl tells me "wow you're so tall", most girls like being told "damn you're cute". Even if I'm not interested in her, it still makes me feel good.
I have been dating a guy since I was 15, so I never had an issue with finding someone. As far as I know, my brother is regularly dating asian women he meets online. Do you guys use online dating?
I don't even know what I want to do with my dating/sexual life. Should I actively pursue the idea of finding a lesbian partner.. or just scrap the idea and embrace the single lifestyle? Honestly, every time I have fun with a girl at a bar... I just end up coming home to my bedroom feeling emptier and lonelier than ever. Which makes me wonder.... if I ever did get into a relationship.. how would I ever be able to cope with a break up? I really think that love is something akin to opiates and hardcore stimulants. It is the nastiest fucking drug in the whole wide world, with the longest lasting and most painful withdrawal symptoms. Maybe if I was a celebrity, I'd be able to date people every single day.. but even so. It all just feels so phony, so surreal. Like all the fun I had was just a dream.. something that didn't take place in the real world. It really isn't my destiny to be loved, and I can go to great lengths to deny the truth, at times.
Guys usually come up to me. I'm too shy myself to go up to a guy I like or who I think is attractive. But if they come up to me, I flirt by being sarcastic/feisty and witty. I don't like to play games, I'm the type of girl that tells it like it is, so if I like you, you'll probably know.
Usually just give her a few compliments and act a little flirtatious towards her, if she flirts back then try and set up a date and go from there. Sometimes we click sometimes we don't, never know unless you try.
I'm pretty old school. I like it when boys are the one approaching me, even if they are not experts at that. In fact, I prefer if they are not experts because this way I know that they aren't players. I think your way to approach girls is very sweet. I wish more boys were like you. I am so fed up with boys using pickup lines like "You look familiar, didn"t we take a class together? I could"ve sworn we had chemistry."