7+ years of daily masturbation and with no sex drive and apparent ED symptoms today I finally just said enough is enough! Fucking downloaded k9 security, set the stuff i wanted to block and just put in a random password I don't fucking remember! Sorry for the language but man this is something i've been wanting to do for ages. Addiction isn't a joke.
Good for you. It may be hard for awhile but you can beat your addiction. It's pretty sad the amount of people addicted to porn....it ruins alot of relationships.
if you get the urge, close ur eyes for five deep breaths. it will take ur mind off whatever is tempting you. Best of luck man
Good choice. Look up the porn video on TED talks if you need motivation. That ED shit isn't a joke it's a very real problem in the future because of porn. Tell me how you feel in two weeks. I stopped years ago, it's sort of crazy how different things get.
First off, thanks for sharing. Now a little back story: I had my first encounter with porn when I was 12 years old, a little lesbian porn in the back of my 5th grade english class back when macbooks were called iBooks and came in different colors. Since then I have consumed porn for my own pleasure. I have noticed in the past year and a half or so (which also matches when I got my laptop i.e. ability to privately browse in my room w/o being sneaky lol) that my consumption of porn has become an every-day event. I always tend to do it at the same time too, before sleeping. This time period also matches when I began to smoke weed--this will become and important point in a sec. Now I've also realized that I have a dramatically reduced sex-drive, I'm pretty handsome and I have all the attributes to theoretically get a ton of girls but for some reason I just don't do it. I don't approach as much as I should. I don't flirt that much. I don't crave sex like other guys around me appear to do (i.e. guys that go out drinking for the sole purpose of finding someone to 'hook up with', you know the type). Now back to the time periods that overlap: the daily viewing of porn, the smoking of weed everyday and my self-observed lessened sex drive. Throughout all this time I thought that my lessened sex drive was the cause of the 'passiveness' that weed brings upon, but now I'm beginning to think that these changed behaviors are actually the result of a porn addiction. Conclusion: The OP caused me to do a bit more research on the topic and what I found were studies that claimed that porn. I also watched [ame=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c_RIm9ZMN1I]The Great Porn Experiment Gary Wilson at TEDxGlasgow HD (Mirrored) - YouTube[/ame], an excellent TED talk on the topic, I recommend it if you feel like you're in a similar boat as me but would also recommend it for educational purposes. Here's what I found: Porn addiction essentially seems to cause the following symptoms: ADHD: This matches, I even talked to my parents about getting me an adderall perscription. The effect is mild and I'm over it now, I also believe that while I might have a little trouble paying attention I certainly do not have 'true' ADHD as I have observed kids like that and I am different. Social Anxiety: Again, a slight match, I am still far more social that a true 'shy' person. I was class president and I have no problem making speeches or having my voice be heard etc. But at the same time I feel that I am more reluctant than I should be to enter/create a social situation. Also this seems to be a symptom that matches weed (becoming a bit introverted and 'to yourself'). Depression: Again, not a truly depressed person but I attribute my 'sad' days/nights/hours to weed amplifying such negative feelings (just like it amplifies positive feelings like happiness and enjoyment). And the list goes on, basically I feel that I exhibit bits of these symptoms but am not actually a sufferer of them. This kind of matches because my porn addiction is relatively new (the OP mentioned 7 years, more than four times the duration of my own!). I personally don't have ED but it seems to make sense that different people should have different sets of symptoms from similar causes. So now I am curious, perhaps negatives that I have been experiencing and blaming on my weed addiction (im not addicted but I do do it every day in some quantity or another) are actually the cause of a completely different addtiction. I think I may try to take a month or two off of porn just to see what effects it will have on me, my hypothesis is that my behaviours will change in a positive way based on what I know/feel and have researched. TL;DR: Thanks for bringing this up OP, you prompted me to do research on porn and examine my own porn addiction. Watch the video I linked as it is very illuminating (and interesting!). I am planning on taking a month or two off of porn (I will still masturbate) to see if it has positive effects on me. If anyone else feels similar to us, lets get a little dialogue going here, I'm very curious.
