My girlfriend always attack me when her daughter does something wrong. Last week I found that the 10 year old daughter was watching porn on my laptop. I didnt mention it until today. But everytime I tell her her daughter does something wrong she attacks me. So I didnt. Now she's mad because I just told her. My sister came over and said that my girlfriends daughter teaching my 4 year old neice bad things playing house, so I told her....I told my girlfriend when we R intimate and your daughter keep running to the door playing singing and yelling "you guys being nasty" after she keep telling her over and over again to go play, you should of said something then. She keep blaming everyone else...She caught her in a lie today and i told her i seen her she just let her go and argued me down...I showed her another video her daughter was looking at supposedly they call the dance twerking, her mother said yea its just a twerk video she watches...and I said but the girl is topless with a thong on making her booty clap. She acted like nothing was wrong with it, and after I said something attacked me again, and said dont tell her how to raise her children....I told her its inappropriate and we have to deal with her spoiled behavior. She asked what do u want me to do spank her, and I said no, just handle the situation...every other kid is punished here in there house and its not right This is one of the videos that her mother was ok with....
Bad parent in my book. Lots of that going around these days. To each their own, but I'd walk away from that yesterday.
actually i think the daughter learned it from her mother and father......i knew her mother a long time she wasnt like that.....but i hear the fathers messy also....i have alot of baby daddy issues. he wont do for his child...im just tired of it but dont wanna do her wrong when everyone else abandoned them.....ive learned that people abandon there kin, but only when someone else comes in and help them, thats when they wanna act like they wanna help them, because they dont really have to do nothing. When she dont need them. But soon as i leave her there gonna abandon her again....i just worry about them, thats the only reason i havent split yet
Why do people stay in unhappy circumstances. I just don't get it. Sent from my XT1028 using Grasscity Forum mobile app
i just worry about her....i even told her she could stay but i wont fuck with her if she take the upstairs....but how will i feel if she brings a man to my house to talk about me, or if i bring a female over ..she took advantage cause i was going through a divorce......not to mention i had been fucking with her since she was 14 and i was 15......and grew up with her before that.....my loyalty kills me......i been having to cut off friends left and right because they wasnt loyal......i guess shes anothr.....but i was married for 13 yrs.....to another...i hate starting over again...how do u put that much in a person again.....imma message a pic of us
Fk that bro no chick is worth being unhappy for no matter how much you worry. Is it worry or you just can't be alone and trying to pass it off as worry? I just don't get it bro. Fk being unhappy. I worried about my ex wife too, made me unhappy so she's my ex wife. Live your life for you not her. If you can get along and be happy then live for each other Sent from my XT1028 using Grasscity Forum mobile app
killer part...she aint the ex wife, just finalized my divrce last month,,,,,,,i just got mad female problems.....there fighting, were fighting....its al fucked uup
I was talking about my ex wife....she made me unhappy so she's my ex. Here's where I know you need a lifestyle change......."I have mad female problems" once it gets to that point it's not going to change without serious effort from both sides. Doesn't sound like there's any effort hardly. I've been there bro.....now I'm happy or I bounce. Little arguments yes but your never going to stop her siding with her kid. All parents do it to some degree, I do....she just does it more then you can handle and that's not going to change. Can't fk with a mamma bear ....well sort of I did. My ex ain't seen her kids in years because of her stupidity Sent from my XT1028 using Grasscity Forum mobile app
To the OP....why does a 10yo have access to your computer? Seems to me a password change would take care of the problem...I could be wrong...
