Women who call me "Dude"

I think I could let it slide in that case...

question: if you did meet another good looking lady who called you dude right off the bat, but she was actually down to do stuff like fist bump and drink beers in her dirty underwear with you, would that make it okay for her to call you "dude"? like if she was really about that life?
or could you still not get past it?

 

Chilax, dude.

 

I like to think of myself as at least somewhat normal.
From my perspective...being offended or even remotely put off by someone saying "dude" to you...is...a troublesome reminder that we live in a time, where it seems that to be personally incensed by the inconsequential is commonplace.
This isn't the 1920's where you'd be considered impolite not to tip your hat at every passerby.
I mean, I'll be honest...I feel like saying to you "Please don't be another one of these fucking guys...this isn't facebook" because this is the kind of nonsense I see going on there.
I don't want to disrespect you, but I want to be honest with you all the same...if that damns your views of me, so be it - but yknow, speaking my truth and all that, and it's not to hurt you.

Bitch implies disrespect. "Dick" would be a more solid comparison.

Dude (unless you live on a farm) is something I've only ever seen to have been culturally adopted as a positive term of endearment, and/or a casual term like "bud, man, pal".
I'm gonna assume you're not one of these guys who goes into a diner and expects to be called "Sir" as part of their experience...so I have to say I'm personally wondering why such a thing as a casual and friendly term has at very least annoyed you...but hey, look...if that's how you're gonna be, then...that's just how you are built.
If you don't feel like this limits your life experience among humans, for yourself, then cool - because you're the only one in control of your perceptions, and how you think you ought to feel about things, dude.

 

I agree - and in no way will I ever stop you from saying what you feel you ought to about things, feel the way you're gonna feel...I just, me? I don't get it. That's why we do the whole "you do you" bit. I just guess if I called you dude in person, not that it's a term I use much ( "man" all the time for me)...I would be kind of confused if it was taken negatively.
Oh, and no I wasn't entirely trying to call you one of "those" facebook people...they're a whole other breed that thrives on drama in every interaction. I can see that's not you, but sadly, I have to be honest and say I'd have a similar reaction if I encountered you and was on the other side of that situation

You seem like a decent guy though, so...yeah, no dramas on my end.

 

I'm glad we're good.

I just thought, on their side they're doing it to imply a lack of availability?
Like I have this one chick I deal with occasionally. We have a friendly enough relationship, we're cool...but every time we meet, she drops "buddy" in here and there - I've always felt like she does it to keep things like deliberately casual or some such...even though we both know the other is married. I always felt like it may just be her habitual interaction with males.
It might not be, but it could be, a signal. It might not even be intentional.
Though strangely I have noticed over the last few months it's kind of graduated to "my lovely"
(lol sounds less witch-like when she's this tiny little Irish chick)
But yeah...it's something I've noticed and it's always been on the back of my mind...this brings up that it may be a case of like...throwing up a roadblock before things could proceed?

I get your perspective too, though...I just figured if we look at it from all sides, there just might be things in play that are on their end.

 

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DAMN homie....your life must be STRESSFUL if something that minuscule gets you worked up like that.......smoke a J piece and chill............

 

Eh, you mean you are too good looking and civilized to be called dude IRL?

This is the first time I hear that Dude is something else than just a friendly way to address someone.

 

I think there are certain elements of respect and generational differences that should be observed, so I think you have a sliver of a point. I would never call a woman 'dude', or an elderly gentleman I didn't know 'dude', or someone in a position acquired by merit that I look up to. I wouldn't call my professor back in uni or the black belt at my academy 'dude', either, because I don't put myself on par with them, because in the context we are in, they have achieved far more than me by way of merit.

I don't agree with you on someone in the parking lot, though. I think that sounds friendly.

 

Feeling woo ooh feelings! Everyone has then now days lol

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Face to face, outside of a friend, I've only been addressed as 'dude' once... I remember.
I stopped in my tracks, turned around slowly and asked; "Did you just call me dude?"
The young man responded; "No, Sir."

On-line... it happens all the time.
I have to let it go.
On the other hand, someone on this forum addressed me as 'boomer'.
I took exception to that.
Go figure.

 

10 outta 10 tho.. you can call me shitfuckdude if that's the case

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