smoked with gf of 2 yrs for first time. ended up with me wanting to break up with her

CLIFFNOTES AT THE END

ok this is kind of a long story im gonna try to keep it short. i will +rep anyone with good advice.

basically, i slept at my gf's college for a weekend (the same gf i pee'd the bed with) and i didnt know how this statement was until i found out with first hand experience; "being with the one you love is totally different from LIVING with the one you love".

she was way too lovey dovey first of all. im talking she wanted to hold my hand every second even when i was typing on the computer, always wanted to sit on my lap even when im eating etc. which really turned me off.

i persuaded her to smoke with me and we did. she kept coughing and complaining about her throat and how it hurts, and also how she didnt feel high (i didnt have much but i had kief and she took 2 hits and i thought she woulda been fucked up, however she didnt listen to me when i told her HOW to smoke it. i dont think she inhaled all the way into her lungs which i stressed). anyway i told her that im sorry her throat hurts.

now im happy and high and she is angry cuz she aint high n her throat hurts. since im happy and high i decided to dance with her and she says some bs like "you never dance with me, its only cuz ur high. now you are going to need weed in order to be happy with me" and kept blabbin her damn mouth saying that like she doesnt know one of MJ's effects are euphoria. i stop dancing with her and dont even respond to her stupid statement (she is dead serious btw).

now we go to the elevator and there are these freshman boys talking about alcohol and my gf just looks at them with a snotty look on her face, arms folded, shakes her head and says "ugh.....losers". she had the biggest chip on her damn shoulder and thought she was better than them and this pissed me off. what pissed me off about it is that she called them losers aloud and her body language was so damn stuck up and i hate that the most about girls.

another incident where she dropped her card in the elevator and it fell near this other girl. the other girl moved it towards her using her foot and my gf said "thanks" in a sarcastic way and the other girl said "no problem" in a sarcastic way. i gave the other girl a wink when i left the elevator because my gf acted like the other girl owed her something and that she had to pick up her card for her. now THIS is what pissed me off. she dropped the fuckin card again once we were in the room, looked at it, and KEPT WALKING expecting me to pick it up.

i was going to tell her off, but i knew that the weekend would not be enjoyable if i said anything just yet so i held my tongue and decided that i would tell her how much of a bitch she is acting like once i get home so i can enjoy the weekend.

now we went out with her friends and one of her friends was like my soulmate. we talked the whole time and i almost forgot my gf was even there (she was mad i was talking to her friend the whole time and not her). this other girl was fuckin sexy, and we clicked like no other. she is very intellectual, we share the same views on religion (agnostic) and she is into weight lifting as much as i am (i can tell by her sexy ass body, my gf is on the chubby side), she smokes weed and hares cigs, we have so much in common but i want to make this short (too late huh? lol).

anyway i didnt ask for her number (i regret it) because i didnt know how she would feel about that and i didnt want to give the impression that i was the cheating type, although there was like a mutual thing going on there.

she was all i thought about that weekend, even when having sex with my gf. the thing is i dont even feel sorry about it because she showed her true colors and made me realize that we are not alike and that i need someone who shares the same tastes as me.

another thing; me and my gf are both black and this other girl is white. once when i asked my gf how she would feel if i dumped her for a white girl she told me she believes that white women are out there to "steal" black men from black women . i was in such shock because my gf is such a romantic it is sickening, but that turned me off also.


now im thinking of breaking up with my gf and/or asking my gf for her friends number (TO BE FRIENDS, but i dunno if she will fall for that). i just want to get in contact with this other girl so bad now and i am not happy with my relationship at all.

oh and the irony about this is my gf was acting like everyone owed her something, and she was doing a report on narcississm
please give me some advice gc.

CLIFFNOTES
-slept wit gf for the weekend
-smoked with her, she didnt get high/hated it and said that since we smoked together i will need weed to be happy with her
-she acted like a bitch with a chip on her shoulder and like everyone owed her something the whole time
-i met her friend and we were so much alike that i fell in love with her
-while we were all hanging out i ignored my gf and talked to her friend the whole time
-this girl made me realize that me and my gf are nothing alike and i need someone who shares the same interests as me
-i want to get this girls number but my gf will prob know whats up
-thinking about breaking up with gf of 2 years because of this whole ordeal

 

i dont NEED someone who burns.....my gf never had a problem with it before either, she respected that i burned and left it alone until that night

and neverenough, i disagree with the finding a new gf before breaking up with her but i agree with hanging out with someone sober first

 

i mean she always called herself a princess but never acted like one like how she did that weekend, it was a rude awakening. the fact remains though...i've fell out of love, and in love

 

i feel you. but ive broke it off with her once only to get back with her again, thats the last thing i would want to happen AGAIN (i already repped u recently)

i have been high aroud my gf plenty of times and she has never noticed. i dont do it anymore though because i only smoke at night.

thats good advice, but somethin inside me really wants to find someone who likes what i like. im tired of being so different from her and not opening up to her because she wont understand where im coming from. i realized that thats what a relationship is all about and i cant do that because we're so different

that is very true. well if not this other girl, im sure that there are other deep intellectual girls that arent as princessy and bitchy and more like me

 

that def isnt gonna work lol, but good try. but i plan on talking to her about how she acted today, but she already knows that im a humble guy and cant stand ppl who act all high and mighty. i TOLD her that was my ultimate turn off several times

 

but what if my gf asks her about me hooking her up with my friend? then she will say "what? he never said anything about that" and then my gf will know whats up. my gf is too nosey to let that fly by