So I've been in a relationship for about 4 months, and I'm incredibly happy and utterly in love with my boyfriend. We have the most amazing sex life - we watch porn together, have sex in public spots, video tape ourselves, the list goes on. We're both really open minded and experimental He knows that I've had a threesome (two girls, one guy) in the past, and so has he (two guys, one girl). We've toyed with the idea of having a threesome (two girls, one guy.. I wouldn't want to have a threesome with two guys) but I'm not sure if/how it'd affect our relationship. When I had a threesome, I wasn't in a relationship with the guy so there was no emotional attachment and no one's feelings were hurt. I want to do this, not only to make him happy, but because I want to. I'm just worried that something little, like him paying more attention to the other girl or something, will get me upset. I'm not even 100% sure if I would be able to deal with watching the man I love have sex with another woman - Physically, I know sex is just sex, but I feel like my mind might play tricks on me and convince me that there's some sort of emotional intimacy going on. I love this guy and I can see us being together for a long time, but I don't want to try this if it will mess up our relationship. What do you guys think? Are threesomes only good when no one is emotionally attached to each other? Or do you think, in a relationship, it can bring two people closer together? If we're gonna go through with this, I want to be 100% that our relationship can handle it. Dead grateful to anyone who has any advice or experience
Well i think you said it yourself... seems like your not ready 4 months isn't that long, you got plenty of time to experiment later in your relationship once you feel 100% about the situation. Also talk one on one with him before you do it, so you both know what your ok with and what would piss you off, if anything. But enjoy and good luck
If i were you i would forget about it atleast for the time being because you are in love and you are emotionally attached. For me anyway i couldnt bear to see my girlfriend even kiss sum1 else never mind have sex but thats the type i am maybe ur different. As i always say if it aint broke dont fix it. Theres plenty things you can do in the bedroom between 2 people and thats what i would stick to. just my 2 cents hope i helped
I heard that swinging can be a lot of fun if you can get past the seeing your partner with another person jealousy bit. Also I heard that you should talk to each other A LOT first, letting each other know exactly what you are comfortable with and what you are not, so that you have firmly set boundaries. But it sounds to me like you're not comfortable with it at the moment so maybe it's best to back off the idea for now.
Don't do it... I'll edit just to give a reason: I wouldn't want to see the guy I've been with for almost a year doing someone else infront of me. I know it's playful and what not but.. Strikes me as dirty (metaphorically and literally). And.. In love after four months? Nothing against you.. Just a personal opinion I feel like expressing: I hate the word love. I mean.. It's just too broad. I think that love and infatuation are often mistaken for one another.
IMO, 4 months is a really short time to even be speaking of love. but i would never want to see my dude fucking another chick unless she was straight lesbian for life. it would just mess with my head way too much. i would give it some time to think about it until you're really sure you could handle it. no need to ruin a great relationship over a threesome.
Hold off on threesomes. It's way too early in the relationship for it. But you said yourself would feel uncomfortable with him fucking another girl with you there in your post. Do other fun stuff instead and don't forget condoms for your guy.
I don't think your ready. I don't know about love after 4 months, but its a possibility. But 4 months is not enough for you to completely trust each other and be comfortable with eachothers sexuality. This is a tough subject for people have even the slightest bit of doubt between partners. SolarToker is right, other fun things... Go to a couple of bars together and let loose. Dance, Take shots be social. Flirt with some girls and dance. This will give you an idea of how comfortable you and your boyfriend are together. My other advice... Go one dates.. Dress up for eachother, wear something sexy for him. Go out to diner maybe a movie...then take a trip to the sex shop and look around together. Theres alot to do to keep the flame going you just having to be willing to work on it. Threesomes dosent have to be the answer. *Always practice safe sex. They even offer female condoms.
Go to parties together, find a ho at one, it's best to avoid dragging a friend, or someone you see often into it, choose a kinda stranger.
Damn too bad they haven't invented something made to help prevent STDs.. They should.. Some sort of latex glove for a penis... What would we call it though...lol
The Penis Glove....duh! Oh we'll make millions, maybe we can get billy mays to do the commercials....oh, wait.. Nevermind
Dont know... Don't care lol I stick to having one partner at at time and getting tested. Hasn't failed me yet lol. I was just being sarcastic. Lol
Yo treelover i see you around often and postin on many different threads but i can never tell if youre a guy or a girl lmfao.
I really don't know about you personally, all I can say is for me, that would be a beyond horrible idea. Although, I have no desire for a threesome, I couldn't imagine being cool with that...I mean, your boyfriend will be penetrating another woman, right there, without any regard for your monogamous relationship, I mean...if you are continually open and it doesn't bother you that's fine, but it would worry me especially because I wouldn't even want my boyfriend to be capable of doing that with someone else in front of me. I think it's disrespectful in a way and kind of gross too, but that's just me. You have to decide what is right for you before you go through with it, but I would think long and hard because it could definitely change things between the two of you, especially if he wanted to keep having them.