Relationship And Smoking

Discussion in 'Sex, Love & Relationships' started by the4.0stonerkid, Jun 30, 2014.

  1. Hey guys so I know I might sound like I'm talking to Dr Phil but please just hear me out. Anyways. I met this amazing girl last year, my senior year. We both love each other alot and we just really understand each other. Anyways, were both leaving for college so it's been really tough. We both like each other a lot but feel like breaking up is would be only for the best. Anyways, this has all led me to just smoke more because I feel like shes gone and it was kind of a lame way for us to breakup because we both love each other but we had to break up for the better. Now wwhenever I smoke I just feel shity and down and then when I'm sober it gets worse. Has anyone experienced anything like this and how did you cope with it?

    Thanks in advance guys,
    Blaba125
     
  2. You're depressed.

    Find a hobby to occupy your mind in your free time.

    The world doesn't revolve around her and you'll be fine while you two are away. Enjoy the time you have, don't sit around all day smoking weed and hanging you head, you'll miss out on a lot in life.
     
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    tough love time!
     
     
    jeeez...kids are so programmed against pot with all the propaganda out there, they blame it for everything...op has a new one, it is depressing him, despite his gf dumping him so she could date guys in college...
     
    op needs to get rid of his little boy shorts, put on the adult pants and face it...she LIKED him, never loved him...and she wants to date other guys in college. Do the grief thing, cry if it helps, face it head on, and it will be over much sooner that way and you can find someone that does love you as you love them... :bongin:
     
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    Sorry to say OP, but what cball is telling you is true. If she really loved you she wouldn't have asked for the two of you to break up. Hell I mean, I'm currently in a long-distance relationship - and by long distance I mean 2000 miles away long distance - and we've been doing this for over a year now, while I've been at college and there's certainly been no perplexing reason why I need to dump her because we're so far away or because I'm in college for that matter. 
     
    Hopefully with a better understanding of this you'll know that it wasn't meant to be, therefore allowing for you to move on faster. Just enjoy the herb, don't make it a vice; don't make it something you need but something you want to have every now and again.  :smoke:
     
  5. Thanks man
     
  6. Thank you for the reply! I appreciate it man 
     
  7. Speaking as someone who's been through the wringer as of late, I can say that it's all about finding things to do that make you think so you're too busy to let your brain fall back into its pattern of always returning to her. Whether it be academics (I see your username...), a sport, video games, porn, Netflix, growing, toking, acting or whatever, you just have to do something. 
    Before you do something though, I really encourage you to confront exactly what you're feeling and what about the situation makes you feel like that... The problem is deeper than just breaking up to avoid the distance and you know it, otherwise you wouldn't have broken up. So if you know that reason then you're in your prime move-on moment. Go out and explore your city. 
     
    I myself have problems associating with reality, meaning that I never feel like I'm in the moment. I don't really feel much of anything except frustration, but I've found it really helps to toke and watch a movie to get my mind churning and burning. If I can offer you one piece of advice as someone who's heart(and mind)broken, I'd tell you to go to school (college) and find some people you can stand and spend time with them, immersing yourself in a life and not just time awake.
     
  8. #8 enjoyandlive, Jul 3, 2014
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    use it to cope youll get better just don't get addicted
     
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    Even to put what I initially wrote in simpler terms; everything happens for a reason. It just wasn't meant to be and it's not worth wasting time worrying about. 
     
  10. you're down man, same thing happened to me when my grandpa died. my advice would be not to smoke until you feel less down bcause if you feel like shit it will just get amplified. go hang out with friend, find a hobby, do something other than smoke until youre feeling better
     
  11. This is fucking hilarious. First off, you're 17-18 you you don't know what love is. Second off, that other dudes right, she wouldn't have broken up with you. And third, you weren't even dating more than a year, lol. Like fuk dat bitch. Go smoke joints, hook up with other girls and move on brotha. Most guys go through 10 girls before he's married. And that's actually and accurate statistic
     
  12. #12 Ghetto_Stoner, Jul 4, 2014
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    You piece of shit, he is obviously going through a hard time, comes to us for help and your such a dick that you say his pain is "hilarious"
    You have no idea what he is feeling and your probably just saying this because your high school sweet heart broke your heart so now you have to tell him his was worth nothing. Go fuck yourself. End of rant.
     
    Dude you just need to occupy your mind with other things don't go fishing or stuff like that, things like that give you to much time to think, same with weed if you smoke its the only thing your going to think about. We have all been through this before man i'm currently dealing with a situation similar. If you need to talk pm me bro :)
     
  13. Go to college. Never look back. Profit

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  14. #14 BakedSnarf, Jul 5, 2014
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    While I and a few previous posters before me may have been right in saying that had she loved OP she wouldn't have insisted on breaking up with him, it is completely ignorant and prejudice of you to think that you have any idea what love is; the whole thing is subjective and differs from person to person and last I checked you don't know OP. 
     
    I'm a mere 20 years old and know many people, myself included who know just from 5+ relationships - both big and small - that the people we're with now are people we're most likely going to be married to in the future. Everyone gets to these points in there lives at different times, there isn't one time in which everyone is supposed to be married or be in a relationship. 
     
  15. I take my advise on marijuana from South Park. Weed makes being bored ok, and when your ok with being bored your ok with life just passing you by. The problem is that when most people start smoking pot their life isn't where it should be.
     
    Get a job get in school get some bitches get some money, don't let weed run your life. Thats why I grow.. so I'm not on the hunt for a sac so I'm throwing my cash away etc.
     
    I love weed, I smoke weed every day.. but i also enjoy coffee every day.. bowel movements etc. I don't ruin my life for coffee.. maybe for a good poo.. but not coffee and weed.
     
  16. Start going to the gym, get fit, gain confidence, fuck a different girl every night. Win.
     
  17. actually I'm still dating the same girl since sophomore year of highschool. Nice try though
     
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    Hypocrite much?
     
  19. i stopped reading your post when you said you're just 20.



    Also, you guys sound really butthurt and I'm not too sure if you're trying to make me feel bad or anything because it's not working. Also, love is subjective. But I didn't say I knew what it was. I just said the op doesn't because he's so damn young. That doesn't make me ignorant or prejudice. I mean prejudice isn't even the right word to use in this situation. Which just shows me that you used big words that you don't know the definition of in order to sound smarter. Aka you're pretentious. Finish up college, get a full time job, buy a house, start a family, then talk to me.
     
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    Lol stop, you're killing me here. You're by far one of the most ignorant people on this forum. You go on to say that people who are deemed "too young" by you don't know what love is, yet you can say that you knew when you got with your girlfriend in your sophomore year of high school?
     
    The definition of prejudice is as followed: preconceived opinion that is not based on reason or actual experience. I stand strong to what I wrote, the use of the word prejudice is used in the correct context, explaining that you went into this argument thinking you knew, on a subjective level what OP thought of as love, thereby leaving you to think you were knowledgeable enough to comment on the topic. 
     
    "Aka" your point is moot and your experiences and age don't justify you in being better than everyone else. 
     

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