Not sexually in my case. But every other Christmastime for 6 years I am put in a position where I am hit on by my boyfriends\' best friends. This was the fated \"every other X-mas,\" but since I don\'t know any of my boyfriends friends I didn\'t think it would be a big deal. However, his best friend randomly shows up at our apartment last night and my boy had just left for home, and so I ask him if he wants to smoke a few bowls with me and watch Dodgeball. Well, we smoke, and realize my dvd player doesn\'t work, so he suggests going to his house and watching it on surround sound. I then find out through his stoned rambling that him and his girl are currently on shaky terms, and he knows me and his best friend have been two for a while. Long story short, I\'m high, and at some point find myself snuggled up to this kid for the rest of the night. Nothing happened, but and the other best friends that have hit on me have never gotten anything more than cuddling and stuff, but I feel so guilty. On a scale of 1 to 10, 1 being no sweat and 10 being you\'re a whore, how bad was what i did?
5 if i was your boyfriend i would be infuriated.. i love my gf and i am extreamly jelous i go crazy if i see her even talking to another male. if my gf was cudling with my BEST FRIEND... i would stab him
NO DO NOT TELL. i am against that attitude: (in my opinion) The one whom cheated lives in fear of loosing the loved one over the mistake, the loved one doesn\'t know so he continues being happy in his couple. When the cheater tells the loved one, suffering from guilt passes away onto the cheated whom then feels betrayed. silence, in this case, allows the guilty (the cheater) to feel bad, and the the victim to /not/ feel bad. honesty, in this case, allows the guilty to lay off some \'bad emotions\' onto the victim.. it goes much further than that: the cheater can use the fear of loosing the loved one as a source to love even more wholeheartly. If the fear is disolved by putting it on the cheated\'s shoulders as betrayal, then it can no longer be used. Note that i am not for cheating, but i admit i could smoke too much and find myself in a situation where one could say I cheated. I (as in me) would keep the fear and use it. fear is powerfull, if usefully canalised. imho ... +++++++++++++++ Theses reflections I had when mmy very first girlfriend chetead on me. She phoned me the day after, wanting \"to let it off\" I felt miserable. We meet few days later, and i was still miserable, whereas she had gone over it. I thought it was not right that she could just feel much better by inflicting on me such pain. I loved her, and she hurt me; she hurt me bad. I remember what I said: \"Should you ever cheat on me again, I want you to hide it from me, because revealing will enhance neither my trust, nor my love for ya.\"
In my opinion, although the truth may hurt, it is the fuckin truth, just cause reality sucks doesn\'t mean you should hide from it, so tell him, I would rate it a 3, like taking advantage of a miscommunication, which happens, hell if you walk you\'re bound to step in shit right? Well hope it all works out in the end, but don\'t try to play off that it happen because of the high, cause then that will be the main rift in the relationship and will just displace the blame and thus the problem. Peace
If it was a stranger I would agree with Gri77on, (great post gri770n) but since it\'s his best friend and he has a good chance of finding out from him, I would go ahead and tell him. Better he find out from you than from him. I would rate it a 4 on the whorometer.
No no. I\'m not telling him. That\'s not in question. And I doubt his best friend will either. I\'d rather risk that then tell him, cause he\'d rate this like, a 15 on a scale of 1 to 10 and kick an ass.
I give it a 7. I\'d be pretty upset if my girlfriend cuddled up with anyone other than me or one of her close relatives.
what ever it is you feel regarding that \"happening\", you can use it to enhance your relation ship. That is my adivice.
Ok the question is do you want something to happen with this guy? This does rate at least 5-7 depending on your moral standing. If you don\'t want to do anything with the guy, I\'d rate it a 5. You are doing something behind your b/f\'s back even though you may not even kiss the guy. (I call that deception.) If you did have a few thoughts or sexual feelings when you were cuddling with the guy, I\'d say that rates a 7. I believe in honestly. How could you do this when you knew your boyfriend would flip? You aren\'t respecting him. If you think his reaction to you telling him would be as bad as you say, it\'s clear that you have two have differing relationships standards. You should probably look for someone that better suits you and your needs. Honestly there is really nothing worse than deception. AppalledWithMe, I am not judging you even though it may sound that way. I like you. Your posts are always good and insightful. So please do not take my soapbox as any dislike for you. You gotta be true to yourself girl... Hiding things from people will hurt you in the long run.