Single Households on the Rise

Discussion in 'Sex, Love & Relationships' started by Jane_Bellamont, Dec 6, 2015.

  1. http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/politics/10863343/...


    Apparently, it's going to become more and more socially acceptable to be single in the years to come.
    The article above describes the phenomenon happening in Britain, but Japan seems to be currently leading the way.


    http://www.japantimes.co.jp/news/2013/01/20/nation...
    http://content.time.com/time/world/article/0,8599,...


    Kind of ironic to think that the first world, being as sexually liberated as it is, is experiencing this mysterious phenomenon. Whatever the causes may be, none of that is actually relevant.


    The real question is: Does this have to necessarily be a bad thing? Will our exponentially rising world population eventually come to a stand-still as a result of this, or is it just a temporary fluctuation in social dynamics?


    I personally think it'll be great to not have to deal with the peer-pressure to 'get laid' or start dating, as well as the shame and social stigma that normally comes with solitude. It would be nice to be able to sit down at Starbucks with a cup of coffee and just daydream while staring out the window.. just like you would do at a bar.. without having to feel guilty, or that something is wrong with you.


    ..Then again.. I do it all the time. I'm still alive and kicking. It genuinely feels good to be flipping the bird to our hyper-connected Facebook culture.. because chances are, a lot of people who claim to be social butterflies with 1,564 internet friends are likely to be compensating for insecurities, as well as masking feelings of loneliness. I've witnessed it first hand, with my very own eyes.


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  2. True. Here in Canada its hard to buy a house right now with just a single income, unless your making 85k plus. Especially in Toronto. A lot of people my generation are kind of stuck in the nest until you find a partner or you can just rent which is still 1k+ a month.
     
  3. Articles like these try to spin the marriage strike brought on by the fact that western men are starting to pull their heads out of their asses. At least 50% of marriages end in divorce. Personally, I'd say 85-90% of the marriages of my friends who's weddings I attended in my 20's ended in divorce when we were all in our 30's. Of those divorces, a healthy 95% were due to the fact that the WIVES couldn't stay faithful. So the fucking media can try to spin it into whatever they want to, but it's still a marriage strike brought on by men.

     
  4. My sympathies go to both the men and women who are feeling alienated in this colorful digital world that we're currently living in.
     
  5. #5 Gonzopoly*, Dec 8, 2015
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    I think the reason for so many single households is because of the "sexual liberation" you were talking about. It destroys the fabric of a good, conservative society where men and women maintain platonic relationships before marriage, and where morals actually existed and ruled society as a whole. What's the point of getting married anymore? Things have just deviated in general from what they once were.


    Edit: But you see, in no way is this a good thing. Because now that single households are on the rise, it also more likely means single parent households are on the rise too. People are getting laid without any type of serious, binding commitment because society has become so much more lax about this type of thing. I have noticed young girls not much older than me, with 1 year old baby's, 2 year old baby's and the kid just doesn't seem to have a real father figure in their life because the dad is who knows where doing who knows what. But it's not their fault, I imagine the girls are equally as guilty
     
  6. I'm not a fan of conservative society, but I don't actually disagree with what you're saying. My parents split when I was 10, and I was raised pretty much single-handedly by my mother during my teenage years. Hence, why I drink, smoke weed.. work minimum wage.. don't have a partner.. and don't have that many friends. //static.grscty.com//public/style_emoticons/default/biggrin.png Science has proven it.. divorce is bad for kids.. and you can't argue with science.. .. ..
     
  7. I'm a fan of conservative society....Even though I'm nothing like them. Gotta have that balance though.
     
  8. #8 stonerfriend, Dec 11, 2015
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    From the sounds of things, you are a millennial.....And this is one of the most logical, insightful things I've ever read from one. Perhaps there is hope for the world after all.

     
  9. The Japan issue is pretty interesting to me. When you read the percentages it becomes pretty clear both sexes are spiraling away from each other and it's almost as if romantic relationships give them no real pleasure. Especially men from what I have read. American friends (girls) who have visited have told me they have never felt so unattractive before because no one looks at one another like they do in the States. Very repressed emotionally but there's some freaky shit that goes down there porn/sex wise. It's weird.....the only reasoning I can come up with is because it's not a Christian country (There's no real notion of strict religious behavior) and Sigmund Freud psychoanalysis hasn't penetrated the country as much as others.



