I have been reading about social anxiety and I see a lot in myself. I have trouble making friends with strangers, I usually rely on mutual friends to introduce me. I have a hard time talking to girls as well, only a couple gfs and I'm in college. Stopped whacking it a week ago, already feeling more confidence. Maybe placebo effect, but it works. I failed many times, was trying to quit for 2 weeks but after the first few days the hornyness dulls. Just showed me how addicted I was. The way I think of it is that primitive men who had sex a lot had enough food and stuff stored up and were trying to have kids so they just chilled out and got horny again a lot so they would have kids. Dudes who weren't getting ass had to be on top of their game so they could get a woman. Thus, our weird hormones that don't go well with modern life. Also has to do with dopamine. You get a huge rush at orgasm so the little things in life don't seem as good. Now that I'm getting used to normal dopamine levels, I just feel better in general. I wonder if my highs will be better too? Please don't judge, I might be wrong on some stuff. I don't think all people should stop wackin it cuz ur probably a happy, confident person already but I started jerking WAAAAYYYYY too early so I guess I'm extra fucked up in the head. 3rd grade at summer camp...
I'm outgoing and don't have problems And I rub one out basically everynight before I go to bed... I didn't really read all of this, I'm high, try breaking down your paragraphs.
I didn't realize it was a female posting this I can dig it but yeah, I jerk it at least once a day and I'm fine. Though if it helps you to stop, more power to you
Dopamine levels have an impact on your life that no one understands who doesn't have some sort of dysfunction regarding them. One of their effects in the brain is to smooth muscle movements, so if you have both low dopamine and a social issue, then you're both incredibly self conscious about things like hand twitches or facial ticks, and unable to do anything about them. Also, your high has a lot to do with Serotonin levels. Try taking some 5-HTP twenty minutes to half an hour before smoking... it's an over-the-counter supplement that's sold as a "mood stabilizer", and it's a Serotonin precursor, meaning your brain has more of the building blocks to make happy chemicals.
I feel better every day. Friday I didn't even get much sleep and my mood was good all day and I felt more at ease with friends and girls. I've heard that the benefits take longer so maybe I'll be a total stud in a couple weeks... lol jk. Some guys do claim to become studs, idk if I believe it but that would be cool obviously. I don't want sluts trying to get on my dick, that's happened lots before and I hate slutty chicks. I want a good girlfriend. Lol stoned dude rambling... c y'all later
It's definitely a cool idea, and we need good men like you to go out there on the front lines and study this shit. You're doing a public service dude, you're a braver man than I. I salute you
The public service has already been done: Was the Cowardly Lion Just Masturbating Too Much? | Psychology Today Philip Zimbardo: The demise of guys? | Your Brain On Porn Some guys just don't want to accept that their everyday/multiple times a day jerk off habit is detrimental.
oh god, I don't refute the study itself but a lot of that shit on yourbrainonporn.org is classic for some reason I really, really, really enjoy reading religious right-wing propaganda and I saw some stuff awhile back on there that bordered on propaganda check out the forum Teens Against Porn, some of these kids have their heads so far up their own asses I don't know how they can breathe EDIT: the Teens Against Porn forum is now renamed Br3aking Porn (I wish I was kidding) Here's a teaser- the first thread I read on the community was called "My husband is having an affair with pornography, what should I do?" well shit bitch, first step should be you have more sex with him
[quote name='"thewarden"'] oh god, I don't refute the study itself but a lot of that shit on yourbrainonporn.org is classic for some reason I really, really, really enjoy reading religious right-wing propaganda and I saw some stuff awhile back on there that bordered on propaganda check out the forum Teens Against Porn, some of these kids have their heads so far up their own asses I don't know how they can breathe EDIT: the Teens Against Porn forum is now renamed Br3aking Porn (I wish I was kidding) Here's a teaser- the first thread I read on the community was called "My husband is having an affair with pornography, what should I do?" well shit bitch, first step should be you have more sex with him[/quote] I don't support the Your Brain on Porn Site, that was just the first thing that came up when I searched for that particular Zimbardo video. He's a psychologist, not some crazy religious nutjob
The first link to psychology today was good. It seemed very reasonable and scientific. I can say I saw a lot of the effects he described in myself. In the last month before school started again, I was still at home and all my friends were back at college. I was a bit lonely, and, well, did a lot of what lonely people do. I had very low motivation to do anything that I usually like doing, and didn't work on my hobby/business much at all. I wanted to build a bigger furnace for my bronze, brass, and aluminum casting so I could use it to sell my creations. Also wanted to build a motorcycle, still working on that. Almost there with parts and stuff. Btw I'm stoned as shit right now, if I start rambling... idk. What was I just talking about? Oh ya... so the furnace never got done either. I had to pay my mom back for summer classes I took so I didn't have much funding for this stuff either. Ok, back on topic... so ya I was depressed and didn't do much the last month of my summer. Whacked off many times a day. I hope I get lots of the benefits the study talks about! I read some of the threads about it on bodybuilding forums, lots of haters. The psychology today study described me like a biography. I might make a YouTube series about this, documenting my experiences and results so other people can benefit from this information. Will be getting a better camera and tripod soon, I just use my android phone right now. Blah blah blah ramble.... lol I just smoked a fat j of abv, I smoked a vape driving around with some friends westerday and had like .7g of vaped bud. It was like 1/5 as potent but 4 people got high off it from the vape. I am less paranoid and its a really strong body high. Its good weed...
Well coincidentally I just came off of a 2 week break. Just like smoking its best to take break now and then I find it to be good for myself discipline because those two weeks were reasonably hard. The purpose of my break was in order to have a wet dream (haven't had one in ages). After i having told a hot dream girl who was coming on to me that we needed a condom or it was a no go, and needless to say waking up to clean sheats, I decided to end the break over some cannaoil instead. Back on topic: I don't think it made too much difference, although the attraction i felt towards girls was certainly increased during that time.
Well, you probably didn't start as early as me or as often as I did. So you never had an addiction, or as strong of one as I did. Or it might take longer for you to reset your brain to normal dopamine levels. Idk. I'm not saying everybody should stop, just that it is helping me, but it might not help some people.
Im definitely not going to stop, because i don't think it would be good to repress myself like that. But i do think its good to have some time spaces between fap sessions, feels a lot better that way. Also i don't think its right to say that im not addicted to masturbating, theres no way i could have gone much longer than those two weeks. I've just had a good amount of practice in retaining my self control enough to space it out. ^helps when you quit porn, but thats another story altogether.