Okay I think there may be a problem in my life right this moment. There is this female I know for the sake of privacy (just in case and all) lets call her C. Anyway C and I have worked together for a long time and been good friends we know all the aspects of eachothers lives ( IE her unhappy marriage) anyway she came to work today (she had today off) and came into the kitchen and said Zach I need to talk to you, I was like ok so we went outside to talk. She then tells me I told my husband I was going out with Tracy, but I want to go out with you instead. (at this point I think I need to clarify 2 things. One I do have some feelings for her in a deep way feelings that have been there the whole time even before my crazy ass X left me. And 2 I was thinking Innocence just friends). So we go to this club then dinner and as the night is going on and on I notice we are getting closer and closer, to the point where and older couple asked us how long we had been married? We said we werent married and the couple responded really the way you two look at eachother I can see you are both totally in Love with one another. Now I am a little confused, freaked, and taken back. So the night is going on and we ended up kissing. She wanted to go with other things (yes the farthest level possible), but I couldnt do it. Shes married But the way she looks at me it feels real. its like being high without drugs, its just happiness for me which is something I have been without for a long time now. Now I wont Bullshit I really really wanted to go to that place with her and spend a night with her. But I just dont know, I have the biggest fear in the world of falling in love with someone and taking big commitment steps then 10 years down the line her hating me or something and saying I ruined her life. I feel for her in such a way I dont know if there is another for me. Now she is filing for divorce to get out of her unhappy marriage, but the question I have for the city is What should I do? I mean should I go after happiness, or turn my back on it and still have some level of honor I guess would be a good word. I know Karma is going to get me for kissing her, but it was deffinitly worth it
look homie. I say do whutever feels right for you. I'd go for the happiness cuz it seems u like this girl alot. And dont worry too much about the future. Like, if life throws some bullshit at you two, just do your best to get through it. You know whut I mean?
First have her try and work out her marriage. You don't want to be the guy that screws it up for their relationship, so it was a good thing you didn't sleep with her. And in the end if she ends up getting a divorce you know you have a really good chance with her.
don't do anything with her until her divorce is final. her soon-to-be-ex husband could use that against her during the divorce. i wouldn't even hang out with her as a friend until then. but tell her why.
right as i clicked on this thread "Santeria" by Sublime was playin, lol, kinda relating this back off untill the divorce is final
Dont get envolved if she has kids thats way fucked up to take a mom away from her family thast some shit
She's going to leave her husband regardless. I agree with TheHempress and sCaKmY, wait until the divorce is final.
Did I miss something? When did he say she had kids? Man, wait until the divorce is final, and go for it. If you make her happy and she makes you happy, there is no reason you shouldn't be together.
i said IF she has kids how do u think that having a boyfriend insted of a dad is better for the kids?
She filed for Divorce this morning. I am going to wait until the Divorce is final before I do anything and I told her that. I told her that I would support as best I could through it but we couldnt be together until it was final I just couldnt do that to her family. She understands and respects my decision. I appriciate what the city had to say about the whole situation. But I have to admit this is the first time in a long time I feel high without drugs, I mean damn anytime im around her its like this drug that takes me to new levels.
does she have kids? if so you're both fucking up large.. kids do NOT need an imposter in their lives.. i can vouche for that shit..
thats the same thing i told my mother... she just didnt understand it . now shes marrying the fucker. i hate her for it
No she doesnt have kids, I really would have a problem with myself if i would have done that. Now I am just trying to be a man here and fucking not hurt her. But still keep my distance from her. Does that make sence?
its not that hes abusive.. hes a mooch... all he does is drain everything. he never pays for anything and doesnt help around the house. he doesnt even make her happy. she cant see herself right now. she gets pissed cause he doesnt trust her and follows her everywhere.
Sorry to hear that shit man... My cousin had the same type of mother and while it's not bad when the dude knows his fucking place they usually don't. It'll be a cold day in hell when I get involved in something like that...and if I was forced to I'd probably be toking up with the kid an badmouthing the mother for screwing me. lol