UHHHHHHHHH, I just don't get girls any more. I don't think I even did to be honest. There's this girl I was in love with from work, we got on really really well and I found out she had a massive crush on me. So I asked her out one time and we meet up and had a really great day. We decided that we would meet up again soon and we did and she said she'd love to have a relationship with me etc and we kissed this time so all was going well. Then, a day later after a ridiculously long day at work I just get this single text message saying "can we just be friends?" I had no idea what the fuck was going on here, one minute she wanted a relationship, the next she just wanted to be friends. Obviously I asked her why and she just said she wasn't ready for a relationship because her last boyfriend treated her like shit and couldn't handle it. I just don't get it really, what the fuck is going on here. She knows I would never do anything to harm her because i'm very shy, laid back and ALWAYS put others before me. She knows all the difficulties i've been through in my life, having to look after my disabled sister when I could've been out partying and getting laid like my friends and that I was there when she passed away. I would never put anyone through that, hitting rock bottom, not even my worst enemies. She knows I would NEVER harm her and if I felt it wasn't going well I would tell her face to face, not with a text like a fucking coward. She claims it is just her and not me but sometimes I really doubt that because a similar thing happened last time round. I asked this other girl out, and we went out for a few weeks and then she just said she wanted to be friends and didn't want a relationship. After I think i'd got over her, I found out that she had been secretly seeing another guy behind my back. She broke my heart. Seriously, I just feel it is all too similar and the same shit is happening once again. I feel used, again. It's so frustrating because I love her to bits and really want to be with her, but I just don't see how.
yeah situations like this suck, but she doesnt really know you wont hurt her. give her time and just be there for her. now if shes doing other things with other dudes, then she is lying and just wants to do her thing.
I kid. Seriously, the fact that she was saying that she wanted to be in a relationship after one date, would send most guys screaming. It's her, not you. I don't know her or anything about her, but you can either waste your time waiting on her, or move on. You've sacrificed a lot of your fun for your sister, which by the way I'm sorry and I'm pretty sure you wouldn't change that, but it's your time now and you need someone whose a little more stable and a little less bi-polar. As for the other girl, she's just a cheap slut. My point is, I think you should "do you" as the kids says. Fuck, I hope you understand what I trying to say.
hehe thanks for the posts and all. Just feel I needed to vent it on here as well. Been speaking to my mates and they all echo what you say, to just let her go. I feel that is the best way to go, but obviously it's much easier said than done when you have feelings for her. There's no point moping around and just becoming depressed about it, it's just not worth it. It's just trying to be friends with her and just get on as normal which will be the real problem, I don't want to hold a grudge and all. Cheers.
ugh your too much of a nice guy. nice guys = friends. i know its cliche that girls like bad boys. but its true to a degree..find a balance between a nice guy and a bad boy ahaha after all, women want to date men..not boys. tips: play a little more hard to get be unexpected be bad...hahahah be more exciting be amazing in bed
So yeh, asked her today again if she wanted to meet up for a drink before work and she's like "oh but i get a lie in on that day".... Fuck that shit. I can't be bothered with her if she can't find any time for me, even as a FRIEND. She supposedly talks loads about me at work, is constantly saying about how she likes me etc etc. If she truly liked me, she wouldn't be fucking around with all these games. I've given her so many chances, and she's just blown her last one.
Trust me, she did you a favor by telling you she wasn't ready. If she had pursued that relationship with you, but she wasn't 100% sure you were right for her, you're relationship would've lasted about a month. What you do now is you be her friend. Prove to her that you aren't just another guy, and maybe you will get that chance?
i think its actually good she malfunctioned at the very early stages....i say drop her and move on because mentally fickle women spell trouble in every language on the planet man..
Maybe theres not much to get. They're girls so chances are they get more attention. Have periods. Spend longer lengths in the bathroom. Don't poop. But yeah mainly attention so try to factor that into perspective. That sounds like an excuse to me. You're not her other boyfriend. I can honestly say that people dont give a fuck what their past boyfriends are, if they're interested in you then they'll be with you. Just accept it and dont go crawling on your knees. Guaranteed if you would have been like "Yeah thats fine" her dumb little head wouldve exploded and been like OMG THATS FINEEE NOOOOO and down go her panties. That sounds boring. Maybe thats why? Its you my man. Time to change some things and be a little more outgoing? Idk. Either that or play the waiting game.
She just wants reassurance that you wont be like him. Even the most confident females are insecure deep down. Keep pushing for the relationship. Just use actions, not words. Make sure you plan times alone w/ her and just act it out till it becomes the case. Anything worth having wont come easy.
Cut her off 100% and do stuff to distract you from her. if its meant to be she'll come back to you, but yeah this shit sucks
This girl is right. She's not ready for a relationship. But not for the reasons she told you. She's not ready because she wanted to be in a relationship with you after one date, and then further cemented her undatability by changing her mind almost immediately. She's bad news and needs to grow up for a few more years before she should try to date anyone.