So a little over a year ago i got EXTREMELY depressed. I was on the verge of suicide. There was a major cause for it and i knew what it was. I wont go into that though. I can say that marijuana wasnt helping the situation. It made me think too much and i probably smoked too much as well. After 5 or 6 months i finally started climbing out. Friends were the main thing that helped me out. Especially 2 of them. A and B. Basically they were the ONLY people that understood me and my mental state. Dont get me wrong i had many friends but none of them "got" me. Anyway, recently ive stopped smoking for legal reasons. Its been almost 5 weeks since i last smoked. Its really no big deal. I miss it but i can live for now. I met a girl about a week after i stopped smoking. We started dating last week. Shes great and all and we have a lot in common and we even went through very similar states of depression as well, but i just feel like we dont click. Its like we're from different social groups. Heres the problem. I like her and all but i feel like i might just be dating her to fulfill my loneliness. Ive always been lonely. I dont want to lead her on but i dont want to throw away this relatively good relationship along with my own (and possibly her) happiness. I havent been able to talk to friends A and B recently because well, its complicated. I have an enormous number of friends but i just cant talk to them about really deep stuff like i can with A and B. I can and have talked about really deep stuff with my girlfriend but something just isnt right. I just cant explain these feelings or this problem. I probably sound like a wreck and a dumbass but its just hard. I dont know why im posting this. I guess because i dont have anyone to turn to and i feel myself going back to the place i was in last year. Does anybody have any advice or encouraging stories or anything to share? Does anyone just want to talk? I just feel alone...
As above- giving relevant advice is near impossible without some real context as to your depression. But I can give some general, over-arching advice. Be grateful you have a girl. Be grateful you have friends, let alone lots of them. Be grateful you live in the Western world (I assume you do). Be grateful because so many people around you don't have these things and still get by. Moreover, most people in the world are being assailed by much more threatening and real forces than a bit of social anxiety and loneliness. When I feel down and consider all this, it makes me fucking ashamed and shows how selfish and short-sighted I'm being when I have so many blessings yet let imaginary curses reign over them. But such shame and negative realisations about myself are a good incentive to stop feeling that way. Perhaps it could work for oyu.
Thats just it though. Im not sure why im feeling depressed. Its not for the same reason as last year. I just feel lonely and like all my friends are shallow and dont really care. I dont know if they care or not. Thanks for the advice though. It helps. I mean i realize there are people in a lot worse situations but im not in a great one either. Its not black and white.
If you feel it's out of control and not related to definite life cirumstances, then it could just be a chemical imbalance. You should definitely stay away from weed if this feeling persists. Though it works as a temporary crutch (ups the dopamine), what goes up must come down. And you'll come down a lot harder every time you stop smoking than if you just stay constantly sober. Also, if this is the roots of some mental issue, then weed will only exacerbate it.
If you like her keep seeing her until things run there course. You are thinking way too much dude. If she understands your deep states of depression and you understand hers, it sounds like you two click. Its hard to find a woman that understands you when you are in that state of mind. There are some shallow bitches in this world and it sounds like you have a half decent woman on your side. Keep your chin up dude. You seem like you are really wound up and need to release some stress.
just go with the flow, life is a rollercoaster of ups and downs(corny) but its the truth. if you have alot in common and she's into uid stay stick with it, are you not into her? i dont understand "we just dont click" kinda vague. hows does being in differant social groups have to do with a relationship? Like you dont have much in common? she likes differant things than you? Is she fun? is their any love between you? Be more positive, you sound really negative. Is the cup half full or half empty?
[quote name='"Autechra"'] If you feel it's out of control and not related to definite life cirumstances, then it could just be a chemical imbalance. You should definitely stay away from weed if this feeling persists. Though it works as a temporary crutch (ups the dopamine), what goes up must come down. And you'll come down a lot harder every time you stop smoking than if you just stay constantly sober. Also, if this is the roots of some mental issue, then weed will only exacerbate it.[/quote] I cant smoke for like 11 months anyway so ill be ok with that haha
[quote name='"Hydroriffic"']just go with the flow, life is a rollercoaster of ups and downs(corny) but its the truth. if you have alot in common and she's into uid stay stick with it, are you not into her? i dont understand "we just dont click" kinda vague. hows does being in differant social groups have to do with a relationship? Like you dont have much in common? she likes differant things than you? Is she fun? is their any love between you? Be more positive, you sound really negative. Is the cup half full or half empty?[/quote] Hahaha funny post. Idk we have like EVERYTHING in common (now that you mention it though, she likes roller coasters and i dont but its just like somethings missing. I really cant explain it. Im just overthinking everything. Im usually a pretty positive guy believe it or not haha
this thread will keep your mind on it,get off GC and give yer lady friend a call and see wat she is doing tonight. Telling your feeling lonely and want her company, then put on some snuggies and watch a movie or something. Idk you just need to focus on other things that can make your life better,
I think your brain is just sick. Your brain is an organ just like the heart or the liver. your brain can get sick, you just need some medicine i.e anti-depressants they could save your life
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I know how you feel bro iv feeling down a long long time, life just seems like one kick in the ball after another and no one else can ever understand what you been threw in life, but in the end i think we all just want some body to love and somebody to love us for who we really are.
I'm gettin' all depressed and fucky too, I think it's gotta do with winter. A while ago I also killed myself too
So my gf and i just broke up. Some stupid fucking shit. It was kinda mutual but im still sad. Its most likely going to be a hiatus but still. I dont like being in a relationship and i dont like not being in a relationship. When im in a relationship i overthink everything and feel like everything between us is wrong. For no reason. When im not in a relationship im lonely and sad. Whats wrong with me?