My boss is a strict ex-army guy, he's totally anal about fucking everything. Most people at work wouldnt ever question him about anything. He has no problem having a massive argument with anyone about nothing. Anyway, i needed a month of from work for my trip to Thailand. I had enough days leave saved to cover the time i was away, and i had already paid a deposit on my tickets to hold them. I'm leaving on the 11th of Jan so i was giving him over 2 months notice. I ask him for the leave. He says "impossible". Me: i'm sorry but i can't accept that as an answer, i've already paid over $2000 for my plane tickets and there's a $600 cancellation fee (not true). Either i get this leave or i'll hand in my two weeks notice and you wont have me for the entire x-mas period. Boss: You don't tell me what is and isnt acceptable, you don't threaten me, that's not how this works. Me: i'm not threatening you, i'm just telling you my position. Boss: ok then i'll be waiting for your letter of resignation. Me: i dont want to have to do that. *tells me to sit down* Boss: Your asking for leave at the worst possible time, we dont have enough staff to cover you while you are away. I cant give you this leave... *i interrupt* Me: can i speak? Boss: You don't interrupt someone to ask if you can speak *i continue anyway* Me: this is my position i've paid for these tickets, either we can sort this out and i'll work up untill the day i leave in jan, or i will literally have to quit. Boss: ok, ok I'm going to make some calls to see if we can make this work. Come back to me a 4pm and we can continue this conversation when we have both calmed down. Me: ok *leaves room* 4pm. boss says he called human resources and i can get the leave. I say i appreciate that, we shake hands i leave happy. The best part is he doesnt treat me like some 19 year old punk anymore, def showing me a lot more respect, it's fucking weird how people work. Be nice to them they walk all over you, stand up to them, tell them what they dont want to hear and they'll respect you.