possibly too much of a catch?

Discussion in 'Sex, Love & Relationships' started by SqueezetheGrape, Jan 11, 2013.

  1. Title sounds weird, but let me explain. im not that big headed lol. but I finally got the balls to get out and meet some women. and i started talking to this girl about a week ago. ive dated more attractive girls, but shes still cute none the less. and she seems cool.

    Well when we first started hanging out she liked me a lot. and then it hit me. im too nice. not too nice in a pushover friend zone kind of way. but too nice as in i treat the girls i start dating too well.

    This sounds crazy. but when hanging out with this girl i kind of realized that im not interested in a serious commitment. more of a friends with benefits type of thing. i kind of wanted to hint this to her, but she seemed to like me so much, then she started going off about how shes so glad im such a good guy and didnt try to push anything the first time we chilled. she also was saying how she has dated nothing but douche bags who try to just use her for sex.

    and the thing is...i am a good guy. and even though i see nothing wrong with casually dating and fucking someone, i dont wanna do that if her intentions are completely different.

    so i had to tell her i just wasnt ready for a serious relationship and we should just be friends. She was crying but i said i couldnt lead her on.

    so i feel like i cant date at this point in my life. i have too much going on to really commit and im still young. but my respectful and friendly nature makes girls who are interested in me see me as boyfriend material. i cant help that im a good guy who treats women right. i cant seem to make my intentions clear that i just want something casual.
     
  2. I guess they don't see you as the type to have something casual with? Aka too much of a catch eh
     

  3. yeah man. its like i want one thing, but my nature attracts another. thats why i just feel better off single
     
  4. loool well if all else fails,try a dating site an put stricly casual or some shit..
    itll be much easier
    maybe u can join that one website,I think its called fuckbook or something =\
     

  5. i thought fuck book was some sort of porn site

    besides why would quality girls need to online date. they literally just have to step out in public for a few hours and plenty of guys will be trying to hit on them.
     
  6. Sometimes you get tired of dating random guys and it going nowhere so you think maybe you'll try online dating for a change but then you realize that all the same guys IRL are online. Then you are forever alone.
     

  7. most younger women are looking to have more fun than they are commitment. thats easy to find. i seem to just attract the ones interested in commitment.
     
  8. well if you are an awesome guy no matter what a girls intentions are (i.e something casual) going in she's going to want to make it exclusive since you fit the bill of that type of guy she dreams of.
     
  9. You sound like an awesome guy.

    But don't worry about being too awesome of a guy to get what you want. Don't dimimish your awesomeness.

    Instead, just tell the girls your interested in pursuing a friends with benefits type relationship what you're looking for earlier. Make your intentions clear well before the relationship begins or gets sexual.

    People who are nice to her and seem to really like her until they sleep together, then say "I only want this to be physical" or "gotta go, bye" are the ones who she's really complaining about. You don't have to be that guy, though. The ones who let her know before they get to the sex that they're only looking to play around give her the chance to make the decision on her own. They also give her the chance to play around and have some fun.

    Be sure to let her know you're not looking to be someones boyfriend before she starts thinking of you as boyfriend material and imagining you together.

    And when you have a fwb, treat her as a friend, not like she's your girlfriend.
     
  10. OP's nuts are already in her purse, your fucked now son!
     

  11. Are you trying to play off the fact that you knew the name of the website? :D
     
  12. u know me all to well.. :eek:
     
  13. she cried?
     
  14. Start treating them dirt. Talk to them very sexually when you first meet them and then after a good convo just ignore them.

    Then learn how to pop a boner real quick, come up behind her, and rub it on her.
     
  15. Maybe fuck them under the pretense they want then flip the script? Then you won't be mr nice guy.
     
  16. did you at least fuck her?
     

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