Alright, so about 2 years ago I had a fight with my best friend's wife. She made me kick rocks for almost a year and I was best friendless. When I came back, she told me that I could stay friends with him as long as I wasn't using any illegal drugs like before and my best friend agreed. He doesn't know that I smoke, and I'm not sure how he would feel about it but I would like to get it off my chest because he is nothing less than a brother to me and I feel guilty hiding it from him. I do know that he is against it because of the illegality of it. He doesn't care for the feeling and doesn't care if it gets legalized or not, but he does agree that it can be extremely helpful for some people and that its completely harmless. Since he drinks I'm thinking of comparing marijuana to alcahol, because I personally consider alcahol a "Hard" drug but idk. I know to many of you he may sound ignorant, but really he is just trying to keep himself and his children away from illegal substances since he has a history of drug abuse and has had alot of drug abuse in his family history. I'm just worried that if I tell him that it will be violating the terms of our friendship that I agreed and promised to. How should I approach this?
I feel like your best friend should know you smoke... If he can't handle that maybe you should reconsider where your friendships lie. consider it my two cents, I like to feel comfortable around my friends
Consider which you value you more, your friendship or your weed. Regardless of whether you should have to make this choice or not, you may well have to make it. Many people on here would say that you shouldn't have to, but his moral reasoning behind his being against drugs are no less valid than their reasoning behind thinking he should accept it. If anything his reasoning is possibly more honourable: what's wrong with wanting to keep his family on the right side of the law and away from something he has a bad history with? Telling him won't be violating the terms of your friendship. Doing it and hiding it from him will.
Ok, I have a friend.His wife fighting two years . Made me almost a year come back and would be the best friendless. When I come back, he said to me, that is friends with him, as he was not with illegal drugs as before and my best friend agreed. Unware that you smoke and I am not sure how I feel about you, but I would like to do because it is less like my friend and I feel guilty . You will be aware that due to the illegality of, however, is. He cares not for the feeling and it is immaterial whether or not he gets, but both agree that can be very useful for some people and completely harmless.
if your best friend can't overlook your life choices for the sake of friendship due to his vindictive wife, then fuck that shit entirely
I would tell him you smoke, but respect his wishes and don't ever talk, do it around him, or be with him or his family while you're stoned. It's just respectful. and he probably doesn't want you around it, because he is a recovering addict.. No matter his drug of choice, it's probably extremely difficult to be around anything considered a "drug" even scripts man. Just talk to him, if he's like a brother then you should definitely tell him. Try and find an understanding or a "agree to disagree" on why you smoke. Just don't bring it up or around him. ever.