I see that I have a share of people who think I'm alright and another share who dont want to have anything to do with me ie look away when they see me pretend to not know me or just laugh when they see me. Especially my cousin. Last conversation was on Facebook, and it was him calling me a bitch and a fuck up. Havent talked to him since.
That's sad that your family would call you such names. Listen, we are all different everyone is awkward in there own way. Some signs of being a "Social reject/awkward" would be having no friends and people feeling uncomfortable around you. I use to be very awkward. Really you make yourself awkward your not born that way and you can change it easily.Don't be scared around people thats the number one thing you need to change. Try and be nice and be ENGAGING in a coversation, let people know you like talking to them and are truly interested. Talk to more people man be more outgoing and up for a good time. Don't sit by yourself not talking to anyone! Then it's impossible for you to branch out and form connections with people! My two cents.
its like i try talking to people and being nice but there are just the ones who pick up on my idiosyncracies quirks and unusual habits that i have no idea im doing then just thing I'm a weird loser
Just because you are socially awkward doesn't mean you're a screw up. I'm incredibly socially awkward, but I get to release on online forums. However, the more you stay inside and avoid social contact the more unfamiliar you'll become with what normal human interaction feels like. You're just out of practice. To notice a socially awkward person these are the signs: When talking they will rarely make eye contact, eye contact is painful to them. Small talk is difficult. They wont have much response, everything most social people say is too trivial and nonsensical, so they might respond with "uhuh, cool, really, neat, awesome, hmm," or something along the lines of that. I dunno...
If you don't like yourself just work on yourself. Stop doing all the things people find weird. That's all.
They obviously arent for you.. Ill tell you right now im a weird ass motherfucker lol and my BEST friend. Known this guy FOREVER is the POLAR OPPOSITE HUMAN BEING that i am. like legitmately polar opposite. And idk man. He knows my random social oddities and i know his Real friendships are give and take relationships
Well I'm socially awkward, and it is because I'm nervous of letting people see who I really am. I normally say things that are too deep for people to understand so I have learned to dislike who I am when really it's just people who are stupid. Just learn how to say what you want to say so people can understand you. When I'm being nervous/awkward I'm not being who I really am. I feel like someones holding my mouth shut and making me judge myself.
Well don't stop being an individual but if your truly concerned with what people think of you, just try and work on your odd quirks and habits. For example I pick my nose sometimes now I don't do it in public because people may find that weird. Apply that to your situation.
I relate to so many of those And a lot of that. True story: I waited months before I posted on grasscity. I was too nervous to post a single thing, my first post was 7 or 8 months after I signed up. I'm a weird guy
I know and see a lot of weird ass people and all of them have friends. Find people with common interests. You like video games? Find some friends to play video games with. You'll build from there. Basically just find any interest and go find other people with that interest. It'll be easy to talk to them and make friends. might as well try
i wouldn't consider myself socially awkward at all but sometimes when i'm in conversation i just get a little bit of anxiety, kinda move my hands around and stuff. but im certainly not awkward and not afraid to look someone in the eye, make some jokes, flirt with girls, etc. ive come to believe that ill experience the slightest amount of social anxiety throughout every day. although generally im a very confident person and social. i have no problem talking to people its just something that stems from childhood i think, i was constantly bullied and afraid of judgement
Social Rejects unite! Hey at least non of us are redoing the columbine shootings or anything crazy like that.
Or you might just be a sociopath like me and enjoy the fact that people think you are weird. While I am not the one to sit on the couch at the party, I will be the one to stand on top of it and dance like no one is watching.... which usually leads people to...walk away from me : D ahahaahaha. I don't give a fuck though, because I am me, and I am having way more fun than they are. I give 0 fucks for social convention. When people try small talk with you, they want to know you. Sometimes you gotta start small talk with them. Socializing is about small talk. Friendships are about philosophical talk. When you go to a party, good chances are the people are going to be raving idiots and have nothing interesting to say. Just deal with it. I once laughed with a guy that a beer pong configuration looked like a vagina...but inside I was saying "You are a fucking retard man." Socializing is being fake with people. Friendships are about being real. Relationships are about sacrificing.
Its funny... humans are weakminded. I'm weird as shit, me and my group of friends are, but we're the most popular/sought after group in our school. http://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_shapes_who_you_are.html?fb_action_ids=10151349589841979&fb_action_types=og.likes&fb_source=other_multiline&action_object_map={%2210151349589841979%22%3A112992362187962}&action_type_map={%2210151349589841979%22%3A%22og.likes%22}&action_ref_map=[] The video is great for helping with social interaction, confidence is KEY. If you look calm, cool, comfortable, collected, AND you handle stress well, people automatically think you are cool and know what you are doing, which makes them want to be around you. Most things aren't too deep for people to understand, they just don't want to talk about it. If you try to force abstract ideas on people, they'll get uncomfortable and not want to get down with it. I've got a head full of lyrics, quotes, theories, philosophies, quantum physics, engineering, etc; but I don't go whipping around that knowledge whenever. I think the words you don't say are more important than the ones that do, so if you come off as a quiet kid and you bust out some dope ideas in a conversation, people will respect you more because you will be unexpectedly deep and look cooler than if you talked theories all the time. Social interaction is a science, I kinda view the world from a birds eye view and I can pick apart and piece together these interactions to make sense of it. Enjoy!