Has anyone ever not been able to cum during sex, my boyfriend and I will have sex for almost an hour and he wont cum, after we have sex, then pre cum will start to cum out. I'm wondering if this is normal or not? It's starting to frustrate him. Thanks for anyone who pitches in their thoughts.
[quote name='"Jaime2400"']Has anyone ever not been able to cum during sex, my boyfriend and I will have sex for almost an hour and he wont cum, after we have sex, then pre cum will start to cum out. I'm wondering if this is normal or not? It's starting to frustrate him. Thanks for anyone who pitches in their thoughts.[/quote] It's one thing to last a long time but nothing at all! tell him to see a doctor, and I feel for him
It's all mental. Being able to last long or being able to cum. Many girls have a hard time allowing themselves to cum with their boyfriend due to insecurities or whatever, but have no problem normally being able to (masturbation). That means she is stopping her brain from letting her orgasm. Your man is doing the same thing. Unless he always has problem cumming, which I was assuming isn't the issue. Doctor won't help for shit for something like this, if it's something he can't figure out on his own, a therapist couldn't hurt. But the ability to orgasm is all mental, just gotta learn how to flip the switch (or to keep the switch off if you have problems lasting in bed).
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this just about sums it up try to keep things calm and not focus on the issue i have the same exact problem, saw a doctor, and he said it was just nerves what i do now, is clear my mind before having sex, and while in the process, not think about myself, but pleasuring my girl, not long after that, im erupting like mount Vesuvius
Ive actually had this problem too. I get very close then all of a sudden the most random thoughts pop into my head and I get distracted. I'm usually high when I have sex so I think it has something to do with it. But I'm over it, and all he needs to do is relax and don't think about it. Also my girl tends to talk more sexually if she can tell in distracted, and that puts my mind completely on her
Hes probably masturbating when youre not around, then cant cum again. Happens to lots of dudes. Or you could be having too much sex. Put some porn on while youre messing around and see if it changes. If not, probably the first reason.
This. Quick, simple and to the point. Midnittoke is on fire this afternoon apparently. Good luck, OP. May you hopefully be showered with many loads in the near future.
You guys are doing it wrong? Literally... You're just starting off or what? Figure out what you both like, either by yourself or together, and do it. I think you both may be ten steps ahead of the game with sex...
tell him to stop beatin his meat. is he on any sort of medication? at least for me, with my recent prescriptions to some anti-depressants, it's increased my ejaculation time. not anything to that extreme though. i'd also ask him if he's feeling anything down there? as in pleasure, he's obviously getting an erection (i'd hope) so you would think he has at least some sensation down yonder.
[quote name='"illadelphin"']tell him to stop beatin his meat. is he on any sort of medication? at least for me, with my recent prescriptions to some anti-depressants, it's increased my ejaculation time. not anything to that extreme though. i'd also ask him if he's feeling anything down there? as in pleasure, he's obviously getting an erection (i'd hope) so you would think he has at least some sensation down yonder.[/quote] He does beat his meat a lot. Lol and he has ADHD but doesn't take his adderall. Maybe the ADHD could be a factor? I'll have to ask him if hes feeling pleasure, I'm pretty sure he does. thanks
[quote name='"OneLove."']You guys are doing it wrong? Literally... You're just starting off or what? Figure out what you both like, either by yourself or together, and do it. I think you both may be ten steps ahead of the game with sex...[/quote] Well he was a virgin up until this point, I wasnt though. What do you mean by ten steps ahead of the game with sex?
oh MOST DEFINITELY when i take my ADD meds it definitely makes sensation a lot less tangible. i'd definitely recommend him either taking it daily, or not taking it at all. he should really talk to his Dr about that.