ok so some have read that my girl is moving in with me. and ditching her folks and all that fun stuff. well she did so last night. gets to my place about 4 am. her dad calls at like 9 am after searching for her. asks her friend to call hr other friend and call my brother to get my phone number. i chewed his ass out for that. but then i say i dont know shit, then he calls again like 10 minutes later and calls em a liar and shit saying "you better hope to god she isnt there cuz i will fuck your shit up" and then he proceeds to call me a punk and refers to me as dude and i say "ok first of all i am not your dude. second you will call me sir cuz i feel like i have earned the right to be called sir. and third she is an adult and she will do as she pleases. and finally i will fuck your shit up before you even think of a way to fuck up my world and really i already have, cuz it seems as though you have no control over things right now and you sound like you are desperate" and this whole time he is interupting me calling me a mother fucker and i just about hit the roof every time he did cuz. and then her mom calls a couple times and begs for me to have her talk to her and i said thats her decision and she will have to call you cuz i wont make her talk to anyone. and then we went out and my roommate said the phone has been ringing non stop. her grandma even called and they even got a friend that she hasnt talked to for like 5 months to call my house, and to get her to "hang out" sometime. i didnt fall for it. but good news. police called and asked her if she is gone on her own will and she is like yeah i left cuz i was pissed. her dad yelled at her for like 3 hours the other night by the by. but then they said that they couldnt do anything about it cuz its free will. well what do you think about that. some pickle i got myself into, right.
hahaa, seams like a heated situation, jus think bout this for a sec....if u do marry this chick her family is gonna be a part of your life, i always try to be nice to the family cause, 1 day, who knows...i dont like the idea of "ditching" your parents, they did bring you into this world, and love you, no reason to "fuck em"...i think shes ignorant for that and to talk it over with her parents and explain the situation, i wouldnt wanna be living with a chick when i know that only problems will come out of it...again i dont know your ages, could make it a big difference in my opinion but eh, in the end, its her choice....and thats all u gotta tell pops
un plug the phone, kick your feet up, and spark a bowl with your girl and enjoy the silence, after all, she left because of him yelling at her and being a dick, no reason to keep taking shit from him when she isnt even near him anymore. shit will cool down and until then fuck em let him deal with his own shit cause his daughter is old enough to make her own decisions and he needs to find his own way to respect that
wow man, it's like i'm watching a replay of my life. If you unplug the phone and shit, it may just get a lot worse. The mom/dad is liable to show up at your place if they can't get ahold of their daughter
well shit guys like ten minutes after i posted this the cops showed up at my place and asked what she was doing here. she is like "watching a movie" and they said why not at home. and she said she left on her own terms. and they said they couldnt do anything and so they called her mom and gave her my address, then she and her pops come by and take the car and like 1500 bucks that she had saved up. then they asked to talk to us and im like well im sure he wants to exchange a few words and a few fists. and i dont want to get into that so she will call them later. then we had the night to ourselves. but we turned off the ringer on the phone and slept forever. her dad is like 45 and like 5'7" 150lbs. i know i could take the fucker but i dont wanna have to. and i told her that i dont have a problem with them its them that has the problem with me. she talked a few times on the phone with her mom and every time she was like i dont care that you are gone just i dont want you around him. see the next thing that is going on is that her friend was engaged to my brother. hence our meeting. and when my bro broke it off she was upset of course but i was still a friend but as soon as i started dating this girl, she started talking shit about me and saying she shouldnt get involved with me and saying i have treated my other girlfriends like shit. very untrue i may add. and then saying to her folks that i put a bunch of shit into her head about stuff that really has not relevance to the situation. not a friend anymore to me. but now her dad keeps threatening to destroy my life. i have a few choice words i would like to express to him. words like fuck, you, head out of your ass, stupid, sandfrican-american. actually that one is funny. but yeah wish me luck.
Don't turn to racism. It just makes you look ignorant. You might as well stick your tongue at them and say "I know you are but what am I".
You knew this was potentially going to be very messy and unpleasant. Try and keep the moral high ground, though, and no matter how many silly threats he resorts to, don't threaten him back. Someone has to be the bigger man, and it'll be a whole lot better if that someone is you, cos it clearly isn't going to be him. As soon as you allow your anger to overtake your rationale, you are playing into his hands; all he wans is for you to look like the bad guy, and trust me on this - no matter what he says to you, if youstart laying your fists into her old man, your girlfriend might just have a change of heart about the whole thing. She left to get away from one controlling asshole; don't turn yourself into one. Let him call, threaten etc until he is blue in the face. Don't go down to his level; if you get angry you lose control, and if you lose control..... you usually lose the battle. YOu said yourself, it is him with the problem. Keep it that way.
haha that story was in shambles, id have to guess you are going at a pretty full speed lately man, sounds stressful but i remember reading the post of you thinking about having her move in a while ago and shit, so it seems like you at least put some good thought into it all ive got to say, is if possible, try to not be too mean to the parents, just handle it maturely, let them be dumbasses and yell, stop answering their calls, and then just wait until thye are ready to maturely discuss it and come to terms with both of your adult decisions
It's a good thought, but it doesn't sound to me like the dad is willing to concede a single point or to see things get any easier. There's really no good answer. Why the fuck did her dad take HER $1500? she could have his dumbass arrested for theft if this is truly the case.
