Hey guys. I just can't seem to get this out of my head. You see I just recently kicked my now EX boyfriend out because he was making me feel ugly and unworthy and I thought I deserved better than that. Rewind back to why I started feeling that way; At the last of our relationship things got worse, he started ignoring me more and neglecting me. For example; I had just got out of the bath, (i'm just in my towel, & he knew I was in the bath to begin with) I go in my room to try and get his attention and he has his back to me watching a show on Youtube on the iPad, so I say something to him figuring he'd turn around, he didn't, he just answered me with his back still to me. Before that for a week straight he's been watching his iPad and not showing me any attention. At this point I'm feeling pretty low. So after he gets off work I try to talk to him about how I'm feeling and he got pissed off and says "all you do is bitch" claiming he doesn't ignore me or anything. I just got so fed up that I kicked him out and broke it off. Come to find out, when I was gathering his things to take to him I found a porn magazine "backdoor babes" along with a fake black pussy (it hurt me because it was the opposite of me) Like he didn't want who I was. & I felt so hurt and ugly & unwanted. I felt like I wasn't enough. I'm still hurt about it. & I just wanted to get it off my chest. To anyone that listened, thank you. ~
You have to remember everyone has their own tastes and desires. It is not a reflection on you. The issue you really should be concerned with here is why do you feel so down on yourself? Your feelings of inadequacy has more to do with you than they have with him. You need to be happy with yourself and who you are. Maybe talk to a therapist if you can. Best of luck.
Coming from a single guy, if someone doesn't make you happy then why be with them? I would say to just sit down and have a talk but have recently seen a few abusive relationships. Use your best judgement and vent away!
seems like he didn't care about you. that really isn't your fault. If anything is your fault it's the fact that you kept trying after he showed no interest. You shouldn't be with any person if they don't give as much effort as you do, or even show they want to be with you. Why buy a fake pussy if you live with a real, willing one ?? Anyway feel better if you need to vent more my inbox is half empty
Thanks for the replies, guys. Terry - I don't understand either. I just tried for so long because we were together for years. Darkness420 - I already tried talking to him before all this happened and it didn't go well, that's why I decided to kick him out & move on, because I know I deserve better. Plus I'm moving to Florida soon anyway. I feel much better now that I have had time to myself to reflect. I don't miss him at all. Actually I've realized that I'm enjoying time to myself. I'm happier without him. I realized that I love me without him.
You gotta always remember that you tried and that's all you can do. 🻠His loss is Your gain to a better future with someone who will give you the respect and attention you deserve!! Stay strong and keep your head up fadedfeline Sent from my iPhone using Grasscity Forum mobile app
I read your story, i understand. However, there is room for all of us to learn and why waste a learning experience, unless we want to live through the same bullshit again! Communication issues break up relationships more than anything.. I believe they claim 80% while the other 20% fall into finances. The thing about these 2 things are that we, as people, are expected to be masters at these 2 things: Talking to our fellow people and money. Sadly, most of us are not and so navigating the territory of relationships can often be a learning experience in itself and if you truly want to find a balance in any relationship, you need to be willing to learn those two things JUST to keep your relationship moving forward. Actually enjoying it is another story entirely. I can sense your quiet desperation when you describe the scenario of getting out of the shower and expecting your boyfriend to turn to you and i just wanna let you know that if you do not communicate that desperation, you are going to be experiencing it in every relationship you ever have. People need direction.. A relationship is two people directing each other towards a common goal. I am not saying your recent relationship was worth saving or that the communication i am talking about would of, but i am just saying that looking forward, you need to communicate the expectation. Set the limit. This way, these kinds of things that upset you just do not happen or if they do, then you actually know for a fact that the person is doing it on purpose, rather than just making a simple mistake. Often when the limit is set, a very simple reminder is all that is needed to remedy this lack of communication. Anyways, like everyone else has said, the guy did not sound totally interested to begin with and if your moving, i am sure your start will be fresh, but just keep in mind what i have said because i can say in almost absolute certainty that you will be dealing with this scenario at some point in the future again. Best of luck.
All I did was try to communicate with him but he just never listened to me. Other things were more important to him, I guess. Plus I was always the one to make the first move and I just wanted him to make the first move for once, keep in mind we were together for 4 years. & I'm sure I'll be in this scenario again in the future but the difference will be a man not a boy like he was. And I know a man, the kind of man that I want, wouldn't be able to keep his eyes or hands off me knowing I was only in a towel. I think I deserve at least that. He wouldn't be easily distracted and enticed by watching skate videos on the iPad. He was always bad with communication. And I would always tell him that he needs to have better communication with me or it will be the death of us. I'm glad it happened the way it did though because now I can find someone who gives me the right attention and affection, I deserve. Thanks for the wonderful advice though.
Man I get in trouble for not keeping my hands off my girl. But now she made me feel like a creeper so I stopped fucking with her and now she sounds just like you I'm ignoring her n shit. Not saying that's what you did at all. I'm just venting too. Lol maybe she should learn to motivate a mf to do the shit she wants instead of bitch about what she doesn't. Idk but I'm tired of being Jerked back and forth. Sent from my SM-N920T using Grasscity Forum mobile app
Did you ever communicate these wants? Like did you ever tell him exactly what you said in this post? Communication is a 2 way street and blaming it all on 1 person is usually wrong.
If true, you did all you could and its good you moved on. It seems like all your bfs moved into your place. It seems kinda strange to me. How long do you see a person before they move in?
He was the first guy I was with that moved in with me, & he got kicked out of his apartment and had nowhere to go so I thought I was doing something good.
Sometimes when you have the same problems over and over with different people the solution is internal.
Yeah I wish my ex couldn't keep his hands off me, I would've eaten that shit up. I'm sorry that you feel that way tho.
It's chill my son is worth it. And she's gotta calm the crazy down after that lol. You need a grow something! Fuck a man lol Sent from my SM-N920T using Grasscity Forum mobile app
Hahah. I hope it works out and she calms the crazy down! That's my problem, I've never fucked a man just boys. Good genuine men are rare. BUT Ik I'll find him, and I'm not gonna settle for nothing less.
You'll get a good guy one day, just stay positive. Sent from my SCH-I535 using Grasscity Forum mobile app