I started working at a restaurant as a waitress recently. I've been trying to put myself out there lately, and I think one of the bartenders is really cute. There are a few couples at my job, but I'm a little hesitant to try anything because I don't want to blow up my spot at work. I've only worked with this guy a few times. It's hard to talk with him because we're both so busy. Everyone there is chill with each other, or at least is nice and helpful during work (you have to be at a restaurant because things get so hectic), so I also have trouble reading signals. And I really don't want to throw myself at this guy and then get rejected and have to work with him. Any advice? What are some things you would do if you were interested in a girl at work?
If I liked a girl at my job I'd definitely get the digits after about 3 weeks of knowing her, text occasionally then lead up to talkin on the phone then hangin out then makin a move, but if she doesn't seem interested then I wouldn't talk to her only if I needed too
id never have a relationship with a coworker, but thats mainly because i treat my girlfriends like shit and i try to keep that shit under wraps.. i mean, im no scumbag ya know?
been there. depending on the work environment, even if it doesnt work out it doesnt get too awkward as long as you keep cool. once i even drunkenly texted a coworker saying that i wanted to fuck him and it still wasnt awkward the next day working with him lol. it happened to me the other way around a couple times where one of my coworkers was trying to hook up. even then it wasnt weird because i simply didnt let it get weird. so dont be too nervous about that aspect. still, i wouldnt recommend my approach of getting too drunk and letting things slip right after you first meet lol
I'm in a similar situation. I bus on the weekends at a restaurant/bar, and a hostess started a couple months ago. She's gorgeous. I asked her out on a simple date on her 3rd or 4th week and she said yes, but we didn't get to go until the next weekend. Asked her out to a couple casual things after that and she politely declined with reasonable excuses; I figured she wasn't interested. No sweat, plenty of fish in the sea. But Wednesday night she invited me to the bar and offered to pay for my first beer to persuade me (I assume ). We had fun and established that we're interested in each other, but are gonna take it slowly. I have a brunch date with her tomorrow But anyway I figure it's best to just keep the relationship out of the workplace. Work at work, do your thing outside of it. Don't turn it into a topic of conversation between your coworkers. If it doesn't work out, then that's how it becomes awkward and others may feel pressured to take sides, with a general backlash to everyone. And if it doesn't work out, just be an adult. Don't hold it against him, forgive (but never forget ), and move on. I also dated a chick at my main job for a few months. I used that mentality and it worked just fine. Then again, it's a large environment and we ended on okay terms and are still good with each other. I say shoot for the sky, good luck, and be mindful of what you do. Let us know how it goes!
My advice is to go for it! Ask for his number or something. When I worked at a restaurant whenever I was interested in a girl I would help her close up/etc so that we'd be getting off work at the same time and end up hanging out afterwards.
So I worked with him the other night anddd...I don't think he's interested. Just the vibe I picked up when I made more of an effort to talk with him. I could be reading it all wrong, he's pretty quiet and laid back (my type) in general. Unless he makes an effort to talk with me more though, I've sort of let it go for now. I'll let you know if anything does actually happens.
