OK Guys/Girls - I could really do with some advice - god knows why I am asking on a forum but fuck it got nothing to lose. OK well I lost my wife to mental health issues after a successful loving marriage she just one day changed, she stopped working, stopped talking to me, stopped coming home, would just stay with girlfriends etc until I called it a day - at the cost of my home and 50% stake in a successful business. Now 18 months on I am working hard to repair my life and have been dating etc - Anyway met this lovely girl and we hit it off right away and have been enjoying seeing each other most weekend over the last few months, anyway out of the blue last night I got that phone calling we all hate saying it wasn't me it her etc etc and to be honest I feel totally gutted So now I feel total lost and I am beginning to wonder if I will ever find someone to share my life with - I guess we all grow up thinking we will one get married, have kids etc but is this just another human delusion? Anyway not sure what I am hoping for by putting this out on a public forum, I don't want people to be sorry I just would love to try and understand more of what goes on in a girls mind! Anyway rant over - peace & love
I am truly saddened by your experience it makes me wonder if i would ever find a girl to spend the rest of my life with. oh well in the mean time im gonna get an education and drink and smoke as much as i possibly can.
to answer your question, it's usually because they don't even know what they want. to give you the info you're looking for, don't stress it. there are more females than there are males in this world. just stay true to yourself, do what makes you happy, and the right girl will fall right in your lap
maybe some are just not meant to marry. i mean a species like ours that has sex for pleasure has a much harder time mating for life than one species who doesnt totally enjoy the act. i feel you're pain as if it were my own. i have been single for around 6 years now and most of the time i have not been looking or trying, simply because i feel the world will bring me to a point where i find the girl ive always wanted for myself. perhaps it is a pointless conquest because impermanence is part of life if not life itself. perhaps "love" is a facade that we hide behind so we dont have to share all of our feelings and emotions towards a person with that person. instead of bringing up what you dislike you "let it go" for the sake of love but, do we really let it go or do we just ignore it until the problem shakes us to the core?
Thanks mate - today is just one of those shit days - stuck at work and having to pretend that everything in my life is just fine when really I am just fighting so much emotion at the moment. Plus I thought it was girls who do knew what they want and its us blokes who don't.
I agree with this post. Much of the confusion stems from the woman changing her mind about what she's looking for or what she wants from a relationship. The problem is not with you. That girl just wasn't right for you at this time or maybe at all. With the billions of women on this planet you'll be fine, man.
Yeah I guess you are right but it still hurts like hell - I need to try and get meeting these other girls, but its hard
I hear ya on the difficulty part, ahah. The key is to put yourself out there without trying to hard or worrying too much about finding one. If you do, great. If not, oh well not today. The best girls tend to find you when you're not looking.
She respected you and thought you were a nice enough guy (and she was a decent sort) to be honest and let it end on a nice note instead of her just pretending it would work out. For whatever reason, it wasn't meant to be, but that isn't to say that the next girl will think the same. We're all different, which makes us so difficult for you to understand I guess? But it really isn't you, personally, it was her feelings she needed to answer to... I really hope I'm not sounding insensitive but from a woman's perspective we look for a lifetime "mate" and the urge and ability to reproduce only lasts so long. Good things come to those who wait
thats deep man i mean there is really nothing we can do about it except embrace what might or might not happen. many married couples say dont get married but WTF?. we are told from birth til death that we need to get married and settle down and have kids what if we dont? are we then considered different or outsiders? We're a generation of men raised by women. I'm wondering if another woman is really the answer we need - Tyler Durden
It sucks man. Girls are hard to understand. Try changing up your game maybe. It not only makes things fun for you, but maybe more exciting for the girl. I recently started doin things diff towards girls and its workin pretty good.
bitches be crazy edit, actually read the post, now im considering taking my post back....nah it remains good advice.
"Chicks can't hold the smoke, yeah thats what it is!" -Cheech and Chong Keep yer head up, you never know when the next opportunity is! I've been married and divorced by kind of the same situation. I am now happily married again so there is hope, Found this one when I was about 35 and haven't scared her away yet, she's a tough one! Good luck, peace
You do not need to understand them it will make you crazy. Just learn to drop everything you are doing and listen to them and do what ever it takes to make sure you are not going to be sleeping alone. It is alot harder than it sounds but girls/women just want to take up all you time and do not want you to have any space. I have never been dumped and all the girls I have had in my life become very clingy.