I'll be straight about this. Basically, my girlfriend has said if you are going to smoke weed i can't be with you. She just really hates it and thinks its disgusting, that's just who she is. What would you do in that situation? It's not like i even smoke a lot, generally i do most days but i don't when she's with me or anything and i don't smoke much in a day, but that's what she has said. I want to just say okay i'll stop but the main thing about it that bothers me is that she can't accept me doing it. What does GC think?
if she wont be with you because you smoke weed, she really must not think much of your relationship. would you wanna be with a girl like that?
Hmm, i don't know. We've been through a lot, and i really love her and i know she loves me. She just really hates weed. Her brother is screwed in life and he smoked weed a lot and she has always blamed that from when she was very young and so she's always thought it was bad. I don't know what to do.
ive been in situations like this before man and its never an easy decision. if it was me, id take a step back and think deeply about whether i was ready to make a change like that
I don't kow dude, it's up to you. You know this girl, is she worth giving up the herb for?...or is the herb worth giving her up? Personally anyone who gives me any kind of ultimatum has already lost, let alone with marijuana. It's fucked up and inconsiderate. It's not like she all of a sudden discovered your habit, she knew from the get go, right? The way I see it, you give into utlimatums like this one and along the way you find yourself having to give up other things you enjoy doing and slowly becoming someone else. I don't know, good luck.
I believe someone special is worth giving up herb for (trust me i love herb as well). Its hard to believe that weed is the only thing you disagree with though.. Maybe she is just using weed as an excuse? Theres gotta be some deeper level issues goin on than soley the fact you smoke.
i wouldn't like a girl tryin to change my behavior in order to be with them. in my experience that is just someone looking to see how much control they have over you. i guess you have to decide if her intentions are good. your call man. honestly i have never really gotten too involved with a person who had something against weed.... i dont think i could handle that. i'm not a total stoner but people definitely understand that i smoke when they get to know me. love it or leave it.... (not my motto but that is the trend i am picking up on)
It's not just weed. She doesn't like when i drink either, or cigarettes. Weed is the main thing though, she just hates it. I think i will stop for her, i just don't want too. I love coming from from a long day and kicking back, slowly smoking a joint and just relaxing. She is worth it, honestly though, it's not actually the stopping of smoking it, it's more the fact she can't accept it as something i do. I think a lot of it comes from her ex smoking a lot and treating her like shit and that also gave her a bad image on it, although he was just a complete fuck. This sucks...
Booze and cigarettes are fine for now but bud isn't? That's nuts. She should educate herself about the matter a little.
I hate to say I haven't read this thread yet except the op, but I haven't. Anyways I'm gonna tell you exactly what I told mine: If you fell for me when I smoked and liked before you knew, then You should still like me now, because nothings changed.
No, thats not just who she is. Using that is just an excuse for ignorance. If she feels that way about weed, its because she is uneducated about it. And if she refuses to have an open mind about it, and is not open to leanring the truth about it, then she is ignorant, and you don't want to be around her. imagine the other things she will form an opinion on and won't budge. Ignorance is not an excuse, its a justification for the lazy not to open their eyes and their mind and learn the truth about something. Allows them to hold on to their unjustified opinions, and not ever have to use their minds to actually think. If that is her, go find someone else.
I agree 100%. You are not her brother, or her EX. wtf? this girl better be drop dead sexy if your thinking about saying goodbye to MaryJane.
i'd tell her this "okay babe i'll stop if that's what you want" "OMGG!!! REAdYLLYY??" "no don't call me again if you're gonna control MY life bitch" you don't even know what love is. also how do you know she loved you? did she say it? lol
Eh, not something i particularly just want to explain out to the internet. I just want opinions on the situation and what others would do.
most people are going to agree with me. don't change yourself for other people. isn't the point of a relationship to take someone as they are? they're strengths and faults all in one package? if not please remind me what a relationship is.
just do it man before she dumps you. even if you quit for her, i can guaren-fucking-tee, you aren't gonna be with this girl for the rest of your life. so why waste more time with someone who can't even accept you smoke weed?
I understand what you're saying there. Definitely going to have to take a few days to really think about it. Any other opinions are welcome.