Proverbs 17:9-10 comes to mind: 9 â€œHe who conceals a transgression seeks love, but he who repeats a matter separates intimate friends. 10 A rebuke goes deeper into one who has understanding than a hundred blows into a fool.â€ A fool would have justified himself, and said, â€œI knew you weren't going to use them, because you told me.â€ I am no fool, because I understand the truth of verse nine. Any time I didn't tell you about things that I had known were wrong, it was because I sought out nothing but your approval. I know where this leads. The truth in the second half of verse nine revealed itself to me as I lived out my nightmare, one in which the very act of seeking love turned on me and cut me deeper than any physical blade. Verse ten describes this separation of intimacy, which is finalized by the rebuke of those from whom I have sought to be loved by. It explains how painful this rebuke has been for me, the transgressor.