Sometimes there is a price to pay for being "cool"... Link: Teen drinking leads to crackdown on 'cool' parents By Stephanie Chen CNN ATLANTA, Georgia (CNN) -- Shortly after midnight on January 24, a 16-year old boy from Powder Springs, Georgia, crashed his car into an oncoming vehicle. Garrett Reed, a star football player at Harrison High School, died instantly. Police believe he had been drinking. Kecia Evangela Whitfield, 43, is charged with furnishing alcohol to a minor and reckless conduct. According to police, the investigation revealed that a classmate's mother served alcohol to Reed. Police charged 43-year-old Kecia Evangela Whitfield with furnishing alcohol to a minor and reckless conduct, both misdemeanors. Whitfield was released on a $10,000 bond and awaits a court date in April. Records on file with the Cobb County solicitor general's office indictate she has not yet entered a plea or obtained a lawyer. She did not return CNN's phone calls. If convicted, she could receive up to a year in jail and fines totaling thousands of dollars. Toxicology reports for Reed will be released in six weeks, officials said. His death stunned the small community of Powder Springs and sounded an alarm for parents. "What we have to realize is that our kids do think they are invincible," said Patti Agatston, a mother of another Harrison High School teenager who lives in Reed's neighborhood. "We can't be enablers. We've got to be adults and say 'no.' " At least ten states including Virginia, Minnesota and New Mexico-and Georgia, where Garrett's accident occurred, allow parents to give their own child alcohol, according to the Alcohol Policy Information System, a federal website that tracks alcohol laws. The alcohol can typically be given to the minor in the guardian's home or a private setting and there are no age limits, according to the National Conference of State Legislatures. However, nowhere is it legal to give alcohol to other people's children. Officials say teen binge drinking is reaching epidemic proportions, and states and municipalities are scrambling to implement "social hosting" laws that carry stiff fines for parents whose homes are used for drinking parties, whether they know about them or not. At least 24 states have enacted social hosting laws that fine parents several thousand dollars for each offense, said Jim Mosher, an expert tracking alcohol policies at the National Conference of State Legislatures. The fines, he said, are an effective deterrent. Don't Miss Alcoholism: What you might not know A 2005 study conducted by the American Medical Association reported that about one-third of teens said it was "easy to obtain alcohol" from their parents. That figure jumps to 40 percent when it comes to getting alcohol from a friend's parent. One out of four teens said they had attended a party where minors were drinking in front of parents. Some communities are using their zoning powers to create local social hosting laws. These laws usually result in misdemeanor charges and jail time is rare. Prosecutors' offices are often busy with other cases and don't bother to charge unless there is a serious incident or accident, policy experts said. "It's very difficult for us to knock on a random door and say 'are you drinking?' " said Sgt. Dana Pierce of the Cobb County Police Department, the agency responsible for investigating Reed's case. "We usually have to respond to some kind of nuisance call." In Massachusetts in January, a court sentenced a mother to jail for serving alcohol to minors at a party in her home. A teenage boy died in an auto accident after leaving her party. In Charlottesville, Virginia, two adults served jail time in 2007 for providing alcohol at their son's 16th birthday party. Some parents consider giving a teenager a drink a rite of passage -- and that contributes to high teenage drinking rates, said Richard Yoast, director of the Department of Healthy Lifestyles and Primary Prevention at the American Medical Association. "It's a myth that adults and children are buying into, and it creates pressure on the child to drink," Yoast said. "The biggest problem to overcome is the fact that parents feel like they are helping their kids," said Denise Thames, director of Mothers Against Drunk Driving in Georgia, "They often forget they are in fact breaking the law." The affluent suburbs near Powder Springs, where Reed's accident took place, are not immune. Police say there were several teenagers hanging out with Reed the night he died, including Whitfield's stepson. Several of Reed's close friends at Harrison High School said alcohol is easy to get in their community and students can find a drinking party each weekend if they want to. It is easier to get alcohol from older friends and relatives or parents than buying it with a fake ID, they said. "As long as you have money, you can get it," said Eric Stallworth, a senior at Harrison High School, who was close friends with Reed. He described his friend as a charismatic and popular boy, who was fiercely competitive when it came to sports and dreamed of playing college football. While there is no county or city ordinance on social hosting in Powder Springs, or in Georgia, some parents are fighting back. The Cobb Alcohol Task Force, which also serves Powder Springs, is a volunteer group working to reduce teens' access to alcohol. The group launched a campaign called "Adults Who Host Lose the Most" to educate the public about the dangers of illegally providing teens with liquor. Surveys in Cobb County show the campaigns are working slowly, said Cathy Finck, Cobb Alcohol Task Force coordinator. In 2007, 68 percent of 10th grade students said obtaining alcohol was easy, a decrease from 73 percent the previous year. But that may not be enough to stop a fatal accident such as Reed's. "Unless you get everyone to do it, kids will find out one place where they can get alcohol and you will have these kinds of incidences," Finck said. "Everyone has to get on board." Ultimately, parents need to step up and take responsibility, said Shawna Snapp of Blue River, Oregon. Her son, Ryan Snapp, nicknamed "Snapper," died two years ago in a car accident. He was 17 and the teenage driver had been drinking alcohol obtained from an adult. "We're not here as parents to be their best friends," Snapp said. "We are here to guide them for life."
