Okay so my ex girlfriend broke up with me last week and left me feeling shitty/suicidal/just fucking horrible. http://forum.grasscity.com/general/1096084-how-do-i-deal-broken-heart.html I ignored her since wednesday until this morning when i woke up to 3 missed calls from her so i got worried and text her. Which led to me getting angry about her not replying and then saying can we meet to tomorrow to talk. So that failed lol. What shall i say to her blades? I want to leave the conversation with all the control, so that she wants me back and not the other way round. How do i keep cool and not lose my shit and beg for her to stay with me. I guess a part of me tells me to stay with her and another part tells me to move on from that bitch. And every day the second part gets a little bigger. But i am in love with her so it's really hard. Would really appreciate some advice, thanks.
I feel ya there man. Just found out last night my girlfriend of 2 years (almost, our anniversary is comin up in about a month) fucked my best friend. When I confronted her she said she was more worried about being heartbroken and used by my best friend than she was by loosing me. It's like the she just turned her love for me off ( and she did love me, we had a good relationship ) and left me high and dry. Now she won't talk to me. Yet I'm so pathetic I can't let go, I don't want to lose her. I love her regardless of all this and just not having her in my life more is ripping my heart out. :/ I'm still sitting right here with my best friend...I don't know if I should hate him and beat his fucking face in or break down and cry. These were the only 2 people that mattered in my life, am I an idiot for trying to make it work with my girl or friend?
Say exactly that..... Good bye Don't call her or see her or text her. The sooner you do that the better off you'll be. It will suck at first but anything worth doing sucks at first
Well, if she won't talk to you about it, and your friend will... perhaps work on forgiving your friend, if he is a true friend to you. Forgiveness is not idiotic... it takes a strong person to be able to do it. If he sees how fucked up you are as a result and is indeed sympathetic... try to work on mending the wounds. Did he tell you they fucked, or did she? Chances are, if he told you, it's weighing on his soul something heavy, and he trusts you enough as a friend to forgive him or at least hear him out. Same could be said for your girl, but if she isn't talking to you about it... well...
Just move the fuck on man, you two were not meant to be. Ditch her and don't meet up, tell her you have other plans and stop talking to her!
I was worried that if i see her all the feelings will come back. So shall i actually do that? Just not show up? That will leave her wondering i guess haha.
Yeah man, it just takes a bit time to get over her but you'll feel better without her. The relationship will never be the same so it's best to move on and find someone better or just chill for a while and do your own thing. Also, don't try and make her miss you. IMO it might work but then you'll end up back with her because you want to be back together. So it's just best to go another route dude.
There is one girl that i'm really great friends with that's actually in love with me. But she never interfered with my relationship cos she really cares about me. I think she's fucking great as a friend but romantically i'm not sure whether i would like it. And there's a kinda annoying girl (she means well though) that's probably average looking thats been hitting on me a lil bit. And i've been stringing her along as an ego boost, which admittedly i shouldn't but, my ego loves it So i have options, at least.
Get her back for sex. That's all she's good for at this point. A relationship didn't work before, why would it work now? If there's conflict and stress then you weren't made for eachother.
[quote name='"iGotStoned"'] And there's a kinda annoying girl (she means well though) that's probably average looking thats been hitting on me a lil bit. And i've been stringing her along as an ego boost, which admittedly i shouldn't but, my ego loves it [/quote] Well I felt bad for you until I read this. That isn't right man
[quote name='"iGotStoned"']Who recommends me seeing her and who recommends me not showing up?[/quote] Dude most of us probably had an experience similar to yours and everyone's saying don't go back or move on. At this point take advice from the people who know the shit or learn for yourself. I think we just want to spare you the heartache before chasing this bitch. So don't show up.
She acts like this towards everyone, i'm not being harsh really. She gets around but i have stopped that today and won't carry on with it. I guess i've just been trying to tell myself to get over her by being with someone else. And i've been drunk every night.
[quote name='"iGotStoned"'] She acts like this towards everyone, i'm not being harsh really. She gets around but i have stopped that today and won't carry on with it. I guess i've just been trying to tell myself to get over her by being with someone else. And i've been drunk every night.[/quote] Forgetting one girl by banging another never works well. Don't string that girl along though that's what I was talking about. That's not right, idc if she flirts with everyone. If it were me I would blow your ex off and not answer her calls anymore. That's also a lot easier said then done though
Let them go fellas. Had a ex-GF that broke up with me then strung me along for two years, felt the same as you guys did at first, after two years of being fucked with I finally walked away, shit hurt worse after two years of torment thinking I was getting her back. When I finally said fuck it and walked away she wanted me back, but all the BS she put me through I could not go back. Found a lady that is just happy to be with me and never looked back, If I could go back and change things I would have saved my self alot of heart ache and just let her go when she wanted to.
I'm not sure you're "in love with her" like you said, how can you be sure? cos honestly it doesn't look like it, I wouldn't call a girl that I love "a bitch". but yea aynway, you sound like you want to move on, just move on. gets easier with time.
It sounds like your relationship has definite flaws, and that the only possibility of you two getting back together is because you're lonely or miss each other, as opposed to your having a good relationship. If this is so, do not get back together! Breaking up is the hardest part, and you're through that now. Returning to her will only delay the inevitable, as well as forcing you to endure yet another awful break up. Just move on.