Well, here's the deal. My Mom is getting married today. I don't think I'm going to go. Reasoning- My Father would not have approved of me going (Or any of this in general). I know that for damn sure. This guy is a total prick. He's lived with us for over 5 years now and we haven't said more than 1000 words to each other. I've given him plenty of chances to get to know me, but he simply shrugs me and my brother off. I feel like he sees us both as a bother, because we'll both be gone soon anyway. I'm happy that my Mother is happy, and she knows that. I've congratulated her, bought her a rather pricey wedding gift, but... I'm just not happy about the guy she's marrying. Any thoughts / advice? There's obviously more to this than I can explain in one post. 5 years of fights and unnecessary arguments.
If you dont support it, dont go, you'll bring everyone down who is there to support it. I don't mean that in a negative way, seeing as those who support the wedding may not see the whole picture.
I do feel really bad about not going, but... I just can't bring myself to go. Thanks for the input, making it much easier already.
I'm sure she will understand if she's a reasonable person. A few years down the road, she will see why you guys didn't go. Step dads never last very long.
If my mom was getting remarried i wouldnt be going to the wedding unless i knew the guy was a good guy, or he had alot of money. (My moms a divorce lawyer she can probably get some nice shit by divorcing him lol)
If it makes you feel better, when my mom married my step dad (theyve been separated for years now, the whole thing lasted maybe 6 years) she went across the country to Rhode Island and we weren't even invited. It was during the school year, I was 10, and I probably wouldnt have gone even if they did invite me, which is probably why they saved their breath.
Don't go for him. Go for your mom. It's probably true that he sees you as a bother- a lot of people don't like teenagers (or kids in general). But since you will move out soon, you don't have to be his BFF, or even like him. You never know though, once you move out, and he sees you as an adult peer, you might have a different relationship with him one day. Either way, it's not about you, or him. It's about your mom.
She didn't even tell me about it. She told me a few months ago she was he asked her to marry him... Didn't hear anything after that. I was at a family get together a few weeks ago, and my Aunt was like "So, are you excited for the wedding?" And I was just kinda like "Wait, what?" She was pissed when I told her I'm not going, but ... I hope she'll eventually understand, like you said.
He's around 5'10, I'm almost 6'7. He's tried me before, and I doubt he will again haha. I would literally destroy him. But that isn't the point, I'm not trying to hurt anyone here. inb4 "You're hurting your mother by not going"