Weed coming between me and my brother

i have been in both of your shoes to be honest.
i use to blaze all day every day.
these days i smoke maybe once or twice, depending on how much i have to do.
now i feel much more productive.

its called being 20 man.
living fast and striving for cash.

he'll grow up eventually.

 

You can say no, that's enough for me...it's not a crime...

 

Tell him the truth?

 

Separate.
You can be bros but you don't have to be identical twins.
You have your style and he has his. If he's not open to your style, stop hanging out with him. I know that sucks, but you gotta do what's best for you. A lot of people are what's called "controllers" meaning they can't just let other people be themselves, they try to control the situation and control the person by saying things like "C'mon man... just smoke another blunt with me! What are you, a pussy?! Dude c'mon... don't be a loser."
That's a control tactic, because there are just some people out there who are not okay with others have their own identity and boundaries.

I would stop hanging out with him as much, if he asks why, say something like "We aren't on the same level bro, and that's fine, but you're always trying to pull me down to yours and I don't wanna go that route."
Maybe after a while of doing that, he'll start gettin' it.

 

yeah man ckycampmember is right, if i were u ide be honest with him and get ur bud from someone else that way its not like you are both doing a favor to yourselfs. sometimes its just best to smoke your own by your own if u know what i mean

 

take a couple puffs to get a good buzz on

smoke a couple grams for a good buzz on

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which one would you prefer??

overall you save more money and time being the stoner who can get high from just a couple hits, smoking is not a contest or anything, good luck between you and your bro I hope you can open his eyes and make him cut back a bit

 

I wouldn't worry about it too much. Your bro is gonna be a burnout, you should make him realize there's gotta be a smoking balance. I'd love to be high all the time but if I can't be productive I've gotta stop, cuz that shit can eat up your life if you let it. Gotta have your priorities straight.

 

These simple words solve most problems. While things may not get resolved now, at least you will have confronted it.

Choose your words carefully, the right ones can change destinies. Speak your heart, and tell the truth about yourself as well. Do not respond to anger with anger, your calm must be maintained. Remember your intention, to help him. Gently guide him from the path he takes now, for it shows dark endings. Even a nudge in the right direction can avoid disaster.

 

[quote name='"Justadailytoke"']take a couple puffs to get a good buzz on

smoke a couple grams for a good buzz on
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Sorry but..... What?

 

[quote name='"towwffc"']My bro is 20 and i'm 23. We're both seasoned tokers but he's taken it way overboard for me. I am a productive smoker, I like to smoke from the bowl throughout the day and possibly 1 blunt if I feel like it...

All he does it smoke blunts ALL DAY. He works, then when he's out he feels like he has to smoke to feel ok. He smokes up to 8 blunts a day! Which is waaaay to much for me. I like to get high to feel good and have a good time. But when i'm with him we smoke until we turn into half asleep zombies. As soon as we're finished he goes and smokes more with somebody else.

He is also a dealer so I often get to smoke for free as well as buy my bud off of him. But it's not cool when he takes me with to serve somebody or bring weed in my car and i'm nervous as fuck every time a cop pulls behind us.

The problem is he doesn't ever consider smoking anything less. He just assumes I will smoke more, and I might have to stop hanging out with him as much because I feel like a raggedy bum after I hangout with him too much :/ I can't waste my entire days sitting on my ass smoking blunts. It's too much for me.[/quote]

Pay for your weed you bum. Get a bong. Stop doing his work for him, he drives NOT you. blunt after blunt would be too much for me to, so your right. Does he have a house or apartment?

 

thats what i was thinking aha, i think hes talking about the difference between the two.

One smokes a couple hits for a good buzz

One smokes a couple grams for a good buzz

even though he worded it all fucky

 

How does his dealer brother smoking him out make him a bum? I doubt he's begging for free weed around every corner. His bro obviously just helps him out on occasion just like a brother in that position should. If someone is going to offer to smoke you out, you're probably gonna take it.

 

DUDe let him live life the way he wants to, honestly Im happy with my life and I'm like that too, ( I go to work, I sell, and smoke weed all day, and go chill wit my friends), I make alot of money and have my own place so Im not a bum why can't people get high all day long?

 

Everyone's different, who says his tolerance isn't higher and that's just what he consumes to get a certain level of high? And yeah, maybe he does go a little overboard, but try not to focus on him, or at least try not to assume. Things could be going on that you don't know about, but like I said, everyone's different, even if you are brothers.

Me and my bro had the same issue but I was the one smoking more. If you don't want to smoke as much, don't. But I would let him come to his own conclusions about how much he smokes; don't try to force something upon him, you can share your view, but don't force or "aggressively preach" to him, that is what will make you guys not talk.

 

As long as he's using his own money, he can live how he wants to. If you're concerned about him, maybe you should have a chat with him. Don't make him feel like he's doing something wrong just bc you don't agree with it, but let him know you're concerned about him.

If all he wants to do all day is smoke, and you need to back away from that, do it. Honestly, though, it sounds like you enjoy benefitting from his habit/"profession" (dealing)/generosity. IMO you can't let him smoke you out and then give him a lecture about how he is smoking too much. You also can't help him smoke his profit and then act worried about him being in your car. It just seems really hypocritical, and I wouldn't take anyone seriously who tried to give me a talk about my habit while they were reaping the rewards.

Basically, I think you should stop smoking with him for a few days and THEN tell him how you feel. You gotta stick to your guns though. If you want to smoke with him and you don't like his dealing behaviors, tell him that, but be prepared to throw down half on every smoke from now on. If you do that, he'll have no right to deal in front of you when you've asked him not to.

Good luck homie

 

Just sounds like you needed to learn to say 'no', which you seem to have learned. You can still smoke with him, but when you're done, just say it and let him continue on his own.

As for the car thing, that's all on you if you know he sells. That's another thing you can easily say no to, I know my brother used to all the time. But if you're gonna be smoking, you're gonna have to get used to the feeling of having weed in the car.

Good luck, and happy smoking bro.

 

If it was my brother I would have just talked to him about it.lol