Alright so, a little backstory. My girl and i moved to az about 2 1/2 yrs ago. been together about 3 anda half yrs We have an almost 2 yr old boy, and we've had our issues. She's hit me a few times blah blah punched me in the face yadda yadda Anyway, to the current issue. She is almost 23 so she had my son right before her 21st birthday. Girl never really had a chance to go out and drink. I have never had an issue with her going out. I just tell her, be safe be smart and let me know when and where you're going. Well about a year and a half ago she came home from work. Kissed me and i could smell alcohol on her breath. After she repeatedly said she didn't go anywhere, she finally told me she went for drinks after work. I said why are you lying to me? She said that she felt bad for going out cause i never do (i'm almost 27). I told her, so what? I never have an issue with her having some drinks with friends. I did my partying and drinking years ago, i dont' need to go out. So on wed she went out for drinks. I had to work at 5 am, woke up at 410am she was on the couch. I tried to wake her up and tell her to go to bed, but she didn't budge. Smelled like liquor real bad though . So there is that drinking in driving i tell her about. She told me the next day she got home at 330. i gave her some shit about d &d and being out till 3am when i gotta go to work, and you have to be home with our son so today (4 days later) she texts me and tells me that she's going out for drinks again and she'll be out late. I had an issue with that. Here is why. I just worked 6 days straight 9 and 8 hour shifts. My manager is on vacation so i'm the acting manager. I'm fucking tired, i got 1 day off then i go back to work. I get up at 4 am every day. Wanted to spend the evening with her since i don't have to work tomorrow. There goes that. My son is also getting sick and i wouldn't be surprised if he woke up at night. Not an issue, i'll get up with him but it'd be nice if i didn't have to. Also, she works for tips and we need to pay bills. After i tell her all this she's still keen on going out. she's not happy blah blah wants time away. I never complain about her going out, but tonight of all nights? So basically she just told me she's not happy (she also told me afew months ago that our son was an inconvinience to her. s he's a good mom but i can see that she regrets not getting an abortion. SHe'll never admit it, but i can sense it. She wasn't ready to be a mother, at that time.) And i said well you don't love me you don't take me or my opinions or feelings into consideration and you're being selfish. I also said taht she doesn't wanna be with me and that's why she's not happy and she said "you're right i don't want to be with you" So there is that. i love the girl but i'm not very happy myself. Shit, main reason we're together still is because of our son. I love him and i can't be away for a day from him and that's another reason, i won't see him as much. But you know what i need to think about my own happiness too, plus he's only 2. It'd be a whole lot harder when he's older Sorry for the long rant guys, i've had a couple of real shitty days and this just piles on. Bong+heineken mini keg left overs for the win i guess !!!