Dismiss Notice
Food and Drug Administration (FDA) Disclosure:

The statements in this forum have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration and are generated by non-professional writers. Any products described are not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease.

Website Disclosure:

This forum contains general information about diet, health and nutrition. The information is not advice and is not a substitute for advice from a healthcare professional.

Tough stuff.

Discussion in 'Apprentice Marijuana Consumption' started by Muphin, Oct 9, 2011.

  1. #1 Muphin, Oct 9, 2011
    I started smoking regularly (as in at least once a week) around April of this year. I turned 21 in March, and it's been an absolute blast this past summer and now soon to be fall. I've made lots of friends through smoking and experienced things that would never had touched my life if not for its profound ability to bring people and their minds together in a unique way.
    However...
    As I grew responsible and began buying on my own so I didn't have to mooch off of friends, I began noticing that I am one of the few who puts money away at each paycheck (these are mostly coworkers) for the future, where the others spend pretty much all their 2 week paycheck in the first week. Obviously this is a stupid way to live, but they live close to work, don't go to college, and have no discernible plans for the future, and always hit me up to hang out on that second week because they know I don't blow all my bud and money right away.
    They enjoy sharing the love (bud/parties/good times), but they hardly ever have it, and when they do they don't always hit me up. Meanwhile I always try to make myself available to hang out (obviously not overwriting important things like work and school), but I always hook it up whether they match me or not... but now my finances aren't quite as solid (working at the movies isn't exactly the most lucrative paycheck), and it's hard to maintain sharing bud, and I don't want to be that selfish guy who always skimps packing the bowl, or only hangs out when other people have weed.
    Anyways my point of this thread is that is it worth keeping these friends?
    Basically I made a list of contributing factors:
    Me: Almost always has bud, never mismatches or fails to match a bowl. Always offers car to smoke in while on the road, always offers house while needing a place to kick back. Never flakes, always explains missing an outing, always makes sure things go down in the funnest way possible (good music, good girl/guy ratios for parties, eliminating bad vibes when something goes down).
    Friends: Introduced and taught me most of what I know about weed, helped hook me up, shared before I started buying, and of course you need friends to have a good time with others.
    Is it awful to feel like you're the one who keeps things together at the expense of no compensation? Or should I just be happy that I get to have good times with friends? Should I find new friends (it's not hard for me) that have more self control and more generous? It rocks being the guy that makes things happen when no one else can, but it takes a toll after a while. Sorry if this is too long but I figured some people need things to read.
     
  2. #2 ddog7x, Oct 9, 2011
    Yes, find new friends. Keep the best of the ones you have now though. Above all, DO NOT let people think you're okay with being run over. It will get worse. It feels like you're being a dick, I know, but you have to do what you have to do.
     
  3. #3 CSterbz, Oct 9, 2011
    Should slap a TL;DR on there
     
  4. #4 Arckaic, Oct 9, 2011
    No offense but this post was full of ego. I don't think you mentioned one thing that you may do wrong, is it because you never do anything wrong? Unlikely...

    Anyway... they probably smoke everyday with their friends, where you only smoke once a week with them. That saves a lot of money. Dropping your friends like that would give you a bad reputation. You would not be the guy who could "always make things happen" anymore, because you will have no friends to make things happen with. Maybe instead of just dropping your friends you could just find more.

    I dunno, personally I just think that you have a holier-than-thou attitude with this whole thing. Also, your friends probably smoke everyday with each other, and you said you only smoke once a week... not only are you saving money but you are also losing out on a lot of bonding time with your friends. Maybe you should be less stingy with your bud or something. Your story just seems off-center seeing as how you said you always offer a car/house/whatever to smoke in, but you only smoke once a week? I'm thinking that you are probably mad that they don't smoke you out more often because you think that you deserve it because of "everything you do"... a few things in your story contradict themselves. Trying hitting them up more than once a week to kick it.
     
  5. #5 Muphin, Oct 9, 2011
    Last edited by a moderator: Oct 9, 2011
    Nah man, I was saying in April was when I considered myself a regular smoker, I usually smoke every day unless I'm saving money and taking a little break.
    I certainly don't consider myself perfect, but I do consider myself more financially concerned than them. I smoke them out on every break we work together (which is usually 2-4 sessions a week per friend) as well as when we don't work, I don't typically count how many times I smoke them out(because that is pretty messed up and I'm trying my best not to get to that point of being a tightwad... but it's easily more common for them to go "aw sorry dude I don't have anything man" and I usually say "no worries man, it's just weed", but it takes a financial toll when I have to buy 1/8th's every week when maybe about half of that I actually use for myself. I don't have a big ego, and I never, EVER make a point that I provide more than other people because we've all been dry and I'll never not appreciate someone doing me a solid. I'm just stuck in turmoil because I don't want to cut off hanging out with friends so I can have money for myself, but I don't want to be the empty handed person that mooches off everyone.

    EDIT. I also take no offense and I appreciate any input, but ego and me being 'the sole provider' wasn't the intended message, it's more relating to financial crisis and advice.
     
  6. #6 Arckaic, Oct 9, 2011
    Last edited by a moderator: Oct 9, 2011
    You have your head placed well on your shoulders man, just reading this post I can tell that you already know what to do. If you're on another level you have to find people who are on your level. But personally, I wouldn't just leave those friends in the dust. They are people too and they probably really appreciate your friendship, but you can only do so much for them. Just tell them no when they want to smoke with you and they have no match... the worst they can do is be a bitch about it, and if that's the case then fuck 'em.
     

Share This Page