The discussion came up again today only about the twerk videos.....I said "if your ok with that what the fuck wrong with you.....the daughter is only acting out what she learned from yall" Both sides of her family is tight, i dropped her her off to her fathers brother house......She said whether u realize it or not i slapped her face...U dont tell me how to raise my daughter....I said what happened to u D. Now u went from neglect to child abuse....thats not cool.. I said "when i mentioned that a week ago u attacked me and said she only watching twerk videos like it was cool....now u slapped her across the face only because i had something to say.you dont go out only because of me.trying to prove yourself..she had jumped on a conversation about going out. she dont go out enough....or socialize enough.....i said im starting to see through u...ur a 34 year old woman that wanna go out every week....i said D. at 23 i didnt go out for every 4 months or so, it was all work....I said D. you go to dinner every 2 weeks or sooner with me,,,or whatever we do....u have weed non stop everyday, drinks everyday all day.....anything u want everyday....what is ur problem? The problem is she miss her friends thats total whores, but says shes different....i said i cut mine off too.....we should hang with a different crowd if were gonna change....our friends been fucking us.....her baby daddy wont do shit for the baby....she has noone....have you ever had someone that had nothing but when they get with u, act like shit dont stank....i dont understand....my peoples like, "shes stuck up, she sticks her nose n the air......a fake arrogance...imma have too send her back where she came from.....she basically telling me i should do more.......right now she has no worries
First of all, hi! Second, you should stop for a second and think. The daughter probably has some knowledge about sexuality, thus this misbehavior. But you should consider this: Should you be having sex within such reach of the child? You called her my girlfriend's daughter, not my stepdaughter. That gives you less of respect she has has having you with her mother. Let the mother make the calls, but you can always give your opinion. You're a boyfriend, don't forget about the friendship part.
A wise woman once told me that children will manifest behaviors that their parents try to hide. Children are amazing. They can grasp scenarios that they cannot actually comprehend, if that makes any sense. Children are like mirrors and in them you see their parents. When you look at your girlfriends daughter, you see your girlfriend. You see sexuality that is out of control; that should say something to you about your girlfriend. In the same way that you cannot control the actions of your girlfriend, you will ultimately feel that same amount of hopelessness in the daughter. Its all connected, like a big circle, you just gotta start connecting the dots. If you really wanna make this work.. This problem literally has NOTHING to do with the daughter at all. NOTHING. This is between you and your girlfriend 100%... If the daughter acted completely fine, you would still have the same problems your having with your girlfriend, whether you know about those problems or not. The fact that the child is manifesting those problems says that they have been going on for quite a long time. If i were you, i would be getting the fuck out of this situation as fast as possible. There are so many ugly scenarios that could be going on with an overly sexual child that its almost mind boggling.. A child being overtly sexual can mean the parent is cheating or even the child is a victim of sexual abuse.. I mean being sexual in nature is normal, but.. There is kind of a line you learn to see when you work with children, its difficult to explain, but its just not good. If she is being sexually abused, that could come back onto YOU. I hope that is not the case, but whatever is going on to make the child act like that certainly is not a positive thing. Your in way over your head dude. Get the fuck outta there.
Ah yes, this old chestnut. I am often amused by just how many times I hear (mainly in the US) absolute shit parents get ultra hyped up when it's time to yell at someone else for pointing out obvious parenting flaws they are committing. They don't have the discipline and common sense to raise a child even remotely decently, but when someone DARES make a suggestion, oh that's where the line has been crossed. Don't get me wrong, 99% of all people on the planet don't want someone else telling them how to raise their child. I'm sure neither would I. However, it is only the shittiest parents who are usually ready to burn down the zip code and start brawlin' when someone offers completely valid input. The sooner you let this one go, the sooner you can start aiming at a relationship with a sane person. The fact that this is how she thinks about raising her flesh and blood makes me wonder about her entire state of mind, not just parenting. Walk away man and when you do, make sure it sticks.
Ok, I am NOT about to question anyone's parenting skills or techniques here but I just have to say this: Wtf? I feel you bro, I'd be at a loss myself... I'm so lucky to have found me a mature, strong, intelligent female. I'm currently only 22, our daughter just turned 15 months. I stay up to date hardcore with hiphop, but I tell you right now my daughter isn't watching any twerk videos for a very long time. And if I found out she was learning bad acts from another child, YES I would approach that child's parent!!! Of course have a decent attitude when explaining to them, but as a parent, if they got mad at me, my child wouldn't associate with their's, plain and simple. There's some really bad parents out there, and I mean bad. I've seen stuff way worse than this, so it's all about perspective. If your S.O. doesn't see a problem, and flat out refuses to see or admit they may be one, then yes it may be time to find a new boo unfortunately. ;[. Happy toking, brother, Hope it all works out.