Uncomfortable Silences

Discussion in 'General' started by Mortikai, Aug 25, 2008.

  1. So I was walking with a group of people I didn't much know and I'm just kinda walking along, doing my thing or whatever and the guy walking next to me asks me "You don't talk much, do you?"

    Well, I don't, so naturally I responded "Nah not really, I mean if I have something to say I'll say it but generally I'm pretty comfortably in almost any silence." Which I always looked at as a positive thing, at least on my end. I mean, who likes being uncomfortable? I don't, so I just get over it and enjoy the peace and quiet if things ever get hush-hush.

    But this guy I was walking next to adamantly declared that being so comfortably in virtually any silent situation was a bad thing. I mean I can get where he's coming from, but in an important situation I know not to let things get droll....

    Anyway, I don't mean to ramble... anyone else like me?
  2. There's a difference between being shy and being reserved and not blurting out all the dumb shit that comes into your head like some people do. Being comfortable during silences depends on the person for me, but it's a definitely a good thing.
  3. silence is everywhere. It is the underlying stillness behind space, behind sound. It is naked divinity. There is absolutely nothing even remotely uncomfortable about it. It is only the egoic human mind that is forever restless and looking for substance to feed on to feel alive that feels uncomfortable or restless when it is doing 'nothing' or when there is complete silence.

    Keep on keepin on
  4. And in the naked light I saw
    Ten thousand people, maybe more.
    People talking without speaking,
    People hearing without listening,
    People writing songs that voices never share
    And no one deared
    Disturb the sound of silence.
  5. Depends on who I'm with. Some people I just have really nothing to talk to about and I'm totally fine with that, if they aren't then it's their problem. With other people I have to remind myself to shut up once in a while. I guess some people can just talk and talk with anyone, but usually these people annoy the shit out of me because what they're talking about I have either no interest in or totally disagree with. It's like they're just thinking out loud because they can't think in their heads.
  6. there are comfortable and uncomfortable silences
  7. yeah man i know what you mean, this summer i went on vacation to myrtle beach with my family and i meet a group of people that i would hang out with during it. And the first day we were all sitting in the lobby just chillin (they were all straight edge but i had taken 2 hydrocodone and i had 2 glasses of wine, so i was feeling good) anyway we were sitting there for like 30sec of just quiet and i was lookin around the room and this sexy fox goes, So...awkward, i asked how so? they said it was weird with it being quiet, and i said it was weird that they needed pointless small talk going on for them to feel comfortable. Personally i feel more awkward if pointless small talk is going on because you cant really relate to it. I dont talk much either, but when i have something to say i definetly dont hold back
  8. I don't really talk much at all, unless Im around people in my circle.
  9. Yeah like bleezie said there are comfortable silences and uncomfortable silences.
  10. i appreciate people who listen more than those who talk,

    if that answers your question.

    and the people that talk incessantly. . . i tend to stray away from.
  11. Man I'm with you on not really giving a damn about silence...

    But sometimes those silent moments follow some awkward shit.
  12. haha true

    i myself have seemed to not be able to feel awkward anymore, i dont mind silence either, but i dunno i feel like i had more to see but i think i forgot
  13. I only talk alot around my close friends. Sometimes when Im with my close friends I tag along when they hangout with their friends that I'm not close to so I don't talk much. They always have to point out the fact that I don't talk much. I don't really feel the need to make small talk with people I don't know...or don't care about. And I don't really mind silence. Its not akward to me.

  14. Tell yourself whatever makes you feel better about social anxiety :p Not ragging on you, just saying don't deny it.
  15. I'm not denying anything.

  16. i agree with bleezie

    i always though uncomfortable silence would be a good name for a band lol
  17. "Uncomfortable silences. Why do we feel it's necessary to yak about bullshit in order to be comfortable? That's when you know you've found somebody special. When you can just shut the fuck up for a minute and comfortably enjoy the silence."

    edit: fuck you imageshack. whats up with image hosting on GC lately? Hasnt worked for me in the past week.
  18. Well, I hate small talk. So I guess that puts me into the same catagory as you, OP. I'll say something in a conversation, and I'm pretty opinionated so I'm not afraid to speak my mind. However, I hate talking just to talk so I'll usually just keep quiet.
  19. And I thought I was going to be the first lol.
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    I'm the type of person that likes substance. So a meaningless conversation or one that consists of gossip simply doesn't interest me enough to make me want to contribute. I'm not mute and I tend to still throw my voice in whenever the moment is right, but I'm certainly not actively steering such a convo. It's all subjective though, naturally if there's something being discussed that you know about you will want to open up and provide your opinion/experience with the topic on hand. It's just that most of the stuff that interests me can't be easily brought up in casual conversations. So be it. It is a huge pet peeve when someone points out that you're being quiet, though.

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