I went from being like this: ...to this outlook: ...when I went away to college. I did end up losing my virginity near the end of the school year, but I havent had any sexual encounters since then. It doesn't really bother me. My outlook about being a virgin was/is this: I could live another 80 years or I could die in 15 minutes. If I live another 80 years, odds are good that I'm going to have sex at least once in that time. If I only live another 15 minutes, why the fuck would I want to spend it obsessing about getting laid? I'm still casual about sex. I don't want a relationship, I want a chill girl who can be more intimate than a friend but less attached/formal than a legitimate girl friend.