Stems seeds and kids ?

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  1. #1 BhindtehEyes, Oct 13, 2015
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    So I would like to see how other blades deal with weed and their children . I have 3 kids 9,5, and 4. I don't let them see anything weed related I'll explain it to them when that time comes . What's your approach ? What's worked for you? What didn't work? My ex wife leaves her bong on her coffee table and just says that's grown up stuff ! I would love to hear about your method thank you for your time cheers
     
  2. I need the answer to this to, I still hide from my 9 year old, wish I had advise
     
  3. I live in Maine where cannabis is medically legal so perhaps this may not be the answer you're looking for but I believe it should be the same everywhere over the upcoming years.


    I've been growing cannabis indoors (and out) since the mid 80's. It's probably been 7-8 years? or so since Maine made cannabis legal for medical patients so I too had to hide things but once it became legal I immediately became legal as well and sat the entire family for a talk. I have 3 daughters that are now 20, 17 and 13. I told the girls that this wasn't a bad thing like they may have heard, that Cannabis has helped a lot of people and that I was going to use one of our spare rooms to garden in. They have known since they could remember that Dad was a gardener of anything and everything anyhow so for me to garden indoors just wasn't a big deal. We also discussed the huge importance of keeping their mouths shut about it to their friends - legal or not, and they've faithfully kept their mouths shut.


    So they've all grown up around dad growing cannabis since they were pretty little and it's been a very good thing. They understand that herb is not a bad thing in any way shape or form. They help me sometimes and I can honestly say that overall being honest with them about this has been very good for all of us.


    Kids aren't stupid by any means. I say be honest with them but also let them know that they just can't tell anyone whether it's legal where you live or not. My kids know that cannabis helps me medically with migraine headaches and That it's also good for a plethora of other medical ailments. They also know that it can be used for recreation and has been a useful tool with discussions of the huge differences between hard, bad drugs and herb. Living and growing up around herb and not lying to them about it has been nothing but positive in my family. I can honestly say that the only one of my kids that has even tried it has been my 20 year old who has tried it in college a few times but it's really not her thing. I'm not saying she won't ever use it again but it's not something she uses often at all - just here and there and it's not much.


    Honesty means so much with kids. Treat them like you'd want to be treated and have honest, frank discussions about it.


    Good luck!!


    J
     
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  4. If my.nephews ever see my stuff.. I just tell them it is my smoke, but I smoke cigarettes too. I had some neighbors who I am pretty sure smoked weed.. cause their boy would come over to play and whenever he saw me smoking a cigarette, he'd be like 'ewwww, that's nasty smoke.. we (his parents) got the good smoke'. So it's not like you have to go into detail while avoiding lying to your kids. I was well aware of weed when I was a small kid but didn't try smoking it til my early 20's. When I was like 10.. I was hanging out with my older cousins who were all getting high and my other young cousin who didn't know a thing about weed came into the room and saw the bong. He asked what it was and everyone who was high was like 'uhh.. ummm... uh..' and I blurted out "its a lamp" and he bought it.

    Semi related, random stories.. but if I ever have kids and am still smoking, I'm not going to put too much effort into hiding it. I'll try to avoid it, but if they see it I'll probably just say it is my smoke without getting into too much detail.
     
  5. Thank you for the input . I would never lie to my kids . I think I'm gonna wait until they are around 13 to talk to them about it , that gives me 5 years to think about it lol
     
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  6. It's not like there's anything morally wrong with Cannabis whatsoever - at all, or in any way shape or form. It's just the darn law; depending on where you live.


    I really think honesty is best - if you have good kids. They will respect you more for it but I'm sure it's a good idea to wait until you really feel that they're ready.


    My 3 were, and are excellent about it. They know that Dad isn't doing anything wrong or bad but they also know to still keep their mouths shut.


    Best,


    J
     
  7. I've been looking for a thread about this topic for quite some time. Stoner and mom, especially of younger kids (3 and 5) seems like such a taboo thing. I smoke almost daily, never in font of the kids or to the point where I'm melting into the couch, just a hit or two. I have smoked cigs before and can compare it to a cigarette break (not as often) but much more beneficial. I personally suffer from anxiety and depression, both of which the symptoms are non existent with use of cannabis. I've tried meds prescribed by doctors and none come even close to comparison to medicating with weed. I've never let them see anything, and they never notice anything either, but I know one day they might, or when they are older they may have questions. And like the poster before, I do believe honesty is best, because imo it's better to take a hit if it makes you parent better. I know this doesn't answer your question very well, but I do hope that it least it let's you know that you aren't alone, and aren't in the wrong.
     
  8. I agree with J.
    I think the trick is to wait until you feel they are mature enough to not blab about it. Kids love to talk.
     
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  9. Well my employer just helped me out and told me to stop smoking or find a new job ! Shitty part in I live in Nevada with a Nevada ( and Cali) medical card and I have ptsd very bad ( and pot REALLY helps)and I'm going to have to stop. Worst part about it is that it's a family business . Unless I can find a job that pays close to what I make now
     

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