I don't really know how to explain it. I have the ability to get information out of people. Whether it be, deep dark secrets, or really useful information. Thing is, people just, I dunno... Ever so willingly without hesitation just tell me these things, and I don't know why. Also, even without people telling me anything, I'm sometimes able to just, see things. Not with everyone though, I've only noticed it with some people. Whether it's the conditions, the environment, the circumstances, the situation, I don't know, it's only fairly new to me, so I don't exactly have control of this ability just yet. When I met my ex girlfriend for the first time, it was at her house. I was hanging with some friends and we went to one of my mates, friends places. It was there that I met this guys sister. It was probably more to do with me just being observant of the surroundings and the environment itself. But it was like, without even saying a word, I just looked into her eyes, and it was as if I'd already known her for such a long time. Just from looking into her eyes, I could see, what it had been like for her growing up in such an environment, and how that had affected her life. I told her what I saw, and she said it was as if I read her mind. After about an hour of talking with her, she just started telling me all these secrets no one else knows about. I mean, you just don't tell people you just met the sort of things she was telling me about. Maybe I'm just a person people can trust, but from what I could see, she felt really secure around me, I could also see that wasn't something she was used to experiencing with people. Once we started going out, I'd often go around her place to go and see her, as you do. Sometimes she wasn't there, so I'd just stay anyway and have a chat with her mum. Mum was telling me a story. Anyway, after a few hours of sitting and chatting with mum, the gf comes home. I told her what Mum and I were chatting about, the next thing I know, she is in tears. I'm freaking out thinking, shit, wtf did I do, did I say something wrong?! The story Mum had told me, was sworn never to be talked about in that house never again. Obviously it was a very sensitive topic, one that should only have been kept within the people of that household. I have no control over what people choose to tell me. I don't engage in conversation with people in the hope that they tell me stuff I shouldn't know. But they do anyway. It's something that has been happening a lot lately, I just wish I was able to control when it happens. Although I'm sure I will be able to in due time. So, what do you guys think it is? Some sort of gift? Or am I just really good at working people?
you're prolly good at working them dude. also its easier for some people to feel vulnerable and open up around strangers than with their close friends/family. so that might be it idk but good shit ull get hella bitches with that "gift" bitches like dudes who listen
I'm really more interested in the psychology of it all. How it's applied and what not. How it works, why it works, and what I do to make it work.
Charismatic maybe? I kno if i kno someone who is charismatic im much more likely to tell secrets Idk, id use this for ur advantage tho, go for leadership positions, go into business, customer service etc Cud just be rly good people skills
Lol dude you act like its a super power. Most people will open up that fast, hence why people say to be "mysterious." People who open up that fast may bore you fairly easy cause you know everything about them whereas a mysterious person that you hardly know would keep you wondering 'what is it about that person that makes them interesting...' Also, your body language probably displays that of a trustworthy person (open stance, no crossing of the arms or legs, etc.).
Yea but I actually did and I couldn't help but think that as well. Sounds like a mental self defense mechanism for being "the friend". Sure they tell you a lot, but in all honesty I don't have the time or care to devote 3 hours to a random chicks life story, that's the kind of special treatment I reserve for my girlfriend.
Did it ever occour to you that maybe they have something interesting to say? Very rarely do I even engage in conversation with chicks. Because usually 5 minutes in, I'm no longer interested in them. For the record, I've never once been friendzoned.
[quote name='"Derwin94"'] Did it ever occour to you that maybe they have something interesting to say? Very rarely do I even engage in conversation with chicks. Because usually 5 minutes in, I'm no longer interested in them. For the record, I've never once been friendzoned.[/quote] Never once I don't believe it