just thought i would update this whole situation. on the night of Jan 2 i get a call from my girls mom saying she was planning on coming and getting her things and when a good time would be. i said tomorrow, being the 3rd, well i called a few people like my uncle who is a cop and he said that i dont have to give her mom anything without expressed permission from my girl. then luckily her mom called back to confirm a list of things that she wanted ready for her to take. and i said im not giving her anything until i talk to my girlfriend and hear from her that its ok to take them. well then her mom says that she has never had a job and therefore has no say in it because all the things were given to her by her parents. then i said that she is an adult and by law they are hers because she uses them and now they are rightfully hers. and she was like no you are wrong and that she is coming to get them anyways. well at that point i wasnt able to talk to my girlfriend for the past week pretty much and so she didnt get any of my emails or messages or anything. and so she didnt know all of the things i was telling her like the fact that they cant legal restrain her from leaving and that they are basically holding her hostage and shit like that, so then i walk 3 miles to her house with my roomate and when we get to her house i scope it out to see if anyone is in the house and to see if i could possibly get her attention without letting her mom know about it. well i got up to their front window and tried to tap on the window but her mom kept walking by and i was sitting there for like 30 minutes. so then i get my roomate to knock on the door and try to get her mom to let her come out. but she never opened the door. then im standing like right on the other side of a pilar so she cant see me and i hear something about machine guns and "i dare you to leave" then i peak around and i see something that looks long and dark and in her moms hands. and i know for a fact that they have 2 AKs and an AR so i know they are packing. then i sit for a bit and i knock on the door myself and she still isnt answering the door and all i say is that i want to talk to her for just a moment and that i am not leaving until i do and that i plan on standing in front of the house off of the property until i can see her. so then she calls the cops. i was cool with it cuz i didnt know i had any warrants right. well the cop asks me whats up and i tell him everything thats going on and i follow all text book procedures without him having to tell me to do it like crossing my legs when i sit down and crossing my hands and pulling up my sleeves. but then he cuffs me " for my own protection" and gets me in the car and lets me know i have a warrant and has to take me even though i havent done anything wrong yet. so i reluctantly go quietly but in the mean time he talks to her mom and i can hear her talking about me "banging on the door and screaming at her" and that was a blatant lie. so then i tell my roomate that it looks like im not going to work the next day and to call in the morning and say that im going to be out for a few days at most but i will contact him as soon as possible. so then we ride on over to the station and they book me and i go to another jail to get booked and then 24 hours later i get to the main jail where i will be staying. then i get a visit from my mom and i let her know whats going on. and i sit there for another 9 days. one of them being my 21st birthday. and then i get out. now my girl just talked to her parents about how shitty things have gotten with them and they werent having any of it and so now she plans on coming back to stay with me and for good this time with firm footing and not gonna budge. so hows that for the new year and for what was supposed to be the best birthday of anyones life. but i would do it again for her.
Can't say I really blame them for not wanting their daughter to live with someone who sounds so argumentative when it comes to showing respect or manners
Wow, I was about to write a big thread about how pissed off i am right now with my work, but I feel alot better now, thanks!
Hey besides the fucked up situation hows the weed and whats the prices used to live in glendale so was just curious
well maybe i didnt say before and my bad but im more than happy to work with things here but you see they are the ones who have judged me based on nothing they know or at least they think they know me. and they wont give me a chance to even talk to them and they dont want to have anything to do with me. so that there is a complete lack of respect on their end. and so i dont think they deserve any respect from me at all. and when her dad calls me up and calls me a dude, a punk and a mother fucker every other sentence then that makes me lose all respect for him. and as for her mom, she lied to me about saying that they just want to have her at home so they can figure out what is going on to make her do something like this and then they go and say they dont want me to contact her anymore. that also is a lack of respect. i havent said or done anything to them to begin with that would make them do this. they should respect me for one because i am the one she turned to when she felt she couldnt turn to her parents. so lack of respect on my part i dont think so but nice try
so nice little update on my shitty situation.... well i find out today just before i leave work that my girl decided to stay at my ex girlfriends house. im not worried about it by the way cuz we are good friends. but then her dad is all sitting outside my house when i get home. and he goes up to talk to me. but im like nope and went inside. then i got a call from her mom tellin me that i kidnapped her and im like dude what the fuck are you talking about, i have been at work all day and she is like well your sister had something to do with it i know, and im like dude she works downtown all day and couldnt have possibly done anything. then she is like well your exgirlfriend did something then and im like well maybe she did but i dont know anything about it. i am recording this conversation too by the way but she dont know it. then she is still being unruly so i got in her face a bit and told her to fuck off. then i went outside again cuz i wanted to get into it with her dad but he throw the punch first right, well i go to check the mail and he starts stroling up calling me a mother fucker like i hate, and saying he is gonna fuck me up and im like dude im a foot taller than your ass and i dare you to fucking touch me cuz after that im legally able to fuck you up. him: well not here me: then where cuz ill be happy to show up any fucking time you want just name the fucking place so i can give you whats comming to you. him: dont fucking worry i will fuck you up then i walk away and he turns to go back to his car, then a minute later he pulls up next to me and starts talking shit about me being in the marines and i fuckin flipped. and i was cool before but thats my switch you know. talking about me being disabled and im like yeah cuz i got shot but even then im still just fine, he was like what in the ass and i said no in the knee and he best shut the fuck up before i rip his ass out of that piece of shit he was driving. so he continues to badger me but i know if i fuck this up then im going to jail right, so i stop in front of the car and tell him to get out. he sits tight and doesnt say anything. so my girls sister is in there too, she is like get the fuck out of the road, i was like you shut the fuck up i wasnt talking to you. and the dad is all pissed now and reving his shit, and im like fucking touch me stupid ass and you are fucking dead and im not afraid to kill another "sandfrican american" (not my exact words) so he cuts hard and drives out. what a day, and i didnt do anything wrong this time. ha only a matter of time before i have the releif of him knowing i win.
mane pimp hand that bitch an tell that mother fuckin shes your girl now, mother fucker callin my house non stop and callin the police an shit id whoop his ass