    I've personally always felt it was weird to get the State involved in a personal relationship that I have with someone but I'm sure the day will come I will either be pressured into it or will have a change of heart towards the idea of getting married (and want kids). I'm more comfortable being single than most people and in fact almost prefer it but that has a lot to do with where I am in life. I'm sure I will have a lot more interest in being in a committed romantic relationship with age. Coming from a divorced house-hold part of my really wants to eventually get married and be able to offer my kids what I wasn't (A 1 household type of situation) but no part of me wants kids anytime soon. haha.

     
  10. It is foolish and unscholarly to marry any woman as a man in the 21st century. The courts are a mess; any legal binding is going to arbitrarily be in favor of the woman, unless you can prove adultery and EVEN THEN you gotta be on your toes.


    I, for one, have no qualms about singles until there are children involved. I think we place far too much faith in parents to know what is good and what is not for their children and when i say that, keep in mind these children are eventually going to become contributing members of the same society you and I are apart of one day. We have a vested interest in ensuring these children, ours or not, are given fair raisings and instilled with quality characteristics.


    I believe if you truly want to be a single parent, you should be a single parent.. Without any government help, without any help from anyone else. If you can do that, you should be a single parent.. If you cannot manage without those things, i begin to question what type of lifestyle your child is living. I begin to see characteristics of reliance on outside forces being instilled in your child.. I begin to wonder if you've ever wondered if your child is picked on for not having a mom or dad? How is it affecting them? If the child does infact want a second parent, are you interested in entertaining that?


    I have absolutely zero issues with single parents. I cannot blame an alligator for opening its mouth, nor can i blame a single parent for living a life made accessible to them by the powers that be. I blame the powers that be. Powers that give funding to single parenting. Why would you ever encourage single parenting? It is so beyond me how somebody can truly believe that one person can perform that particular job better than two people and when thinking what is truly best for your child, maybe that is the best answer, but the focus should be finding somebody to fill that role, not throwing heaps of money at it in hopes of eliminating it all together and forgetting about the interest of the child in favor of whatever being a single parent accomplishes for the parent.


    I work with children and families quite a bit on a professional level.. That's just my opinion.
     
  11. #11 Oni~, Dec 14, 2015
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    Your facts and logic are microtriggering me!

    Good points made.


     
  12. This is purely anecdotal, but most of my friends ( my group of friends range 21-24) have children and their lives are probably completely miserable. Not one of them is still together with the other original parent, and their all stuck on a subsistence treadmill of subsidized housing, food stamps, and minimum wage jobs. They'll probably be stuck on that treadmill in some form or another for the rest of their lives, as they can't afford a college education or wouldn't value one if they could. I see this very often, and it's not a good thing.


    However, I would hardly call these people lazy as most of them work longer hours than I do. I also reject unequivocally that welfare somehow enables or encourages poverty.
     
  13. The grass is always greener on the other side, I guess.


    As much as I love to bitch about being on my own.. at least I ain't changing nappies, having screaming matches, throwing shoes, etc.

     
  14. Sexual liberation brings down nations, and the cycle repeats.


     
  15. #15 portfool2332, Dec 20, 2015
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    People tend to get lazy and comfortable. We're all so insecure and tend to get lost in someone as soon as we get a little bit of attention. A lot of people have this weird feeling that they will never get anyone else, this is it, that no one else will love them.


    The system is kind of fucked for girls. It would work a lot better if women didn't get their period till they were 30 and could have babies into their 70's. haha. That way they could do all the fucking they wanted to do and still be able to have a kid with a guy that they wouldn't end up divorcing. Most 20 year old women get with guys for the completely wrong reasons (How good the sex is and money).


    There's some sad stories out there. You really have to be crazy to not get a prenup if you are a wealthy male and intend on getting married.






     
  16. Who cares? Live life how you want to!


     

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