As I live in Virginia and I was caught up in a bullshit underage consumption charge, I was able to have my case thrown out under a statute that this article is referring to. And as a matter of fact they may have their information wrong, because a very good lawyer who was defending me told me that if the other guys' parents had testified they had given them permission to drink in my household they too would've basically had immunity. Loopholes are weird, but when they get me out of charges, I love them. And yes, the parents that are putting themselves into these positions have to take certain precautions. It's unfortunate every time a drunk kid gets behind the wheel and ends up dead, nevermind the havoc he could cause to others because of his behavior. Personally I know a few parents who would furnish their children and their children's friends with alcohol, but they were smart about it and always made everyone stay the night if that was going on.
The problem here is not that a 16 had some alcohol, but that he got behind the wheel of a car afterwords. Had he stayed where he was none of this would have happened. I see nothing wrong with a parent serving alcohol to their underage child, as long as it is in a responsible matter.
I don't really know if these are the proper steps to be taken, but as I get older, I notice LOTS of younger kids getting away with more and more, and the parents are either just turning their back to the issue, or just openly allowing this inappropriate behaviour. One of the most extreme cases I've ever seen is this really young girl (she was 15 at the time) was basically stalking one of my guy friends (who was 24 at the time, and wanted nothing to do with this jailbait girl). She showed up at his house one night when a few of us were hanging out there and she was dressed in an outfit that a hooker would feel is too revealing. She was dressed in a matching red leather/pleather mini skirt and cropped halter top with like 5-inch heels. All I could think was that if I EVER even THOUGHT about leaving my house like that at 15, my mom would killlllll me.... but the most surprising part in this situation is that THE MOTHER WAS THE ONE WHO DROVE HER THERE!! She has also taken dirty pictures of her 15-year-old daughter and sent them to this guy, she tells her daughter to get back at other girls by having sex with their boyfriends and she teaches her that if she always dresses this way, she'll get ahead in life. She also goes to parties with older people, drinks and brings home and has sex with any guy she wants. I knew another mother as well, who was trying to be "cool" and let her 17 year old daughter have a party with all her underage friends, in which they were all drinking, and one thing lead to another and the kids dared another one to jump off a 3rd floor balcony... and the kid was actually stupid enough to do it. He broke several bones in each leg and the mother was obviously charged for allowing underage drinking. Also, even when I go to the bars around here (which suck, btw) they always seem to be filled with underage kiddies doing stuff I would never imagine doing at that age. I understand parents wanting to break free from the prison-guard type of parenting or whatever, but this seems way too extreme for me. I do think some "cool" parents need to be put in check.
I'm not gonna be a "cool" parent in any other way than my kid can talk to me about anything and i'm not gonna scream in his face or tell him he's wrong, as I know 16 year old kids are in the "sophomore" grade for a reason, sophomore means "wise moron", a know it all who knows nothing. I don't even want my kid(s) smoking weed or drinking. Sure theres a good chance weed won't do anything negative (if they stick to just weed and don't catch my addict genes), but theres an even better chance nothing negative will happen if they never fuck with drugs/alcohol in the first place. I may give them the ol iboga initiation when their 18 though, or if I catch them fuckin around with multiple drugs besides weed lol. That'll scare em strait, as well as give them that "one with the universe" feeling lol. I figure if the Bwiti tribe can give it to 7 year olds, my teenager will be able to handle it after I explain the significance of it. If I ever have kids that is, which I'm sure I will accidentally at least since I don't wear rubbers lol, I'm hoping to have kids that were meant to be created though.
