Pot over...... Girls?

that's an age old question that everybody deals with in their own way.

Most people would argue that people are always more important than any object in the world.

Personally i think this is true, but only if you meet somebody that makes you feel so good you don't really need weed.

If they don't, it's really not a big deal imo. You just love them both alot.

People are strange about drugs cuz of social stigma and also cuz marijuana, like anything in the world, can become an obsession if it's taken too far.

You can't be in a relationship and be smoking bowls every hour on the hour n'shit like that. But if you're smoking when there's nothing to do, then it's okay to do on occassion.

Personally I just cut back when I'm in a relationship.

Not for the girl (who is usually chill about it in my experience), but mainly cuz I'm so busy when I'm in a relationship, there's no time for weed.

Cutting back should be enough for most people (weekends only kind of shit). But quitting altogether is a personal choice, and should be done for personal reasons.

If monogomous love exists (and I think it exists just as much as polygamous love exists), then it may be worth it to quit, but that's the only situation I would quit other than the personal reasons situation.

 

Yes...i was going to say exactly that.

This is an age old question, I'm in the same boat actually.... I honestly do love this girl, but me smoking is too much for her to handle. She says if I love her I would stop. I say if she loved me she wouldn't care.

It's a double-edged sword and some grow to accept it and others don't.... cutting back would probably do it, but that doesn't suffice in my situation. It's up to you bro....but if you're going to sacrifice who you are for somebody, make sure they're the 1.

 

It's a Venus and Mars thing... you could say that if she realy loved you she would accept you for what you are - a smoker...
You could say that if you realy loved her you would put her feelings before your bad habit.....

Who's to sy who is right - well, it's always the femail we know that! If a bloke argues his point he is a bully - if a girl argues her point she is standing up for herself!

Ho hum, my feeling is that she is just anti dope and nothing to do with which you like most..... You could call her bluff - only smoke when you'r not seeing her - if you can?

I'm lucky, my girl smokes as much as I do - the only person I ever met who could keep up with me. I have watched her smoke SO many of my friends into the ground!!!! He He


Cheers

 

If you really loved her, you'd stop. It really is that easy.

True love,as others have said, is worth sacrifices.

 

I'm probably much older than most. I have had my share of women and was married for 20 years. Some women, no matter what they say, will take you as an unfinished product. Everything is great when you are first dating but their goal is to mold you intow what they want. It could be going out with your friends, golf, sports, smoking, etc. They think they can change you into something else. Excess of anything is bad but the goal is to keep a balance between what you truely enjoy and maybe change a little for the right person. You cant change drastically, because trust me... years down the road you will regret it and think about the old times and miss it and maybe revert back.

 

I highlighted the important bit

If your partner tries to change you fundamentally, you are with the wrong person; males do this also. There's a big difference between making sacrifices and flexibility and out-and-out controlling behaviour.

 

Oh i agree... also with the right woman... maybe happens once or twice at most in a lifetime your life changes without your even noticing. Your interests change etc. I just remember from personal experience and observations with my friends.. sometimes when you first start dating, everything is ok... then subtle changes happen. Anyway, i personally fought for my one night out a week with my friends and golf with my buddies once a week. She wasnt thrilled but we comprimised.

 

I suppose the best resolution to this dilemma would be a perfect equilibrium between the two.

 

dont put Marijuana over ANYTHING in life. Even if its a fried chicken sandwich, if marijuana is effecting it negitivly, then stop smoking.

Dont go around life baked, go through life blasted.

 

well, not sure but i think i would put it over a fried chicken sandwich given a choice.

 

Word.

 

I put it over a piza once and that was very nice.....

 

Greate thread. Putting up some deserved stars.

 

please allow me to speak from very recent personal experience, regarding a situation almost exact to this one. . .
DO NOT FUCKING DO IT!!! it's gonna be tight for a short while but trust me if they really liked you they wouldnt ask you to change, please trust on this one bro, although see for yourself if you dont believe me. Your gonna do what you think you should no matter what people say one here (just like i did) and i wish you the best of luck, either way you'll get a gnarly tolerance break out of it.

 

just buy like an 8 dollar plastic pipe and a lil bit of weed say its your stash and toss it in front of her.

then take her home and smoke a bowl

 

if the situation was reversed, you would be "controling" (one l or two?), if you want to quit, then do it, but just as she would get pissed if you were trying to change her, don't do it just because she wants you to. Theres plenty of girls out there who will love you for who you are.

 

im glad my girlfriend smokes pot with me.... it makes things alot easier hahaha...

i agree with phish_head tho, theirs Plenty of fish in the sea... hahaha

"i wouldn't quit tokin up for a girl" personally... lol i'd find a girl i can toke up with...
just like i did...

 

I feel the same.

 

Your a tough situation man... And all i can truly say is the choice is yours...

If you want to quit and are ready to quit for this female then go ahead... Noone should expect another person to change there ways. It isnt fair and it isnt right. Granted if you had been with this girl before you started smoking and she now would like you too quit then thats a different story. But if youve been smoking before she came into your life than its just downright selfish on her behalf.

If this girl is worth it too you then by all means go with the girl... women will come and go in your life, until u find that "perfect" one.

Me, i was blessed with my girlfriend (3yrs strong) she doesnt smoke... and does not like it when i smoke. However, she understands that it was something that i was doing waaaaaay before she came into my life. And as a result, does not "love" me any less because of it. Because she treats me this way one day it will make it easier for me too quit (if i so choose too) because i know she is not forcing or asking me too.

You just gotta go with what your heart says...

wow.. after everything ive said the last part is probably the most meaningful lol.

I hope this is atleast somewhat helpful... and good luck with whatever you choose... if you choose the gurl i wish u the best and true happiness... iF you stick with the herb then just know that (as stated numerous times on other posts) there ARE plenty of other fish in the sea.