First off, thanks for sharing. Now a little back story: I had my first encounter with porn when I was 12 years old, a little lesbian porn in the back of my 5th grade english class back when macbooks were called iBooks and came in different colors. Since then I have consumed porn for my own pleasure. I have noticed in the past year and a half or so (which also matches when I got my laptop i.e. ability to privately browse in my room w/o being sneaky lol) that my consumption of porn has become an every-day event. I always tend to do it at the same time too, before sleeping. This time period also matches when I began to smoke weed--this will become and important point in a sec. Now I've also realized that I have a dramatically reduced sex-drive, I'm pretty handsome and I have all the attributes to theoretically get a ton of girls but for some reason I just don't do it. I don't approach as much as I should. I don't flirt that much. I don't crave sex like other guys around me appear to do (i.e. guys that go out drinking for the sole purpose of finding someone to 'hook up with', you know the type). Now back to the time periods that overlap: the daily viewing of porn, the smoking of weed everyday and my self-observed lessened sex drive. Throughout all this time I thought that my lessened sex drive was the cause of the 'passiveness' that weed brings upon, but now I'm beginning to think that these changed behaviors are actually the result of a porn addiction. Conclusion: The OP caused me to do a bit more research on the topic and what I found were studies that claimed that porn. I also watched [ame=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c_RIm9ZMN1I]The Great Porn Experiment Gary Wilson at TEDxGlasgow HD (Mirrored) - YouTube[/ame], an excellent TED talk on the topic, I recommend it if you feel like you're in a similar boat as me but would also recommend it for educational purposes. Here's what I found: Porn addiction essentially seems to cause the following symptoms: ADHD: This matches, I even talked to my parents about getting me an adderall perscription. The effect is mild and I'm over it now, I also believe that while I might have a little trouble paying attention I certainly do not have 'true' ADHD as I have observed kids like that and I am different. Social Anxiety: Again, a slight match, I am still far more social that a true 'shy' person. I was class president and I have no problem making speeches or having my voice be heard etc. But at the same time I feel that I am more reluctant than I should be to enter/create a social situation. Also this seems to be a symptom that matches weed (becoming a bit introverted and 'to yourself'). Depression: Again, not a truly depressed person but I attribute my 'sad' days/nights/hours to weed amplifying such negative feelings (just like it amplifies positive feelings like happiness and enjoyment). And the list goes on, basically I feel that I exhibit bits of these symptoms but am not actually a sufferer of them. This kind of matches because my porn addiction is relatively new (the OP mentioned 7 years, more than four times the duration of my own!). I personally don't have ED but it seems to make sense that different people should have different sets of symptoms from similar causes. So now I am curious, perhaps negatives that I have been experiencing and blaming on my weed addiction (im not addicted but I do do it every day in some quantity or another) are actually the cause of a completely different addtiction. I think I may try to take a month or two off of porn just to see what effects it will have on me, my hypothesis is that my behaviours will change in a positive way based on what I know/feel and have researched. TL;DR: Thanks for bringing this up OP, you prompted me to do research on porn and examine my own porn addiction. Watch the video I linked as it is very illuminating (and interesting!). I am planning on taking a month or two off of porn (I will still masturbate) to see if it has positive effects on me.
the other night a bunch of us were at the bar and a friend randomly goes "guys im hurtin, i beat my meat 6 times today" we were all like wtf??? next time he texts me, no matter what he says im just gonna reply with the link to this thread
This is like a certain philosophy coming to light lately it seems.. nothing beats real life besides real experience
so are you giving up porn? or masturbation in general? I masturbate to mental images more often than not.. not sure if porn is the proposed problem or masturbation as a whole
Both. I did jack off 3 days ago to some softcore stuff. But it's wasn't enjoyable at all. So I'm quitting everything now.
I tried to quit drugs and porn cold turkey at the same damn time. Now I still do both.... New Years resolutions <3