Hi. I'm a straight guy so there's no sex or love here (bro-love?) but there's a friend-lationship... I'm letting my childhood friend, call him R, stay at my house because his step brother was making him pay a ridiculous amount of money to live with him, not letting him save any money, while also leaving lots of house hold responsibilities to him like leaving him with the kids for hours. This friend R, is known as a mooch by me and our other friends, spends alot of money on weed, doesn't take responsibility well (22 without a drivers license or a car) has to be pushed/urged to do things like get a job, which he now has one but, and isn't really the brightest guy. I was working at Denny's as a dishwasher and had only been on the job 2 weeks, and while I was on break, R came in with a couple other friends. I sat down with them. After I had just finished sitting down with them to eat, my manager comes in and tells me my friend was caught on camera stealing $20. I was pissed, how is that going to make me look? 2 weeks on the job and being associated with a thief. That job was trash though, and I left. Now I'm driving pizzas, and I left my tip money in a drawer lazily and went to sleep. I knew I shouldn't have put it there, but, I was lazy. The fact that I have to worry about where my money is says something because I knew there's a good chance he'd take some for weed. Anyways, he took $20 without asking me. I was going to wait to see if he'd admit to it or try to actually get away with stealing it, but I didn't remember exactly what I counted my cash at and had to confirm. So I asked, and he admitted he took it, and promised to pay me back and that he'd never do it again. Obviously this is disrespectful and breaks trust, but my issue is, are these things worth burning a bridge with him for? How mad should I be? How mad would you be and what would you do? I've been a real good guy to him and sometimes he really has some fucking audacity. Him doing this ontop of the fact that he's doing nothing to advance his life currently like school/tradeschool, really makes me want to kick him out and associate with him less.
He's disrespecting you by stealing from your work. Burn that bridge down. I've been in the same boat as that dude, not appreciating the help I'm being given while focusing too much on being selfish. Dude's like that need to hit rock bottom to change perspective and attitude.
And giving no thought or consideration to the fact that his friend works at the place and could likely lose his job over something like that. OP, don't necessarily have to kill the friendship but you need to make him find another place to live. That might end the friendship but gotta do whats best for you.
I would throw someone on out on the street if they stole from me Even froot loops ... ESPECIALLY froot loops!! Sent from my iPhone using Grasscity Forum mobile app
The guy has a problem so I think you should help, not only him but yourself too. Give him a third chance and let him know that this is the last chance and that you will be here for him just like you have been. If he gets his shit together then he will forever be thankful to you and you will feel great being able to help. If he doesn't change then you have done your best and the rest is on him. Just one more chance and really help him, you don't know what this can do maybe it's karma or maybe he saves your life or take care of your kids when later in life... point is, everyone has a role and your role in his life can change yours.
